Many parents have doubts and questions: Why are my children "good students" in primary school, even in the first grade, and why did they fall into school in the second grade? What can our parents do? Here, we communicate with parents the reasons for the "differentiation" and the ways to deal with it, hoping to help educate children. 1. The essence of grade two differentiation is the defect of deep thinking. The essence of learning is not the amount of knowledge, but the depth and breadth of students' thinking in the learning process. Simple application of knowledge is "shallow thinking" and abstract logical thinking is "deep thinking". There is a significant change in the teaching content of junior two compared with before, that is, the way of thinking has changed from "thinking in images" to "abstract thinking (logical thinking)" Students didn't "prepare mentally" well in primary school, but they still studied and thought in the way of primary school in middle school, which of course became very difficult, so they were divided. It is not too difficult for primary school students to get good grades by listening to teachers and parents. However, many students planted the seeds of "second grade differentiation" in primary school. For example, the learning style belongs to rote learning, "smart" but poor study habits, narrow knowledge and so on. It's not that students are not smart, but that their vision is too narrow and there are problems with their way of thinking and habits. [Strategy] (1) Improve the learning style. Willing to think, good at thinking and good at asking questions. Asking questions is often half the battle. (2) Knowledge should be as wide as possible. There should be a lot of extracurricular study and a lot of life practice as the "background". Parents should attach importance to children's knowledge accumulation and create environment and conditions for their extracurricular study and life practice. ⑶ Pay attention to the "intelligence content" of academic performance. Don't just emphasize the students' grades, but look at how the grades are obtained. Did you learn by rote, or did you understand the truth? Think independently, or just imitate? Is "thinking in images" winning, or is it the result of "abstract thinking"? What needs to be paid attention to is students' learning style and thinking participation. 2. Reasons for willpower and perseverance For junior high school students, the enthusiasm for learning mainly depends on the interest in learning and the perseverance to overcome learning difficulties. Some students are very smart, they learn easily in primary school, and they can get good grades without great efforts. These students are often praised by their parents and teachers for their cleverness. They mistakenly think that it is so simple to get good grades that they can learn well without serious efforts. I have developed bad habits such as carelessness, Dont Ask For Help's answers, and fear of suffering. But by the second day of junior high school, it was completely different. The knowledge of the second grade is twice as much as that of the whole primary school for six years. You will never learn well if you don't work hard at this time. Because junior two students' psychological development is still immature, they don't know enough about themselves. Faced with difficulties, they can't find or don't want to find a solution to the problem, so they comfort themselves and give up. Because of the long-term nature of learning, students need to study persistently. However, some students lack the minimum will and perseverance, are afraid of hardship and fatigue, and have a coping mentality, which leads to poor learning and inevitable differentiation. [Strategy] How to cultivate children's good character of hard work and diligence? First of all, parents should correctly understand "play before learning" and "happy learning". Guide children to find fun in their studies. In fact, only children who can learn will have real long-term happiness. Secondly, we must cultivate children's endurance! "Diligence" contains too much content. The first is to have a subjective desire and goal of your own efforts, followed by control and endurance. Combining subjective desire with control and endurance becomes a person's willpower. So "diligence" is always with willpower. If you want your child to be diligent, you can start with endurance. Third, educate students not to be superstitious about genius, but to believe in diligence. If you want to achieve something, it is impossible not to study hard. Understand that you must learn to succeed. Any opportunity is obtained through hard work, and only hard work is the bridge to success. The fruit of autumn never belongs to those who appreciate flowers in spring, but to those who work hard in spring. Understand that hard work needs to persist until the end. Gong Yu moved mountains, but Jingwei reclaimed the sea. As long as you persist, you will succeed. 3. Reasons for study habits Nowadays, the academic performance of junior high school students mainly depends not on intelligence factors (IQ), but mainly on non-intelligence factors (EQ). Non-intelligence factors are morality, will, perseverance, interest, physical strength and habits. Good study habits will benefit everyone's study for life, and it is also an important factor to learn well. The formation of study habits mainly depends on non-intellectual factors. Study habits specifically refer to the habits of attending classes, self-study, doing homework, reviewing in advance, taking exams, memorizing and reflecting. The formation of these good habits depends on everyone's will, morality and other aspects, especially when encountering difficulties, non-intellectual factors are very prominent. But some students are playful and enterprising, and their study habits are very bad. [Strategy] Cultivate children's meticulous, solid, rigorous and efficient study habits. Guide and strictly urge children to develop good study habits in an all-round way. The smarter the student, the more attention should be paid to the planning of study, the logic of thinking and the orderliness of writing. Cultivate their habit of constant reflection. For students who are smart but easy to be proud and playful, especially don't praise his cleverness too much. Let him feel that it is his responsibility and right to study hard and get good grades. For children who study hard, we should try our best to affirm his (her) contribution and help him (her) find the most suitable learning method and way of thinking. 