First, arrange and blame.
Children are curious about many things when they are young, such as washing clothes, washing dishes, washing the floor, answering the phone to their parents and so on. But our parents always think that children are too young to participate, which is adding to the chaos. From these aspects of life, it is the authority and command of our parents to their children. This condescending attitude is actually a manifestation of modesty. Slowly hit the child's self-confidence and deprived the child of the right to use his own hands and brain. I have helped my children since I was a child, and my children have no habit of doing housework when they are old. At this time, our parents blame their children for being lazy and ignorant. Think about whether these things are unfair. So our parents need to be more patient in life and wait for their children. When we are with Yingying, we will try to be patient and often ask her if you are doing well. Do you think there is a better way to teach mom and dad?
Second, look at the problem correctly
Teach children to look at problems correctly and not compare with others. Take the concept of consumption as an example. I often analyze Yingying's consumption view. Under the same income, some people like to travel, so they will save money from other places, such as eating out less, buying less clothes and spending most of their money on travel. Some people like to dress beautifully, so they buy less food and go out to play less, and then they often buy clothes. Some people like good food, so they will spend less money on traveling and shopping. Some people have a sense of saving, so they will save more money for future work. So everyone's consumption patterns have their own reasons. We don't make some one-sided comments, we don't brag about where we went to play, others didn't go, or others had something we didn't have. Everyone has his own interests, so everyone is living in his own way. So why is everyone taking photos on WeChat? It's not that people are happy, nor are they showing off, but what they do makes them happy. They sent them to the WeChat circle to share their happy feelings. When the child understands this truth, she will know that everyone is living according to their favorite lifestyle, and she will learn to be modest without any comparability.
Third, learn to learn from others.
Every competition is the best opportunity to guide Yingying to learn from others, such as a dance competition. If it weren't for special reasons, we would have seen it from beginning to end. I will watch every dance with Yingying, because there are many kinds of sports dances and dances at different levels are different. People from children to adults participated in the competition, and many teachers participated in the competition, which was very exciting. Yingying is used to finding friends in that competition team. In the process of watching, we often communicate. For example, if a friend dances better than her, we will talk about how the other person learned and how he usually practiced. Not familiar with it, I asked Yingying where the difficulty of this dance is and how long it will take to practice it to this extent. Or what is the difference between their dance and Yingying's dance? In this way, Yingying will be more serious when appreciating other people's games, and will compare her own shortcomings with others. For some children who dance worse than themselves, Yingying will say that she must learn later than me, or that her teacher is not good enough, or that she is not attentive enough, and so on. When Yingying gets good results in the competition, I will promptly affirm the child's previous efforts, give praise and encourage her to learn from higher-level students. At this time, Yingying will say that my grades are nothing, much worse than those of high-level people, so I still need to practice hard in the next stage. I think if children don't know the level of others on the spot, they may be complacent about their small achievements under the praise of others, thus slacking off and losing the motivation to move forward.
Fourth, let the children make their own summaries. What can you ask them?
Children are growing up every day, so family education should keep pace with the times and improvise. Yingying is now a senior child in primary school and is about to enter adolescence. Girls need more careful care from their parents. Therefore, in life, our parents will pay more attention to talking less and listening more, such as cultivating Yingying's integrity in doing things. What should be said in the early stage has been said, and what should be demonstrated has also been demonstrated. In the past two days, I found that Yingying did not take her clothes to the swimming pool in time after taking a shower, and her underwear was not washed in time. Last night, I waited for her to take the bowl to the kitchen after dinner, and then set the chairs. I said, wow, things have become more and more complete recently. What do you think of the recent honesty-themed things that don't need mom's reminder? It should be said that there is no need to mention the initiative of doing homework; In addition, after playing the piano, put the chair items back in place; Clean up after eating and put away your shoes; The bed has been made. I said, are your ears much quieter? Yingying smiled. I said, "What other aspects need further efforts?" "It's dirty clothes." "What's your next plan?" "I decided to give me two more days." "Okay, I'm wearing a school uniform now. If you don't take it out, I won't wash it. What would you think if you didn't have a school uniform? " "Well, that's settled." "I found that you summed it up better than me." In life, our parents should be modest, lower their posture, give their children more right to speak and autonomy, and fully let their children participate in family affairs, and they will try their best to do better.
Today's children are much better at learning and receiving information than we are. When I have problems at home, I will ask Yingying as soon as possible, such as how to use the new remote control. For example, when reading a new word, I will ask Yingying if she has learned this word. For example, when parents respond to their children's situation in normal guidance, I will ask Yingying to talk about her children's thoughts from the child's standpoint and ask her what to do if it is a parent-teacher meeting. Yingying often gives me some effective advice, and now I regard her as a little teacher in my life.
In short, to teach children humility, our parents should learn to listen more and ask for other people's opinions. This is a studious attitude and concrete measures that will affect our children. Usually, people are used to thinking from their own perspective and falling into their own inherent mode of thinking, while listening to others' opinions with an open mind can broaden their horizons and help them understand the problem comprehensively. Learning is endless, modesty is very important, and you should always be a student. Parents should educate their children to maintain a modest attitude, appreciate the advantages and strengths of others, learn from others what they don't have, and correct their own shortcomings. Only in this way can he make faster progress.