Adolescent girls are very rebellious. As the saying goes, advice is hard to hear, but it doesn't work here. Parents or teachers need to have a good talk with them. Don't scold them casually. Adolescence, adults should pay more attention to children and know what children are thinking, because adolescence is a week of change, so be careful not to get worse. The following is what I have compiled about girls' adolescent education skills. Welcome to read the reference.

Adolescent education skills of girls 1

When the child does not enter adolescence, parents all know that there will be great changes after the child enters adolescence, but when the change really comes, many parents are at a loss, and some families even have very sad things.

For example, children run away from home, children self-harm, children live with the opposite sex, children drop out of school and so on.

Since parents are already psychologically prepared, why are they caught off guard by their children? Because parents don't understand the characteristics of adolescent children, they don't know what to do in the face of children's changes.

If you want to get along well with adolescent children and let them get along well at this stage, parents must first do their homework and understand their children.

1. Children are very dependent on.

Although children at this stage are very eager for independence and think they are adults, they always show their strength by rebelling against their parents and elders, hoping to be regarded as adults by their parents, but their hearts are still very fragile.

If we really let our children go, they may be at a loss when things happen, and even feel that their parents don't care enough about them.

This is the contradiction between a strong sense of independence and dependence.

Children themselves are contradictory, and we don't need to be serious with them occasionally, because children are really not that strong.

2. Locked and eager to communicate

Adolescent children are in a lively group, and they will feel irritable. They often stay alone in the room.

Why do they have to be alone? I hate being asked and interfering in my own affairs because I don't want others to know my physical and psychological changes.

But occasionally I will talk to my mother about some experiences, or bring my friends home to play.

Children like this, we should not worry, let alone be surprised. This is the characteristic of adolescent children, who are closed and eager to communicate.

3. Impulse.

The sex hormones secreted by girls of this age are greatly increased, and they are particularly active in the emotional center of the limbic system of the brain, so that adolescent girls always try to find opportunities to vent their emotions and fanaticism without restraint.

This excitement-seeking mentality may break out at any time, often manifested as running away from home, traveling around the world alone, or looking for a like-minded partner.

At the same time, risky behaviors such as speeding, drug abuse, collective crime and cohabitation between men and women are also very attractive to girls.

Compared with adults, adolescent girls can't resist these temptations.

Because the area of the brain that stops taking risks and impulses is still under construction.

Like Lawrence, a psychologist at Temple University? 6? 1 Steinberg said:? On the one hand, the part of the brain responsible for seeking stimulation is in a state of doing whatever it wants; On the other hand, the part of the brain that exercises judgment needs to mature gradually throughout adolescence.

Therefore, there is a huge gap between the temptation to drive teenagers to take risks and the restraint to learn to think twice before you act. ?

Reason is gradually formed, so girls will regret their actions after losing their temper and impulse, and begin to hate their recklessness and worry about hurting others.

So, don't argue with girls, communicate with them when they calm down and realize their mistakes. The effect will be better at this time.

4. Have a good dream

Adolescence is the season of dreaming. Girls will dream of becoming angels in white, a famous host, a movie star, a diplomat and a kindergarten teacher. At the same time, they will dream that a prince charming will come into their lives and fall in love with themselves.

When girls dream of all this, it's as easy as floating in the clouds.

However, when they wake up from their dreams, they will feel inferior and feel that those dreams are difficult to realize and full of difficulties for themselves.

5. Sexual confusion

Adolescent girls are as tortured by sexual impulses as boys. On the one hand, they are tempted by the outside world and are eager to understand sex. On the other hand, they are restricted by moral consciousness.

Because the body began to secrete a lot of estrogen and adrenaline, girls had a desire for sex.

But they know that sex is not allowed at this stage, so they take a restrained approach.

On the one hand, I try my best to restrain myself, on the other hand, I want to know that some students around me do the same, so the children will be confused at this time.

Adolescence is a time to establish self-identity. Only when girls fully understand who they are and what they can do can they guide themselves to the road suitable for their own development.

At this special stage, they don't know enough about themselves and need our parents to help them make good judgments about themselves.

Girls' Adolescent Education Skills II

First, reasonable material needs.

Material needs are the eternal theme of life. After children enter adolescence, there is still demand for clothing, snacks, toys and stationery on the surface, but the real demand is quietly changing.

Just entering adolescence, there are fewer children who pursue individuality, and more are asking themselves to follow the crowd.

Conformity makes you feel safe and integrated into the circle of classmates, which is not obvious.

With the growth of age, familiar with the surrounding environment, understanding the personality of classmates and friends, children began to show their personality and secretly compete in groups.

This comparison is of positive significance. Children gain experience and find their place in the group.

Parental support and guidance methods:

Our social level is improving, and our parents also have the mentality of keeping up with the joneses. While decorating their homes, they also improve their children's living standards, dress them up beautifully and put money in their pockets.

Imagine that when children have money in their pockets, they always think about how to spend it in class, which will inevitably affect their study.

Parents should guard against the consequences of the expansion of children's material needs, but they have to give material satisfaction. What should they do? We believe that parents should learn to judge whether their children's needs are normal.

The standard of children's normal needs is mainly from two aspects: one is to take the average or lower average of classmates' material needs.

Another criterion is to look at the family's economic situation.