4. The troubles brought by adolescence. Senior two students are in the second weaning period (psychological weaning period) in their lives. Their physical characteristics have entered adolescence, and they feel like adults psychologically. However, children at this stage are most prone to problems because of their lack of knowledge and practical ability in life. If the transition is not good, it will affect their lives. Adolescent students are changing at the age of 12- 16 (physically). Students in this period are in adolescence, and their psychological and physical changes are relatively rapid. Boys begin to have physiological changes such as thicker voice and longer beard; Girls began to show corresponding changes in their physical development. Therefore, it is necessary for parents to talk with students, so that they can overcome their fear of these changes and stabilize their psychological fluctuations caused by physical changes. Adolescent students change (independence begins to increase). Children's independence has increased. They always want to get rid of their dependence on teachers and parents. They always think they are not children and don't want to communicate with their parents and teachers. Therefore, I hope that parents can arrange some housework for students according to the situation, on the one hand, to meet the psychological changes of students demanding independence, on the other hand, to cultivate students' sense of responsibility. The cultivation of a person's sense of responsibility will play a great role in his later life. Psychological changes (increased curiosity) of adolescent students. During this period, they are energetic and curious, and want to try everything (including curiosity about the opposite sex). They are typical curious babies. Psychological performance is easy to be excited and impulsive, nervous and sensitive, resulting in the germination of love. Most puppy love children happen in this period. During this period, parents should attach great importance to it, and there must be no bad stimulation to affect their children. We must pay attention to the influence from family life to movies, TV programs and the Internet, and we must make appropriate choices. Therefore, I hope that parents will not equip their students with mobile phones first, and then pay attention to the way and time when your children talk to others. Adolescent students change (rebellious psychological enhancement). During this period, students' rebellious psychology is heavier. The strengthening of rebellious psychology, on the one hand, is due to the strengthening of students' independence, on the other hand, is because students are asked for more things. In primary school, students only need to study Chinese and mathematics, but in middle school, it becomes five subjects. With the increase of learning tasks, students play less and less time, and their psychological dissatisfaction begins to increase. Therefore, from this stage on, parents should consult with them about their education methods. Students themselves make mistakes, and students themselves prescribe punishments. I suggest that parents can establish some rules and regulations with your children on some issues. Parents and teachers always feel that children in this period are not as obedient as they were in primary school, like to talk back and are unwilling to talk to their parents. "The longer, the more naughty." In fact, from the perspective of pedagogy and psychology, this is a reflection of children's psychological characteristics in adolescence and a concrete manifestation of their second resistance to the climax of life. Therefore, on the one hand, our parents and teachers should understand that it is normal for children to have some problems at present, on the other hand, they should understand and tolerate behaviors that do not violate the principles, and don't make a fuss. On the other hand, the way of educating children in this period should be more reasonable, with no rude attitude, no sarcastic language and attention to discretion. It is impossible for primary schools to preach simply. Parents should improve the methods and level of education, so that children can raise their awareness, understand the truth, and unify their understanding with parents. As long as we convince them from the heart, the educational effect will be good. [Strategies] Strengthen the guidance of adolescent education, so that students can correctly treat their own physiological changes and calmly cope with challenges. Although the school has educated and guided adolescent students, education from family and relatives is irreplaceable. Parents should promptly and correctly guide and educate their children on physiological knowledge and sexual psychology. Students who are unwell in adolescence should go to the hospital in time. So as to reduce the burden on children's hearts and concentrate on their studies. 5. The embarrassment of personality and interpersonal relationships Students with narrow and extreme personality, or students who are introverted and unsociable, are prone to various problems and can't handle interpersonal relationships well. Interpersonal communication problems will seriously affect children's learning process and academic performance. Some people suffer from mental illness because of interpersonal loneliness, some people will make bad friends, and some people will look for sustenance from bad books, games and the Internet. [Strategy] Guide children to correctly handle the relationship with relatives, teachers and classmates. Generally speaking, people who have many opinions on others all day are often narrow-minded and extreme. Parents should teach him to learn "empathy" and relieve psychological imbalance. Use love and tolerance to be tolerant, kind, considerate and friendly to others. Children should be encouraged to participate in group activities, serve others, help others, communicate with others and make more friends. I have something to tell my friends and teachers. Parents should always communicate with their children, be their friends, understand their thoughts and enlighten them in time. If necessary, you can take your child to see a psychologist and receive guidance from professionals (doctors). 