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Parents always love "educating" people. What should we do?
It is good for the older generation to remind young people with their long-term accumulated experience and let them dispel their doubts through this word, but the problem is that educators who always "lean on the old and sell the old" always show their elders' identity, which is not easy to accept. Looking at the older generation, if they really "learn", "make a difference in society" or have a certain social status, they don't love "educating" people so much. Most of them like to discuss things with young people. If the discussion is really intense and in-depth, they will feel that they have learned something from young people, but they will lament that they are not as fast as young people in accepting new things. On the other hand, some "mediocre" and "empty for a long time" elders, the more they go to some family gatherings, the more they like to highlight their "family status", and they will always come up with some so-called truths, no matter what they are familiar with or unfamiliar with, or even what they have never been exposed to, they can always talk to Kan Kan with their mouths open. At this time, once refuted, it will be strongly suppressed by identity. "I have lived for fifty or sixty years. What do you know as a young man who has just left society? " "I'm wrong is wrong. You were not born when I was wandering in the society. " Maybe they really have nothing else to prove themselves, so they can only find some balance from the "innate advantage" of this family relationship to satisfy their self-esteem! Some people say that elders are really good to you, and I basically agree, but does "being good to you" necessarily mean "being suitable for you and being good to you"? Eating eggs is good for health, but some people are allergic to eggs. You still have to go after him and tell him that I must eat eggs for your own good! This situation is the most difficult, you can't fight, you can't scold, and you can't. There are enough bits and pieces in life. I hope the elders will stop clinging to "educating" the younger generation. After all, we won't listen to what you say!

Because the elders want us to take fewer detours and teach us the experience they have summed up through education, they always like to educate us.

What we don't like is not the education of our elders, but the feeling of being denied. The elders summed up a set of their own life experiences with their own life experiences. Except for the extreme parts, most of the contents are the mainstream thoughts of an era. Every era will see different scenery, but the elders just see more than us. Just like when we were in our twenties, we couldn't understand the idea of being 42. Elders are not philosophers, they can tell the conclusions brought by experience, but it is difficult to explain. Or the answer given is too far-fetched for you to accept and be satisfied.

The elder said to put career first, but didn't tell us why. Obviously, love is also rare. The elder said he would get married and have children, but he didn't tell us why. It's good to be single. There is no answer, just like Pandora's box, which tempts our rebellion and always feels that our elders are making things difficult for themselves. Life is a gobbledygook without words, and you can understand it without words. Elders especially like to say this sentence: You will understand when you reach my age. In our view, this is a demonstration of age experience, but it is a helpless move for the elders.

The elders' education of our initial intentions is not only for our own good, but also for our hope that we will not add chaos. I once filmed a Xiong Haizi. He is lazy, with raw eggs in his hand, and wants to throw them directly into the bowl on the table. I said it would break. You have to walk over there and put it there. He wouldn't listen, but insisted on throwing it. Finally, he asked me to clean the table and floor.

What if his behavior determines not the fate of the egg, but life? One person is glad that the whole family is happy, and one person is bitter that the whole family is sad. Because I love you very much, I don't want you to get hurt, otherwise I will be very sad. But at this time, what we feel is that the umbrella is too thick, which hinders our progress and is selfish to our emotions. But it is love that touches people's hearts.

We hate the elders pointing out life, as if our future had been seen at the end. What we don't like is that our elders deny our infinite possibilities. We don't like the authoritative tone of our elders, as if all our choices were wrong answers. What we don't like is that our elders have hit our self-confidence. We hate the scripted elders, as if our lives were just following in the footsteps of others.

What we don't like is that our elders deprived us of our free will. Many truths said by elders are based on personal experience, and most of them are accurate. Because we are not old enough for our elders, we can protest without scruple. If you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer ahead. This sentence is really terrible. But the fact is such a strange thing. You will never understand without experience.