First, avoid other people's children.
I believe that many people have such a childhood shadow when they were young, that is, no matter how well they do, their parents always use other people's children to deny themselves. Parents think this is to motivate their children, but they don't know that children will gradually lose confidence, become unmotivated and even unwilling to learn under their parents' denial. Therefore, parents should change their educational concept, don't always compare other people's children with their own children, see the bright spots in their children and educate them in an encouraging way.
Second, don't beat and scold children.
Educating children is really hard work, especially when children are disobedient, parents can't help but want to beat and scold them. At this time, parents must pay attention to the fact that often beating and scolding children will lead to the distortion of their personality, and when they grow up, they will use such violent means to deal with problems, or they will gradually feel inferior and unwilling to contact with people. It is not impossible to reprimand a child properly, but it should never be in public, because the child is also proud. If parents go on like this, children may give up on themselves.
Third, don't complain
Many parents often like to complain in front of their children, always showing that they work hard or pay too much for their children. The purpose of parents saying this is to make their children study better, but they don't know that these words are tantamount to moral kidnapping in the eyes of children. Children will gradually become impatient and unwilling to continue to communicate with their parents, so what parents should do is to communicate effectively, not simply complain. Especially in adolescence, don't talk too much nonsense and communicate as much as possible.