6. Family interference. Family disharmony will have a great influence on children. When children go to junior high school, they should try their best to maintain the stability of family life. If there is a big life change in the family or a big change in the family economy during this period, it will have a great impact on the children. Therefore, if there are these changes, we must pay attention to children's psychological counseling. The opposition of parent-child relationship is also a common reason for differentiation. Children in this age group are in the period of development, and physiological changes also make them more in need of personality development. They also want their parents to understand and respect their true thoughts, which shows that "the rebellious psychology of second-grade children is heavier, and the rebellious behavior is more obvious than other grades". [Strategy] Try to keep the family harmonious and stable, and try not to change the living conditions. If you have to change your life, you should also consider your child's tolerance, or communicate with your child in advance to gain his understanding. The common feature of children's least favorite parents is "condescending". Therefore, the communication between parents and children must be equal in order to create a harmonious parent-child atmosphere. Parents should be good at discovering the bright spots of their children. To educate children, it is advisable to persuade rather than block them. "Blocking" is bound to have omissions, and it will make children's worries accumulate more and more, and it may also make children go to extremes. In the process of getting along with children, if there is a language conflict with children, parents must be calm and never intensify the conflict. Middle school children are impulsive, and their parents are adults and should be rational. You should immediately take the initiative to stop quarreling in an appropriate way, but never give up. It will be much better to enlighten the children when both sides calm down. 7. Social influence. During the second day of junior high school, the media and peers have a greater influence on students, even surpassing parents and teachers. Sometimes, a thousand words from parents and teachers are not worth a word from his partner. A good boy may plummet because he worships singers and movie stars, is obsessed with surfing the Internet, playing games, falling in love and interacting with "buddies" in society. [Strategy] Parents should pay great attention to this. Pay close attention to children's worship of singers and movie stars, obsession with surfing the Internet, obsession with games, making bad friends, falling in love, watching pornographic books, movies and TV dramas. We should try our best to avoid junior high school children's frequent contact with these things and be less influenced by them. It is best to explain the truth to the children first and explain the harm. When these problems appear, we should find them early and do the work early. 8. Ideals and values. The second day of junior high school is a crucial period for the formation of outlook on life and values. If children at this time have no ideals and incorrect values (such as money worship, nothingness, hatred, indifference, etc. ), they will form a "value blank" or "value evil" in human development and will never be educated again. This will not only cause the problem of differentiation in learning, but more importantly, how to take his life path is worrying! [Strategy] It is necessary to educate children to love the motherland, love the people and set up lofty ideals. Caring for and helping the weak. Be a person who contributes to the country and the people, be a person who is useful to the society, be a person who pays back to his parents, and be a person who is responsible for himself. These are not imaginary, they are all realistic. Attach importance to children's ideal education, and parents should not instill low-level values into their children. Don't complain too much about society and others in front of children. Let children contact their parents' business and official friends as little as possible. It is not too late to learn the good things of business and officialdom when the children grow up. Pay attention to the people who make friends with children and understand the situation of children making friends. What kind of friends you make can reflect what kind of real state your child is. Help children make good friends and break off bad friends. Pay attention to the ways and means of educating children. 9. Other reasons. Human development needs many factors to support it. For example: cultural factors. Let children live in an environment full of books, and it is easy to cultivate children who love learning. To make children love learning, parents should love learning. Another example: economic factors. The family is too rich and too poor. If parents don't handle it well, it will leave a shadow on their children's growth. These are all important factors that cause children's differentiation. [Strategy] Parents should know their own situation and treat the rich and the poor of the family with a normal heart. Rich, not rich, avoid "nouveau riche mentality"; Poor, do not blame society, avoid "waiting mentality." Prevent the bad influence of money on children. Such as: don't wear high-end clothes for children, don't give children more cash, and don't let children "show off"; Don't make children feel inferior, give them pocket money appropriately, and let them treat money correctly. Create a good family learning atmosphere, go to places that have a good influence on children, and try to avoid the influence of bad environment on children. "Peking University Education" reminds us that the environment is very important for children's growth.