What will happen to children aged 2.3-4? Children of this age will gradually identify with their own gender, and then begin to notice the physiological differences between boys and girls, and observe the different ways boys and girls use toilets. Right "Where am I from?" "This morning, why did mom and dad shut up in the room and refused to let me in?" I feel confused.
They even ask questions like "Why does his genitals look different from mine"; They began to like to play role-playing games, playing the roles of parents or doctors and patients. Most of their games are just watching, maybe touching again, but this will bring more sexual stimulation to children. Oh, yes, sometimes they have an imaginary boyfriend/girlfriend, but this is also a normal performance.
What should parents do: First of all, it is very necessary to answer all kinds of questions of preschool children honestly (please don't lie to children that they take the phone bill, thank you).
Because at this stage, if children can't get a real message, they will make up stories to explain the whole story out of thin air. Then, if the child asks him where he comes from, you can tell a true story in a metaphorical way.
For example, my father provides a sperm and my mother provides an egg. They met and joined together, and took root in a special place-a house called "uterus" in my mother's belly, from which you came out.
What will happen to children aged 3.5-8?
Children of this age begin to develop close friendship with the same sex; And began to redefine their relationship with their parents, all want to rely on their parents, and all want to grow up quickly. Boys will show that they are closer to their mothers, while girls are closer to their fathers.
In addition, they will be more curious about their bodies, and will gradually realize what kind of behaviors will stimulate them sexually, such as boys touching their penises and girls rubbing their vulva. Children even ask more direct and complicated questions, such as "What is sex?" . In addition, they may have a strong fascination with peers or adults of the opposite sex.
What should parents do:
In view of the behavior of children touching themselves (touching themselves), if the frequency becomes frequent, they will play with their sexual organs from time to time, or touch themselves for a long time and indulge in it, then parents should pay attention to this signal. Because it means that some other needs of children are not met, for example, TA needs some hugs, caresses or fights.
It should be noted that at this stage, it is best for parents of different sexes not to be naked in front of their children, or to let TA take a bath with other brothers and sisters. Only when parents know how to protect their privacy can children establish a sense of privacy protection.
After the age of 6, children will have the first sexual development period-sexual germination period. In order to avoid premature secretion of sex hormones in the body (commonly known as precocious puberty), it is necessary to do so.
What should parents do:
First of all, no matter how 0-2-year-old children touch their reproductive organs, they are learning to understand all parts of their bodies without any filthy thoughts. If parents forcibly block it, it will leave a taboo and shameful stereotype for children.
Secondly, teach children the correct names of all organs, the sooner the better. Parents can teach their children to know their organs, including sex organs, when they are dressing, taking a bath or looking in the mirror. Please don't shy away from telling TA what TA can see with real nouns. Wriggling will confuse the child.
The purpose of this is to prevent children from feeling ashamed or guilty about all parts of the body. At the same time, if the child is unfortunately violated, TA can more accurately describe to parents which parts have been touched.