The purpose of sex education is to guide children to learn correct sexual knowledge and form healthy sexual psychology and morality. Family sex education often doesn't need lectures, so don't adopt the "preaching" mode. Good family sex education should permeate and infect daily life, from children's babbling clothes and inappropriate language jokes, to the separation of men's and women's toilets in kindergartens, to unfamiliar words about the opposite sex and love in primary schools, to ambiguous feelings in middle schools, which can guide children to know how to protect themselves bit by bit.
Early sex education in the United States is 0-5 years old. The main points of sex education generally include: establishing correct and appropriate gender roles; Preventive depression and sexual inhibition from childhood; Answer the child's sexual questions correctly. Dr. Piersa, a famous American sex therapist, believes that parents should follow the following principles when conducting sex education for young children:
1, parents should never formally "talk about sex" but look for suitable educational opportunities. They can also use the popular science picture books of sex education as an introduction to children's sex education, and give children sexual enlightenment through pictures and stories, so that parents will not be embarrassed.
2. Sex education is not necessarily about the same sex. As long as the child has questions, both parents can talk about it. Psychologists believe that 2-4 years old is an important period for children to have sex education. In psychology, there is a sexual budding period, which means that children around 3 years old have a special psychological development stage. In this period, children ask sexual questions not out of physiological needs, but just to satisfy curiosity. Therefore, when children ask about you, be sure not to be vague, shy, and not to be simple and rude. You should actively respond to children's curiosity and face sexual problems frankly.
3. Sex education should first emphasize "what can be done" rather than "what can't be done". In addition to talking about picture books, parents can also watch some popular science videos of sex education with their children, such as the American short film How to Tell Your Children. And tell and guide children what they can and can't do through videos.
4, sex and love education is not only once in a lifetime, it needs to be continuous, so don't expect to make children immune for life through one education. In addition, both parents should teach at the same time that parents are the closest model of love and being loved.
According to the different ages of children, the following education can be carried out:
1, for children aged 0-3, parents should tell their children:
(1) Every child's body belongs to him. Help him to know his gender correctly and let him know the difference between the two sexes.
(2) Strangers are not allowed to touch your body, but some adults can touch your body, such as parents bathing their children and doctors or nurses examining them;
(3) If someone touches your body and makes you feel scared, surprised and uncomfortable, be sure to tell your parents.
2. For preschool children aged 4-5, parents should tell their children:
(1) Help children know the correct names of body parts (such as penis and vagina). ). In the bathroom, parents can help you wipe or wash little ass; In addition, when you don't want to be moved by others, you can clearly tell others that you don't like it;
(2) Let children understand that they can't expose some reproductive organs of the body casually, because this is personal privacy, not that some parts of someone's body are shameful, but out of respect for personal privacy;
(3) There is a difference between boys and girls. Don't let others touch your body casually, and don't touch other people's bodies casually, so that children can learn to protect themselves; In addition, if someone touches or invades your privacy and asks you to keep a secret, be sure to tell your parents;
(4) It is wrong for adults to observe and touch children's reproductive organs without justifiable reasons;
(5) If an adult touches or observes a child in an abnormal way, there is nothing wrong with the child;
(6) Most adults will not sexually abuse their children, but boys and girls may be sexually abused.