The purpose of educating children is to develop their intelligence and cultivate their talents, and then serve the society and create wealth for the society. To this end, we must put forward the ideal requirements for children in time.
As parents, when making ideal demands on their children, they should go from the shallow to the deep and proceed at different levels, and should not expect too much. For example, children in middle schools have accumulated certain cultural knowledge, their personalities have gradually developed, and their hobbies have emerged. At this time, parents should start from their children's hobbies and feelings, consider their children's personality development more, and help them establish a professional ideal. If the child is a painting lover, hope should be raised from the perspective of painting, and the level of expectation should be established according to his potential: if the potential is not great, he should be encouraged to paint more landscapes and figures; Encouraging him to become a painter when he has the potential is the ideal requirement of the first level. Next, parents should link their children's personal ideals with the needs of society and upgrade them to a higher level, that is, social ideals with a strong sense of professionalism and mission.
2. Guide children correctly.
Relevant experts believe that the ideal development of teenagers can be roughly divided into four stages: first, the preparation stage of ideal development, which shows that children regard the requirements of parents and teachers as their own ideals; Second, the ideal stage of life is the earliest ideal for children to think independently, and it is the ideal for them to have interest and expectation in activities; Third, the emergence and development of career ideals. With the development of interest, children gradually cultivate a certain hobby, and on this basis, they gradually yearn for a certain occupation; Fourth, the development stage of social ideal is the inevitable result of children's abstract thinking ability developing to a certain level and having certain social experience, which is often associated with personal career ideal.
However, the above four stages of ideal development are not completely separated. For example, in the third stage, children's ideals are mostly based on their hobbies and personal development, and they are rarely aware of their responsibilities to society. Therefore, parents should consciously put the guidance of faith on the educational agenda, and use scientific beliefs to help children transition from professional ideals to correct social ideals.
3. Pay attention to the ideal individual differences.
There are also individual differences in children's ideal development level. Boys and girls have different ideals, that is, among children of the same age, their ideals generally have four levels: first, they have lofty ideals and are fighting for them; Second, the goal is too high and unrealistic; The third is to pursue interests and money; Fourth, there is no ideal.
Judging from the four different levels of ideals mentioned above, if children have lofty ideals and are struggling for them, then parents should give priority to encouragement and actively help their children solve the difficulties encountered in the process of realizing their ideals. If children's ideals are too lofty and unrealistic, then we should talk to children more about the harm of this unrealizable ideal to the development of life. Educating children should not only establish lofty ideals, but also build lofty ideals on the basis of reality and cultivate children's correct outlook on ideals and life. If children's ideals only seek benefits, parents should clearly put forward healthy ideal goals and guide their children to establish correct ideals. If children don't have ideals, parents should tell more examples of great men struggling for their ideals, so as to inspire children to spark their ideals in generate.
4. Cultivate children's ideals with emotional factors.
Children are in adolescence, which is the most colorful time for interests and emotions. Parents should firmly grasp this feature and make good use of emotional factors to do an ideal education. Some parents think that their children are unstable and have no future when they see their emotions, which is wrong. In fact, this emotion is a necessary catalyst for setting up lofty ideals.
In order to make children form lofty ideals and promote their development, they must play the role of emotion. Putting emotion first is because it is difficult to open a child's heart without emotional touch, which leads to communication difficulties. Parents should pay more attention to their children, especially those who lack ideals. By injecting some catalysts into their calm state of mind, they can stir up the waves of ideals, so that they can generate and enhance their confidence in the future of the motherland and the destiny of mankind under the constant stimulation of emotions.