Xiaowen is a 4-year-old boy who just went to kindergarten this year. The child has been timid since childhood. He never dares to turn off the lights when he sleeps at night. He is often called "coward" by his grandparents. On the first day of school, his parents sent him to the school gate, and he cried before getting off the bus. Under the persuasion of his parents, Xiaowen finally stabilized his mood, but he still didn't get off the bus. Dad got angry and pulled him down directly.
He was forcibly sent to school. In the afternoon, when the child was out of school, his father was very depressed when he saw the child coming out of school alone. When he got home, he ran directly to his room. Parents were very unhappy and comforted when they saw this phenomenon, but the child suddenly burst into tears and said, I don't want to go to school. When parents hear this, they feel that their children have great psychological problems and are becoming more and more timid, and they don't know what to do.
Why are children getting more and more timid? 1. Parents like their children too much.
Many times, when a child is doing something within his power, parents care too much about the child and worry that the child will be hurt, thus limiting some behaviors of the child. For a long time, children's behavior has been restricted, and some things will become more and more timid if they don't touch them. And parents still don't know what the problem is. Overindulgence and restriction of children's behaviors from childhood will lead children to think back when they are afraid to try something.
Label a child.
Some parents will label their children as "coward and crying baby" in the form of jokes when they see their children are timid. However, children at this stage can't distinguish some language behaviors of their parents well, and they will subconsciously think that they are such people. A famous psychologist once said: once a person is labeled, his behavior will gradually develop to the content of the label. Parents unconsciously label their children, which will lead them to become the people mentioned in the label. This is the so-called "label effect".
How do parents change their children's personality? 1. Enrich children's social interaction
The formation of children's behavior habits has a lot to do with their parents. Many parents are not good at communicating with others, and staying at home with their children will seriously limit their social skills. We should take our children outdoors to participate in some activities, so that children can meet more people when they are young and exercise their social skills. When children make some friends, they will gradually know how to socialize, gradually develop a lively and cheerful personality and become brave.
2. Praise the children more.
Let children do what they can, and then encourage and praise them afterwards, so that children have strong self-confidence. When children have strong self-confidence, they will not be afraid of anything they do. Give children more love, make them feel that they are fully trusted, they will have strong motivation and enthusiasm, and give them more courage.
In the process of educating children, parents must take the right way to educate their children, avoid labeling them, combat the phenomenon of children's self-esteem, give them more encouragement, and let them develop strong self-confidence, so as to get rid of the timid habit.