Don't look at other people's flowers in full bloom, and worry that your tree is silent. I believe that flowers have their own flowering period. Take good care of your flowers, watch them grow up slowly, and accompany him to bathe in the sunshine and rain, which is a kind of happiness. Believe in children and wait for flowers to bloom. Maybe your seed will never blossom, because it is a towering tree.
But whether children can become towering trees or not, family education plays a very important role. When children have problems, the first thing parents should do is not to criticize school education, but to reflect on family education.
1. If there is something wrong with family education, children may have a hard time at school, and children may become "problem children" at school.
2. For children with good grades, the mother is usually a planned person; The more serious, organized and polite a father is, the better his children's grades will be.
Don't be a knowledgeable and uneducated parent. Some people have received higher education, but they are not necessarily literate. If parents don't know how to live, treat others well, or even treat their children well, then no matter how high their academic level is, they are uneducated.
Parents can regard their children as the center of the world, but don't forget that parents should also live an independent life. If parents are completely child-centered and have no theme of their own lives, such parents often interfere with their children's growth in the name of love. Sometimes, it's not that children can't live without their parents, but that parents can't live without their children.
Parents need to take the responsibility of educating their children, but don't completely cancel their leisure life because of educating their children. No sense of responsibility hurts others, too much sense of responsibility hurts yourself.
6. The relationship between husband and wife affects the child's personality. If a father doesn't respect his wife, then his son learns to disrespect his female classmates at school. If the mother doesn't respect her husband, then the daughter learns to look down on her male classmates at school.
7. Educated parents are Voltaire. "I don't agree with your point of view, but I will defend your right to speak to the death." They began to reason with their children from the day they were born and patiently asked for their opinions. Don't expect children to learn to obey by beating and cursing. As a result, monkeys also learned to kill chickens.
8. Let children become passionate and rational people. Without passion, no great cause will have a good start; Without reason, no feat will have a good ending.
9. Let your children become educated people. Education begins with punctuality, queuing, not talking loudly in public and not getting angry easily.
10, kind, if your child is kind, please don't laugh at his weakness. People who like to take advantage of small things often suffer big losses because they are rejected by others. He who is willing to suffer a small loss will take a big advantage in the future, because he is liked by people.
1 1, often do three things with children: one is to have dinner with children, the other is to ask children to repair toys, furniture or clothes, and occasionally ask children to help solve difficulties in work. The third is to tell stories to children and invite them to tell stories themselves.
12, if there is no special difficulty, parents had better go home to have dinner with their children every day. The common values of the family are established in the process of eating around a table.
13. Tell children stories and invite them to tell their own stories, so that children can establish reading and writing habits from listening to stories, learn to read independently as soon as possible, and form the habit of lifelong reading as soon as possible. As long as people are still learning, they will not completely degenerate, and thoroughly degenerate people will not learn. Parents who never tell stories to their children are irresponsible parents.
There are three critical periods for children's growth: the first is about 3 years old, the second is about 9 years old, and the third is about 13 years old. It's hard to make up for missing the critical period of growth.
15, not "standing at thirty", but "standing at three". At the age of three, children must establish the courage and habit of self-reliance. You must do what you can and do what you should.
16, it is necessary for parents to reason with their children, but it is more important to pay attention to their speech posture when reasoning with children around 13 years old. Otherwise, the child will be disgusted and rebellious, and the child will say, "Everything you say is right, but the way you speak is annoying."
17, the secret in the bottom of my heart is a sign of human growth and maturity. If a child has something on his mind and doesn't want to tell you, then don't force him to tell his secret.
18, it is best to have a laissez-faire parent around the age of 3. Before and after the child is 9 years old, it is best to have an active and authoritative parent around. Before and after the child 13 years old, it is best to have a negative and democratic parent around him. Effective education is strict first and then loose, while ineffective education is the opposite.
19, you must pay attention to your child's academic performance, but don't care too much about his ranking. Be wary of those children whose academic performance is always the first. Some children have good academic performance and good personality, while others have good academic performance, but they are selfish, unsympathetic and have no fun in life.
20. Your child must learn to associate with others and accept his little friends happily. If parents are dissatisfied with their neighbors, find fault with their children's friends, or prevent their children from making friends with themselves and make them feel as if they are very different from others, then it will be difficult for these children to get along naturally with anyone when they grow up.
2 1, children need companions for their growth, so that children can have their own friends, but not too messy partners. Before children form mature rationality and judgment, they should be alert to the bad habits of their peers.