Learn to communicate with parents.
Concept of activity;
In junior high school, students gradually have obvious rebellious psychology, which is easy to misunderstand, contradict or even conflict with their parents, leading to alienation or tension between the two sides. If it is not guided and solved correctly in time, it will not be conducive to their growth. Therefore, when designing this course, I hope that through classroom discussion and study, I can learn to understand and tolerate my parents, learn to properly handle the relationship with my parents, and understand a truth: love needs communication.
Educational objectives:
1. Learn to communicate and properly handle the parent-child relationship;
2. Enhance the understanding and understanding of parents, and learn to care for and care for parents;
3. Understand the importance of family to your growth and clarify your family responsibilities.
Teaching form;
Tell, discuss, role play, situational experience.
Activity flow:
1, import:
(1) Students, I have a simple question: What is the first thing you do every time you go home?
(2) think about it:
Case (real thing)
On Monday morning, Class 8 (2) of Little A told me that she had a problem with her mother last Saturday night. At seven o'clock in the evening, according to the teacher's arrangement, Xiao is watching the CCTV TV program "Laying the Foundation for China". At that time, my mother dragged her tired body home. Seeing Xiao Ai watching TV and the dishes on the table not being cleaned up, he suddenly became angry and flew into a rage. Scold: I only watch TV and play, but I don't know how to read and clean up the dishes-
Xiao is watching TV according to the teacher's request, and the dishes are not cleaned until his mother comes back for dinner. Instead of being understood by my mother, I was scolded by my mother. I was very unhappy psychologically and contradicted my mother on the spot. It was hard to think that my kindness was not understood by my mother until Monday.
A similar thing may happen to you! Do you think Xiao has a good relationship with his mother? If not, what is the problem? (Student answers)
It seems that the problem lies in communication. So, are you satisfied with your communication with your parents?
2. think about it:
(1) Please rate:
evaluate
Satisfied, average and dissatisfied communication.
Communicate with dad
Communicate with mom
(2) think about it. Will your parents nag if you do this? If so, what should I do to avoid nagging? Content:
I hardly do housework, don't fold the quilt when I get up, don't wash dirty clothes and socks, and the room is full of clutter.
When I have time, I watch TV and play video games.
Take the time to call.
I often come home late from school and go home without explaining the reasons to my parents.
Unwilling to go out with parents.
Spend time watching TV and doing homework carelessly.
Talk back to parents.
Irregular work and rest, unwilling to sleep at night and unwilling to get up in the morning.
(Students discuss and speak)
(3) Parents' nagging is not terrible, but communication is the key. Good communication is "reasonable politeness", that is, it does not hurt the feelings of the other party, but also helps to solve problems. So how to communicate effectively?
Which of the following scenarios do you think is helpful for effective communication?
Show:
Scene 1:
When I came home from school, I saw my mother walk into the room without saying a word and slam the door.
Scenario 2:
When Xiao Ming came home from school, he saw his mother and shouted, "Mom, I'm home."
Scenario 3:
Going home from school, whistling into the room, but ignoring my busy mother in the kitchen.
Scenario 4:
When you come back from school, you sit on the sofa like an unruly person and turn on the TV with a bang. Or cut off the TV programs that others are watching and switch to the channels they want to watch.
(Students discuss and speak)
After listening to the students' speeches, I was very inspired. In fact, communication is about methods and skills. The following teacher introduces the main points of communication to everyone, hoping to help the students.
2. The six points of communication:
The first decision: listen-tell the other person physically: I am listening to you.
Decision 2: Use the sentence "You mean ……" to check your understanding.
Decision 3: Accept-see with the other person's eyes and think with the other person's head (put yourself in the other person's shoes and think about the problem).
Decision 4: Reject-Say "no" in frank and polite language.
Decision 5: Express-express your inner meaning in accurate and specific language.
Decision 6: Body language is louder than audio language-grasp your body language and express your true meaning.
