There will be all kinds of performances. But the result will be more uniform, that is, I can't communicate with my children. Create a generation gap.
I feel that parents also need to study. Not because parents are right. After active study, you will find that it is not only in knowledge.
Therefore, if you are not afraid of wrong ideas, take the initiative to learn and change. Only by changing yourself can we hope to change our children.
Family is the first class for children, and many problems in children's growth are often related to the lack of family education. Although some children get material doting from their parents, they fall into the poverty of emotional communication. What are the misunderstandings in our family education? What is the best way to crack it?
Controlling food and clothing can't control "heart disease" and "non-professional" parents "working without a license"
"Eat well, dress well, and go to the best school" is a lesson for Mr. Wang, and it is also an educational method that most parents agree with. These parents believe that being a good parent is to provide the best material conditions for children.
Zhai Hongjuan, a teacher from the School of Education of Hebei Normal University, thinks that this kind of education is biased. She said, "Parents should be clear about their educational status and responsibilities. You are not only the nanny of their children, but also the first enlightenment teacher. " Therefore, she suggested that parents should not only ask questions, but also pay attention to cultivating their children's sound personality.
Most parents seem unable to educate their children because they have taken up their posts as parents without training. Some parents spoil their children too much, with their mouths full of food and clothes stretched. Ms. Lin's son goes to junior high school in a boarding school and goes home once a month. "I am worried about him every day now. Are you full and warm outside? Have you encountered any difficulties? " To this end, Ms. Lin calls her son every day.
Some parents can do nothing about their children's bad hobbies. Ms. Sun thinks she is a failed mother, because as a teacher, she can't even educate her own son well. Although the rehabilitation institutions for Internet addiction are mixed, due to the poor teaching effect, she had to rush to the hospital and brutally send her son to the rehabilitation institutions for Internet addiction, hoping to straighten this crooked little "sapling" as soon as possible by strengthening physical labor.
Some parents are worried because they cannot communicate with their children. "I am busy for my children every day, but my children still ignore me." Parents work hard, but the children don't appreciate it: "You only know how to divide all day. What you care about most is the points, not your children. " There are even helpless parents who say, "Who can help me educate my children? How much can I pay? "
Who will make up for the shortcomings of family education in schools that parents can't replace and care about?
"Look big at the age of three, and look old at the age of seven. The development of adolescent personality and habits plays an important role in children's growth, and in this process, the role of parents is irreplaceable. " Teacher Zhang Li, the head teacher of Shi No.15 Middle School, said that the students taught by the same teacher show great differences in personality, communication and learning, which has a lot to do with parents' manners and educational methods for their children, so parents should attach great importance to family education. Zhang Shou, director of the Education Department of Shijiazhuang No.15 Middle School, said: "Parents can't treat the school as a nursery, and everything will be fine if they send their children to school. Parents should communicate with teachers more and give timely guidance according to the specific situation of children. "
"Some parents' family education concepts are backward and the methods are not scientific enough. It is impossible for schools to replace parents. "According to Zhai Hongjuan, in order to solve the problem that parents can't teach, there are various forms of parent schools in China to teach parents educational knowledge.
Zhai Hongjuan said that there are generally four forms of parent schools: face-to-face teaching, online parent schools, broadcast parent schools and TV parent schools. Some parent schools have also compiled their own teaching materials, and the family education manual compiled by provincial parent schools in our province is a relatively complete set.
Whether it is necessary to attend parent school and the actual teaching effect of parent school are the most concerned issues for parents at present. In this regard, Zhang Yanhui, a provincial parent school, made an analogy: "A child infected with bad habits is just like getting sick. They don't go to the hospital for treatment as soon as they find the symptoms, and it will be difficult to wait until later. " A parent who attended the parent school said to the author: "In the past, my children always opposed me. I either hit him or scolded him. After listening to the communication skills between the teacher and the child, I tried to communicate with him several times. I didn't expect my father and I to talk calmly. " According to this parent, in the parent school, you can get the authoritative guidance of education experts, listen to excellent parents to introduce their experiences, and discuss good education methods with other parents, which is very targeted.
Adult education or compulsory education? Parents' schools "survive in the cracks"
There are different teaching methods and special textbooks, but the development of parents' schools is not as optimistic as expected. According to the statistics of Zhang Yanhui, a provincial parent school, there are 6,543,800,000 parents of primary and middle school students in the province, but only about 654.38+0% of them attend parent schools.
According to relevant documents, parents' school is an adult education institution to improve parents' quality and family education level. It is headed by the education administrative department, sponsored by primary and secondary schools and kindergartens, and the school board is responsible for managing its alma mater. " Belonging to adult education institutions, but born out of public schools in compulsory education stage, it is doomed that parent schools are closely related to adult education and compulsory education. Unknown, the "origin" of their parents' school shows their embarrassing situation.
"According to the policy of free compulsory education, if it is defined as compulsory education, then parents' schools will never receive a penny. But in fact, parents' school students are parents, that is, adults, and should be treated according to the adult education policy. "Although according to the relevant regulations," in addition to the funds allocated by the organizer and the competent department, a small amount of funds can be collected for profit, and social funds can be raised at the same time ",the current financial pressure still makes the operation of parents' schools stretched. According to the person in charge of the parent school, the radio and television of the parent school in the province is funded by the provincial finance, but the money promised by the charity has not yet been put in place. In order to maintain its operation, the school collects 50 yuan money from every parent every year, including a textbook, a weekly home education newspaper, an online classroom network card, and 8 classes a year. However, this 50 yuan money, which is equivalent to the cost, has caused great controversy. Individual parents complained: "It is the responsibility of the school to educate children. Poor education is a teacher's problem. How can I pay for my study? "
The lack of professional teachers is also a major bottleneck faced by family education. The person in charge of the parent school said that at present, there is no family education major in all kinds of colleges and universities, and most of the personnel engaged in family education and training come from educational psychology or pedagogy. There is no uniform standard for the qualification of family education in China.