At the beginning of abstinence, it is wise to keep a proper distance from your former fair-weather friends, or find a reasonable excuse to avoid banquets with drinking as the main activity. But sooner or later, I will attend some drinking parties, so how to face the wine market is very important.
If the host is an old friend, you can inform yourself in advance that you have given up drinking now; Or at least one partner knows that we are quitting drinking and understands the importance of this to us-he can support you and reduce the pressure you will bear.
In addition, if it is good for your stomach to supplement some nutrition before attending the party, you can also take a small bag of your favorite candy or substitute food with you. Sometimes if there is still a long time to drink after dinner, we can leave early. Most people hardly care about our leaving. They are busy drinking and things like that.
Generally speaking, we should not be too nervous, because (1) others don't drink as we thought (2) very, very few people notice or care whether we drink (3) love our friends or relatives, and they are happy to see that we don't drink.
At the party, relatives and friends who drink may ask:
"What do you drink?"
"It doesn't matter if you only have one drink."
"Why don't you drink?" ... and so on.
We try to explain it in a way that doesn't lie, so that others can understand and accept it faster. For example, "health factors", "doctor's advice" and "I find myself unfit to drink". Most people can accept that we don't drink now and don't ask me any more questions.
Of course, the sooner you tell the truth to people you know, the better. Most friendly people will appreciate our honesty and encourage us to try to get rid of alcohol addiction. Telling others loudly that we don't drink helps us a lot and strengthens our determination to stay awake. At the same time, there may be a side effect: sometimes we make such a statement, which will encourage other people who want or need to drink, and others will not look down on you.
When we are asked what we want to drink, most of us can accept soda or other drinks, which will make us more comfortable.
We don't want others to pay too much attention to our abstinence, which is normal, but we hope to show it to you in a cautious and secret way rather than in an open way. But sometimes a well-meaning, well-meaning friend or family member inadvertently cares too much about our recovery from alcohol addiction. This may make us feel quite embarrassed. At this time, it is best to be patient as much as possible, usually no more than 2 minutes. When we feel calm, we can calmly explain that we sincerely thank them for their concern.
Sometimes a person who drinks a lot or a former drinking buddy is very dissatisfied with your sudden cessation of drinking. When you are unhappy in this forced situation, please remember that there are thousands of bar friends in Qian Qian who are giving up drinking and supporting you. Even if we are not at the scene, our hearts are with you. You should learn to avoid such people, and sometimes you can find an excuse to leave directly, even if it is not a big deal to offend such people. After all, we just take necessary measures to keep healthy.
In recent years, frequent drinking accidents have caused irreparable consequences and losses to society and families, so who will bear the responsibility after drinking accidents has become the focus of attention. The author concludes that there are six kinds of actors who should bear legal responsibility and even criminal responsibility for the damage caused by drinking.
The first is that forced drinkers, such as those who deliberately drink or stimulate drinking, should bear corresponding legal responsibilities for any consequences of being advised to drink.
The second is the person who persuades the drinker to drink even though he knows that he can't drink or is unwell. This kind of person should bear legal responsibility for the consequences of the other person's illness caused by drinking and drunk driving.
The third kind is people who leave by car after drinking together. In this case, if there is a traffic accident, the drinker should not only bear the responsibility for his drinking partner, but also bear the corresponding responsibility for the other party injured by the accident.
The fourth is the person who failed to escort the drunk safely after drinking together. If the drinker has lost or is about to lose self-control, is unconscious, can't control his behavior, and the drinker fails to send him to the hospital or send him home safely, then the co-drinker who has an accident shall bear corresponding legal responsibilities.
The fifth type is people who know that they are drunk and still instigate drivers to drive after drinking. Such people not only have to bear civil liability for the consequences of traffic accidents, but also may be investigated for criminal responsibility if they knowingly instigate drivers to drive when they are drunk.
Sixth, the organizers of the wine bureau should bear the obligation of moderate drinking and safe escort after drinking, otherwise they should bear corresponding legal responsibilities after the accident.
Wine is a good wine, and a banquet is a good banquet, but drinking is risky, so be cautious in persuading wine. This article just reminds everyone that drinking alcohol should be moderate and appropriate to avoid being sued.