Some sermons make your blood boil, and you will forget these "inspirational quotations" when you wake up the next day.
Undeniably, pressure constantly tests our psychological endurance and stimulates our potential. Many parents also use this "stress test" on their children, hoping that their children can make progress.
In the eyes of some parents, children are like basketball. Only by slapping hard can they play higher. Therefore, putting pressure on children's learning can stimulate their fighting spirit and make their progress faster. This is what we often call the "racket effect".
Every day when children come home from school, parents cancel their children's various entertainment activities, supervise their children to do test questions, preview their homework, and even accompany their children to cram schools, telling them that they must succeed.
Children come and go in school and cram school every day, going in with negative emotions and dragging their tired bodies out. The pressure of daily study and the "aggressiveness" of parents give children an invisible bondage.
What harm will parents' excessive pressure do to their children?
1.？ The child became irritable.
When parents put too much pressure on their children, the children's hearts can't bear strong oppression, which will eventually lead to psychological collapse.
Children don't have the freedom to choose to study and live, their brains can't relax, they don't get enough sleep, and their emotions have completely erupted for a long time, making them irritable. When they encounter unhappy things, they will quarrel with their parents, make a hullabaloo about and vent their dissatisfaction.
2.？ The child is mentally distorted.
Not all local children will explode after suffering too much pressure, and all the emotions in their hearts will be vented. Some children will choose to scream silently. They don't quarrel with their parents, but silently endure the pain and depression caused by pressure.
Children gradually become depressed, withdrawn and anxious, and their hearts are eroded by negative emotions for a long time. Without the understanding and guidance of parents, children's tense nerves and emotions will quietly fall into the dark abyss, and children will have various psychological diseases.
How should parents correctly use the "racket effect" to master the pressure on their children? 1.？ Don't set too high a goal for your child.
Some children are under too much pressure because their parents set too high a goal for them. Once they can't achieve it, their parents will put more pressure on them to study, and their children will fall into a vicious circle.
Parents should not set too high a goal for their children, but set "small goals" according to their actual ability, and then gradually increase the difficulty of the goal, so that children can make intuitive progress.
2.？ Accept your child's failure.
Every child is not a "saint". When doing something or preparing for an exam, failure is inevitable. Parents should not pursue perfection too much for their children's failure, but accept their children's failure. After all, failure is a successful experience.
Parents can analyze the causes of failure with their children, then sum up their experience, encourage their children, give them confidence and let them make continuous progress.
Only with moderate pressure can children's progress "balloons" be released. Too much pressure from parents, like countless embroidery needles, will pierce the "ball" and eventually "flinch". Giving children proper encouragement is an accelerant to promote their progress.
Since both parents are parents for the first time, there are bound to be many problems in the process of children's growth, but the problems are not terrible. The terrible thing is not being recognized and not being solved. You know, the process of educating children is also a process of self-learning. As Professor Stanford said: Paying attention to children's early education and companionship is the most cost-effective investment for parents in this life!