If your family's economic situation is moderate or good, it is better to make your child's living standard lower.

If your financial situation is not very good, then don't force your children to enjoy high consumption for fear of being wronged. This face-saving approach will not only make children confident, but also make them worse without considering their parents' financial ability.

Second, the communication needs of friends.

Around puberty, junior high school life begins. Children seem to have entered a brand-new world, contacting new faces, new habits and new ways of learning.

This is a visible change, and there is an invisible change, that is, the transfer of thoughts and emotions of children entering adolescence.

Before puberty, children depend on their parents. When you enter adolescence, you begin to transfer to your friends, and then to your friends of the opposite sex. Finally, fix on the opposite sex, get married and have children, and enter a new cycle. This is the only way for human growth and an irresistible force.

Parental support and guidance methods:

Parents have to continue to educate their children because they are worried, even by beating and cursing.

Moreover, parents listen to the opinions of teachers and others unilaterally, preventing their children from making friends normally, fearing that their children will not study well, which will affect their studies and waste time.

Some parents make friends with their children, those who are allowed to make friends and those who can't.

Children absolutely don't accept it, so they naturally stay away from their parents and don't communicate with them.

What should parents do? First of all, let the child trust you and be willing to tell you all the problems he has encountered.

This requires parents to learn to listen and not to rush to criticize and correct.

Listening to children's complaints is also an opportunity to vent their emotions and reduce their psychological burden.

After listening, parents look for opportunities to give advice to their children. Over time, parents and children have become the most trustworthy friends.

Third, attention needs from the opposite sex.

When a child enters adolescence, there will be subtle changes in contact with the opposite sex.

They began to pay attention to the opposite sex quietly.

Attention often just stays on the outside.

For example, girls pay attention to handsome and tall boys.

The girls get together to comment and have some fresh and exciting feelings.

Boys also pay attention to girls, and occasionally talk about some girls in a teasing way. Even if they have weak love, they know they are dreaming.

Boys and girls will be stiff. This is just the primary learning stage for children to get out of the family circle and enter the society to know the opposite sex.

As time goes by, children become more and more aware of what kind of opposite sex they like and want to get close to him or her.

The initial form can be slapstick, simple question and answer, or work exchange with class activities as the theme. Many children can get to know the opposite sex through such simple communication.

Many children know that this is not love, just classmates.

They think that the beautiful love they expected has not arrived, so more people choose to wait and wait for themselves to grow up.

Parental support and guidance methods:

First of all, shouldn't our parents encourage their children to start with misunderstandings and misunderstandings? Love? .

Parents' innuendo criticism, distrust interrogation, spying on children's privacy secretly and worrying nagging reminders make children fidgety and aggravate their rebellious psychology.

Children who have contact with friends of the opposite sex will be very careful. In order to avoid exposing their feelings because of a small note and an unexpected single contact, parents will step up communication and contact. As a result, the two people are getting closer and closer, supporting and trusting each other more and more, and finally making the fake come true.

Parents played a role in fueling the flames here, but they didn't realize it.

Secondly, the pressure of study and life, children need someone to share, parents will only pressure, not decompression, children will resist their parents.

Lack of understanding, intolerance and endless criticism of children make children seek understanding and sympathy, which is also the reason why children fall in love.

Moreover, affection is a safe haven for children. If the family can't give affection to children, children can easily find affection from the opposite sex.

Fourth, need help.

When a child enters adolescence, his personality becomes extroverted, easily exaggerated and reckless.

They are dealing with problems more and more independently, and the things they encounter are becoming more and more complicated.

They are young, facing the unknown world, full of curiosity, doubt and fear. They really want bodyguards around, don't they? A knowledgeable person? , is it? Robot cat? Of course, it's good to have a lot of money in your pocket.

And all this is gone, what should I do if I encounter problems? Children need help.

Parental support and guidance methods:

It should be said that children need help in all aspects, from material satisfaction to spiritual guidance.

In this way, children can gradually get rid of innocence, establish a realistic and objective ideological system, and truly get out of the fantasy-filled, unrestrained, irresponsible, carefree and surreal adolescence, and step into youth and adulthood.

Getting help from parents should be the most convenient, direct and safe for children.

However, as far as we know, the older children refuse to help their parents.

Experience tells them that adults are unreliable.

Therefore, parents should pay attention to the fact that children are growing up and need equal (not commanding), effective (operable, problem-solving) and concrete (not empty talk) help.

Parents should choose their timing.

When you can't help your child, please consult a teacher or ask an expert to make it easy for your child to accept.

Five, the need for their own cognition

With the physical and psychological maturity, children gradually realize that they are an independent person, and the physical changes also make them more eager to fully understand themselves and their abilities.

As the child's body changes, the boy realizes that he is a man. Since he is a man, he should have a manly demeanor.

Girls who may have been fighting with boys will realize that girls should stop being crazy and act like a lady.

It can be said that to a certain extent, children locate their gender through physical changes.

Later, they need to know more about the structure of human body.

Parental support and guidance methods

At this time, parents should understand their children's needs. If you can't explain it in detail, you can go to the bookstore to choose a book with the right depth for your child and put it on his desk for him to read.

You can consciously talk about the human body with your children. As long as you think you can say it, you should take the initiative to tell your child.