1, admit the fact-admit the rationality of adolescent love. From the way of "criticizing and beating is useless" to the way of admitting that "adolescent love also has many benefits": it will not only bring us a sense of value and happiness of "loving and being loved", but also verify some sensitive issues in our communication with the opposite sex. Such as: the attitudes and views of boys who associate with them towards women, and the attitudes towards sexual impulses in intimate relationships. So as to fill the blank of understanding the opposite sex in the past, correct the prejudice in some male-female communication modes described in online love literature, shorten the distance between love fantasy and fact, and let the daughter get emotional growth from it. You can also talk about your emotional experiences and setbacks in adolescence and re-establish with your daughter: father and daughter discuss the emotional friendship in adolescence. It is more dangerous for a daughter to hide her love from her parents than to fall in love will affect her academic performance. Because once Cupid's sword of love is shot, no one can stop it. If our daughter is chased by her parents, she will turn her open love into an underground activity, and then her daughter will be in danger and there is nothing we can do.
2. Empathy-let the daughter feel the love of her parents. The above methods are actually the love needs of parents when they empathize with their daughters, thus truly changing the parent-child relationship between themselves and their daughters. Then, in order to make her feel the love of her parents, her father can tell her emotionally: First, she is worried that love will make her academic performance decline; Second, every parent who has raised a daughter is worried about her love. Because, compared with boys, a girl will fall in love more deeply and spend more time on acacia, fantasy and aftertaste of beautiful feelings; The second is to worry that couples in love will be accompanied by some intimate actions. Before his daughter fell in love, his father didn't educate and train his daughter to "exercise sexual autonomy", fearing that her daughter might encounter dating violence under the impact of "love craze".
3. Establish rules-tell family rules and let children establish rules. Knowing that junior high school children have adolescent love, we might as well tell them that love will affect their academic performance. Parents can seriously tell their daughters that they are worried about the influence of love on their daughter's promotion to high school, even the future college entrance examination, and the future social impact. The way to talk is to discuss with your daughter, for example, let her talk about what measures can reduce the delay in study time due to "dating", mobile phone chat or other means. Respecting children and trusting them to abide by established rules does not mean that we can give up the basic cultural requirements of family love for children. Therefore, we can clearly put forward the requirements of parents for their daughters' love: they can only study with boys in classrooms and school libraries; Can't go to boys' homes and secret spaces in private; Can't imitate adults to open a house; When do you want to go home after school and you can't stay outside? Tell parents where to go and who to date; You can't drink alcohol on a date, and you can't promise each other's "love" against your will. After that, you can also let your daughter know her current social status: a student. As a student, you can let your daughter evaluate whether she has the ability to gain the power to promote academic progress from "love"; Let each other's study progress through love, so that they won't meet the opposition of boys, parents, teachers and so on. Let the daughters come up with practical solutions that don't affect each other's learning.