There was a little boy in grade three, who was very naughty at school. One day when he was playing football with his classmates on the playground, he accidentally kicked the glass window of the classroom because he used too much force. When the teacher learned this, he asked the little boy to inform his parents and give the 50 yuan money for repairing the glass to the school. The little boy felt that he had made a terrible disaster. He is not afraid of losing money, but he is afraid that his father will punish him for it. So the little boy decided to lie. He told his father that the school had to pay the "information fee", and then asked his father for 50 yuan money.
Then one day, my father met my son's head teacher on his way to work and mentioned it in the conversation. My father was very angry when he knew that he had been cheated. When my son comes back from work, he is black-faced and ready to give him a good scolding. When my son came home, my father was about to ask a question. It suddenly occurred to me that breaking the glass while playing football was not a big deal. Why did my son lie? In order to find out the reason, dad decided to temporarily suppress his inner anger and talk to his son calmly. The son was not angry when he saw his father, and he also told his reasons for lying. It turned out that his father was too strict at ordinary times, and his son was afraid that his father would scold him for this matter, so he chose to lie.
While patiently educating his son that it is wrong to lie, the father promised the child that he would control his emotions in the future and would not lose his temper because of a little thing. Three chapters of the father-son Covenant. In the later days, the relationship between son and father became more harmonious. My son will tell my father everything at school and never lie again. My father didn't lose his temper casually.
This is what happens in most families, and different parents will have different ways to deal with it. Lying is a very bad behavior, and it is especially important for parents to do this before their children turn lying into a habit. Children before the age of 6 often say things that are contrary to reality because they can't distinguish between reality and imagination, games and life. After a little older, the reasons why children lie are even more varied. If the child is still lying regularly at this time, parents must pay attention at this time.
Many children lie because their parents are too strict and afraid of being scolded by their parents. Therefore, when children begin to lie, don't lose your temper and punish them for the first time, which will be counterproductive. The correct way is for parents to reflect and find out why children lie. Is it necessary to change their way of education? Then enlighten the children and explain the dangers of lying.
After understanding the truth, parents should make a rule with their children and promise them not to lose their temper at will in the future. They should communicate and communicate well when they meet anything, but children should not lie and make everything clear to their parents.
When children have no reason and motivation to lie, they will naturally stop lying. Many times, the first lie a child tells is for his parents, or he is afraid of being punished or disappointed by his parents. At that time, once lying became a habit, it would gradually become a person's character. When I grow up and step into the society, I will be spurned by others, and I will feel out of place no matter where I am. Therefore, in the face of children's lies, parents should understand that understanding the reasons behind it is far more important than scolding!