In the latest parenting war, He De, who is 1 1, once again attracted the attention of many audiences. He has many nicknames, and once he was nicknamed "streaking brother" for streaking in the snow. He also has a sister named He Yijing.
The reason why their brother and sister have a "different grasp" beyond their peers is due to their father He Liesheng's "eagle education".
Premature babies brought up under "Eagle Education"
The name of Eagle Sect comes from a fairy tale: when the young eagle grows big enough, the mother eagle will mercilessly drive the young eagle off the cliff, and when the young eagle falls to the bottom, she will desperately flap her wings and master the flying skills.
The core idea of eagle education is to force children by extreme means, thus stimulating their potential. Specifically, it is manifested in extreme physical training and ten quotient trainings such as physical quotient, IQ, moral quotient, emotional quotient, courage quotient, adversity quotient, psychological quotient, spiritual IQ, ambition quotient and financial quotient.
In 2008, a premature baby weighing only 3 kg and 8 kg came into this world. The doctor decided that he would be a child with cerebral palsy. The father of the child "refused to accept this tone" and became the "eagle father". Under the cruel eagle education of his father He Liesheng, his son Duoduo not only has no cerebral palsy, but also grows into a gifted child praised by everyone.
From the tenth day when Duo Duo took it out of the incubator, his parents insisted that he swim in hot and cold days, and the water temperature was always controlled at a constant temperature of 25℃. I have been studying and training for 8 hours every day since I was 6 months old.
When I was two years old, I often climbed the Purple Mountain with my father and insisted on climbing to the top. Eagle dad still insists on accompanying many other trainings every day, such as 3 km brisk jogging training every day, climbing rope and swinging bridges, practicing pulley cars, scooters and bicycles, interspersed with various training courses for children, such as martial arts, taekwondo and street dance training.
After more than three years of "extreme training", four-year-old Duo Duo has completely lost sight of the traces of premature babies, and is superior to children of the same age in many aspects.
"Eagle Dad" summed up the eagle education: only by throwing the eagle off the cliff can it fly farther and die. Only under the premise of persecution can children's potential be brought into play.
Every educational method is not absolutely good or bad, and what is suitable is good. For Duoduo, Eagle Dad's education still has some merits and is worth learning from.
We can see that Duoduo, who is now 1 1, has not lost to his peers because of premature birth. On the contrary, his health is far better than that of his peers. At the same time, I also learned to bear hardships and stand hard work, become responsible, have responsibility, and have good pressure resistance.
"Parents' love for their children must be profound. "All the actions and decisions of Eagle Dad are in love with their children, which is really touching. Toto also said on the show: "Thank you very much, Dad. If it weren't for my training and education, I wouldn't be who I am today. I love dad. "
Many parents see that Eagle Dad's education for Duoduo is successful, so they follow suit directly. But in fact, the simple and direct "takenism" is not easy to use. There were parents who imitated "eagle education", but it didn't last long and ended in failure.
First of all, streaking, sailing alone and flying at high altitude in winter are all extreme challenges for ordinary adults, let alone children. "Eagle Dad" strictly trains many sports in advance, but many parents have difficulties and have no conditions to insist.
Secondly, family education is a highly personalized education. The strength of each family, the personality of parents and the quality of children vary widely, and the educational ideas and methods adopted should also be different. Take many primary schools, middle schools and universities for example, they teach themselves at home, read books by themselves and watch online classes, which is really beyond the reach of ordinary children.
Third, Eagle Dad's billions of net worth, strict training plan and years of groping experience are not easy to imitate. Moreover, this practice of flying a plane naked is too extreme. Safety is the most important thing at any time. Don't break through the child's extreme physical strength. If an accident happens, it will be irreparable.
Will the missing childhood do harm to children?
Eagle Dad's plan for Duoduo is to prepare for graduate school at the age of 12, and only raise Duoduo until 14.
We can see that Duoduo's childhood was spent under the planning and supervision of Eagle Dad. He has no time to sleep late, no chance to play with his peers during recess, and no freedom to arrange his own life at will.
Through strict training, Eagle Dad gave Duoduo a shortcut to grow up, making Duoduo something that ordinary children may not be able to do in 20 years in ten years. Is this what Eagle Dad wants to be, or what he really wants to be?
Childhood and youth are some time that can be wasted. Youth means that you can do stupid things with your friends and have the opportunity to make mistakes. And these are not many. One day, will Toto want to relive his childhood experience? These questions may not be known until he grows up.
Teaching students in accordance with their aptitude is the most important.
A lot of success can only be regarded as a special case. Every child is different, and the education method suitable for many children may not be suitable for most children.
Every child's nature and endowment are different. Some children may be sensitive to music, while others are sensitive to language. Some children have better memory ability, some children have stronger observation ability, and some children have strong interpersonal skills. Every child's ability in different fields is different.
If we try to train Lang Lang as an athlete or Einstein as a writer, we will find that these efforts will eventually fail.
Parents should choose the education method suitable for their children according to their situation, and must not imitate them at will.
Nowadays, the society pursues speed and efficiency too much, and many parents who hate iron and steel hope to find the best educational concept and model at once. However, "it takes ten years to plant trees and a hundred years to cultivate people", so education is really urgent.
Does good grades necessarily mean success in life?
Although at this stage, 1 1 year-old Duoduo has made great achievements in academic and other aspects, there is still a long way to go in future life. Good grades now do not mean that he will succeed in his later life, and his children still have a long way to go.
In fact, Duoduo's childhood life was planned by Eagle Dad, but Duoduo was forced to carry it out. Moreover, because Duoduo graduated from the second grade of primary school, he rarely lived in a collective life and taught himself at home. Then, will there be social troubles when you grow up and go to society? Without father eagle's plan, can he solve it by himself?
Children are very clever, and all problems can be solved easily. However, one problem after another in life. When there is a problem that cannot be solved one day, the child's self-evaluation will rebound to a certain extent, and it is also a problem whether the child can cope well at that time.
Education can only be effective with love.
During the military training, Duoduo's sister He Yijing was forced by Eagle Dad to apply essential balm on her nose and temples. The daughter cried and shouted: "Stop painting" and "spicy", and the child once lost control. In this regard, Eagle Dad's explanation is that first, the wind oil essence can prevent heatstroke, and second, the daughter has not painted it, and he wants her to feel it.
I believe everyone who has used essential balm knows that the feeling of mala Tang is hard for adults to accept, let alone children of several years old.
Duoduo's sister said in an interview that her father was mean to her and often spanked her and her brother. She likes her mother better. If her mother is not here, she will be unhappy. If her father leaves, she won't want to get up for three days.
Eagle education can make children grow up quickly and reach the goal of adults, but if children don't feel the love of their parents in this process, they will easily become indifferent to others when they grow up, and the result will be unhappy all their lives.
If children want to have a sound personality in the future, love education is necessary, and love education can make people mature.
In fact, no one is right or wrong about our public education concept and Eagle Dad's eagle education, but the Excellence of children will never end. When the child has achieved this goal, there must be a higher goal waiting. However, in the process of achieving the goal, parents must not miss the scenery of their children's middle process.