Think carefully about what message parents want praise to convey. Usually praise is to encourage more good behavior, so praise should also be analyzed in detail: "You have been helping your mother move things, which is very hard!" " ""put on your shoes yourself! " "You have been seriously painting this picture all morning! Instead of saying, "You're doing great!" "You are great! "

2. Emphasize the praise for hard work

The most effective praise focuses on the process of things and the efforts made for them, not just the results. Praising the results is of little value. Effective praise will encourage the baby to move forward. He can learn to motivate himself instead of doing anything for your affirmation. Such praise is a real encouragement to the baby, such as: "Wow! You built the house so high! You can put so many building blocks so neatly! "

3. Compliments that begin with "you"

This can help the baby to look at himself and be proud of his achievements. For babies, a sense of accomplishment and pride can make them work hard and succeed.

4. Emphasize the praise of the effect

If the baby helps others, the focus of praise can be on the effect of those things, such as "You gave Guoguo the truck to play with. Look, he looks very happy."

Step 5 look forward to praise

"Come to my side as soon as I call you, which can save me a lot of time." So, the baby was embarrassed to hear you scream and didn't respond.

6. Don't add praise of subjective judgment.

"You sort these toys clearly" is better than "I like your ability". Babies need to feel good about what they have done through praise, not praise their mothers.

7. praise the question.

Sometimes, your thoughtful questions can reveal your respect for what your children like and do more than any praise. The concern reflected in this question is the greatest reward for children: "Which part of this castle is the most difficult to build?" Or: "What's your favorite color in your painting?"

8. cut down on compliments like "very good" and "great"

Such a simple praise is often a way for us adults to unconsciously perfunctory our children. At best, it is a critical compliment. And this kind of judgmental praise will ignore the baby's specific ability. If it is too frequent, it will make the baby indulge in my feeling that everything is great and I am too perfect. Over time, the baby always relies on adults to tell him right and wrong, and is used to pleasing adults and catering to their expectations. His measure of his own value will become "whether he can make others happy". In other words, critical praise will make the baby care too much about the recognition of the outside world, but the inner enthusiasm for doing things has not been stimulated, and he does not know how to motivate himself. Let the baby learn to be his own judge, his own "cheerleader" and his own leader.