1. Often violence against children, but also complain that children have a bad temper.
In life, we can often see some parents complain that their children have a bad temper and are too impatient, but they never reflect on whether they often use violence in the process of educating their children. Children are a mirror of parents. They are like their parents, and their temper is greatly influenced by their parents.
2. Never care about children's study, and often accuse children of not studying hard.
The reason why many children are particularly rebellious in adolescence is that parents don't care enough about their children. Some parents not only don't care about their children's study, but also accuse their children of not studying hard when they don't do well in the exam. This unbalanced way of education will make children more disgusted with learning, and sometimes it will worsen the parent-child relationship between them.
3. Often forcibly control children's lives, and complain that children have no ideas of their own.
Some of our parents have strong personalities and like to listen to everything by themselves, so does family education. In the early days of family education, children are always used to listening to their own opinions and are not allowed to have opinions contrary to their own. Over time, the child's personality will become particularly timid, opinionated and completely independent.
In the final analysis, the root cause of the failure of family education is that both parents have not done their best in the enlightenment and development of their children. The reasons are stated as follows:
1. Undoubtedly, there are many factors that affect family education, but to trace back to the source and make the problem unique, we must be delicate and have the spirit to dare to deny other factors! Often, when we say "a willing son can teach", it seems that the object of education determines the success or failure of education. In fact, this statement emphasizes the child's talent and pays attention to uniqueness. I don't agree to this condition. Einstein said: "Genius is 99% sweat, plus 1% talent." As far as educational practice is concerned, excellent children are diligent and earnest students, so I don't think the intelligence level of students is the root of the failure of family education.
2. To be exact, family economic conditions have certain influence on children's education. It is not difficult to understand that students with good family living conditions are likely to get good grades. With the economic backing, children's intellectual development is early, high-quality education conditions are easy to obtain, and they are better than poor students in terms of information acquisition and financial support for amateur training. However, this only provides a possibility, not a decisive condition. There are also examples of pampered people who never enter the learning state, and many people end up doing nothing, doing nothing! Therefore, family economic conditions are not the root cause!
3, the educational environment, it is undeniable that the school education will affect family education! A good school helps students to become talents. This is universal: the hardware equipment is there, the teachers are there, and the ways and resources to obtain advanced teaching methods are there. As long as we know the truth that heaven rewards diligence, the improvement of students' grades is almost a matter of course. However, according to the comprehensive data, some of them have achieved good results in such schools and are short-lived, and the later higher education has become unknown! Therefore, the influence of school education on family education is not unique!
4. Here, let's study what a successful talent is! Personally, I think: law-abiding, willing to contribute, and positive energy. Learning ability keeps pace with the times and can analyze and solve problems independently. Physical and mental health, "three views" correct. Therefore, success in a broad sense cannot be limited to achievements, and all-round development of morality, intelligence and physique is the basis of success. It is narrow to measure success only by students' grades, which involves all aspects of school education, social practice and family education. It is not easy to exclude them one by one. A good learning-oriented social environment, harmonious family relations and a benign educational atmosphere are conducive to children's success. I just don't think it matters.
5. I like to pass it on from generation to generation, which is a metaphor for the behavior that our beautiful personality and technology are passed on to future generations. Words and deeds mean that parents' gestures, smiles, ethics and living habits are all very important to children. "Pro-Zhu Zhechi is black, pro-ink is black" is the truth. Education in the enlightenment stage is almost a habit formed in the process of "moistening things quietly", which exerts a subtle influence on children! The common people's favorite saying is "like father, like son", which also shows from the side that parents' own behavior is very important for children's education. Although the phenomenon of "the dragon begets the dragon, and the phoenix begets the phoenix" is quite common and extreme, there is indeed a common situation that "Lao Zi is a hero and Lao Zi is Xiong Haizi" in real life! Therefore, the educational failure of both parents in the children's enlightenment stage is the main reason for the failure of family education!
In other words, the root of the failure of family education is that parents did not let their children form good habits in the initial education period.