These six essentials are the basic rules of interpersonal communication. If it is violated, it will cause communication obstacles and bring all kinds of troubles to interpersonal communication. We must master it well.
Below, the teacher presents several situations, you might as well try to change according to the six essentials.
3. Try it:
Please change the following bad communication into good communication:
Scene 1:
Mom came home late and saw you watching TV. The light in the kitchen is on, and everything is in a mess. Mom is very unhappy and angry with you. And you think this is because mom is unhappy outside and goes home to take it out on you. Your answer is-"What's your name? I'm angry outside, go home and take it out on me! Isn't the light on? It's worth shouting! Hey! "
Try it, how should good communication be dealt with?
Scenario 2:
Your mother said to you: I hate that big bear in your class, who is glib and has long hair. Don't let him come to our house next time! When you hear your mother say this, you are angry and respond immediately-"You don't like anyone. I think your son will be very happy if he has no friends! "
Try it, what kind of response should good communication make?
Scenario 3:
Your mother complained that she really didn't want to do so much housework every day. Then she complained that you didn't know how to help. You are very unhappy when you hear this, and you respond-"If you don't want to do it, don't do it, rest and go to scallops. Are you tired of the old nagging? "
Try it, easy to communicate, and the response should be:
(Students discuss and speak)
4. Find out: Have you communicated with your parents as follows?
Fill in the corresponding number in [] before each question. )
(1) Easy (2) Easy (3) Difficult (4) Difficult.
【】 Say hello to your parents in the morning and go home from school.
【】 Always tell your parents what happened at school and actively exchange ideas with them.
【】 When parents come back from work, they take the initiative to say hello and hand over a glass of water.
[] Share some housework as much as possible.
On your birthday, send a gift to your parents to thank them for their kindness.
[] Give presents to parents on their birthdays. Or do a special housework or something.
【】 After having a conflict with your parents, you can take the initiative to admit your mistake afterwards.
During the holidays, you should spend more time at home with your parents, or go shopping and have fun with them.
What else can we try? There are many ways and channels of communication, and the key is for us to be conscientious.
We can also try some other more specific ways of communication. Such as; Write letters, leave messages, text messages, emails, Father's Day, Mother's Day, Thanksgiving Day, birthdays, festivals, walks, heart talks and so on.
For example, how will you communicate with your parents on your birthday? (1) Ask your parents to give you gifts? (2) Did you give your parents a gift to thank them for their parenting?
Sometimes, due to poor communication between us and our parents, some contradictions arise, so how can we solve them? The following teacher teaches you a method:
5. Six steps to conflict resolution:
1) Think about the reasons for the conflict.
2) Think about ways to solve contradictions, and list five items, and pay attention to avoid only considering your own interests and ignoring your parents' wishes.
3) Understand parents' wishes and reasons. You can take the initiative to tell your parents.
4) state your wishes and reasons to your parents. You can talk to your parents or write to them.
5) Choose a conflict resolution method. Among the five listed methods, choose one acceptable to both parties and one unacceptable, and choose one from the list to try. Pay attention to fully consider the opinions of parents and make appropriate concessions.
6) Observe whether the selected method satisfies both parents and themselves.
6. Role-playing:
This is a very familiar scene of parent-child conflict. If you were the sea, what would you do? Would you please perform on stage? Who wants to perform on stage? Prepare two chairs. Students take turns to play themselves and communicate with their fathers. Role-play and try to solve the conflict in six steps)
Situation: Hai is a football fan, and he is even more excited about the upcoming Asian World Cup qualifiers (soccer matches), especially the excellent performance of the China team, which makes him extremely excited. He hardly missed a game, and he was immersed in the "ball environment" all day, not thinking about his studies. His parents were very angry and forbade him to watch the football match, so the sea clashed with his parents.
7. Summarize this activity class.
After class (1), please design several methods to improve the communication between family members and let the whole family spend a happy time together.
(2) Write a "Thank You to Parents" and read it to parents at appropriate festivals.