Parents who like surfing the Internet must have seen the news that so-and-so parents were angry when they helped their children with their homework! So-and-so children go against the sky, and three new words have not been written for 4 hours!

At this time, there must be kind netizens to comfort them: children are healthy and healthy, not all children are learning materials, let it be! This is good for children and adults!

At first glance, what netizens said is quite reasonable, but if we really do this, is it really good for our children? Obviously this is self-deception.

My friend's children went to school in the village when they were young. The conditions there are very poor, and the teachers all retire from above, with old ideas and old ways. Teachers have no sense of responsibility, can't guide and can't teach. Moreover, homework friends have taught children several times and are often angry. Finally, they have to respond to the netizen's sentence: let nature take its course!

In this way, children naturally go from primary school to junior high school. Because I didn't lay a good foundation, junior high school felt unable to keep up. He once wanted to drop out of school, and was finally asked by his family to persist until he graduated from junior high school. I was also blindsided when I filled in my volunteers, because my score was too low to apply for any major I wanted to study. At this time, he began to regret it and couldn't help blaming his parents. Why didn't he guide him more?

When my son said this, my friend also felt very regretful. Now that she has a second child, she said, I'm sorry for the boss, and I can't be sorry for the second child anymore! In this way, after giving birth to a second child, friends often buy various parenting books to catch up on parenting knowledge, paying special attention. She said: I don't want my children to be excellent, but as a parent, I can't be lazy!

Raising children is not like writing on the blackboard. If we make a mistake, we can delete it and rewrite it. Once you make a mistake, the impact on your child may be lifelong, and it is useless to regret it.

Mr. Wu Ganlin, a famous management scientist and Methodist, has a son named Wu Mutian. In elementary school, he didn't like studying, he was naughty all day, and even ignored the law and beat his father. If such a child is in an ordinary family, his parents may ignore him directly because there is nothing they can do about him.

However, Wu Ganlin and his wife were completely disillusioned: there was something wrong with our previous education, and the child was seriously self-centered. He must be made to understand that he is responsible for himself!

Since then, their educational thoughts have changed, but they did not write this change on their faces or talk about it, but did it imperceptibly.

Once, Mr. Wu was reading the local newspaper and saw an advertisement for a military summer camp on it, so he wanted to send his son. But at that time, Wu Mucai was in the third grade, and his age was not enough, so the organizer hesitated. Wu Ganlin had to discuss with each other, and finally they agreed.

The next step is to communicate with my son. At this time, we should pay attention to skills. Wu Ganlin did not tell his son directly, but let his wife and children communicate. Mrs. Wu knew that her child had a dream of being a general since childhood, so she asked her son if he wanted to be a general as soon as possible, and his son said yes. She guided her step by step and told Tian Mu that if you want to become a general as soon as possible, you should get in touch with military training as soon as possible. Here's an opportunity. Do you want to go?

When his mother said this, Wu Mutian, who wanted to be a general, immediately agreed. Then his mother put forward the problem he had to face and asked him if he was afraid. He said very firmly that he was not afraid.

In this way, Wu Mutian began to live in a military summer camp. As expected, he rushed up and regretted it in less than half an hour. I didn't expect it to be so difficult to stand in the hot sun and kick forward! So he thought of running away, but failed several times. Finally, he was forced to stick to it.

Since you can't escape, you might as well train well. After the epiphany, Wu Mutian began to cooperate with the training, and finally won the title of excellent student. After returning home, Wu Mutian, like a different person, has obviously enhanced his consciousness of self-management. Not only will I take the initiative to do housework, but I will also do my own housework well.

Obviously, he has found the golden key to his own growth, and that is the happiness of self-growth! This is why excellent children will become more and more excellent.

As Mr. Wu Ganlin said: No matter how much parents love their children, they can't replace them; No matter how good parents are, they can't replace the growth of their children. Therefore, what we have to do is to guide the child and provide him with opportunities to find the positive "golden key" as soon as possible!

Then the question comes: how do parents teach their children to be conscious? In this regard, I strongly recommend that you read Mr. Wu Ganlin's book "If you can teach, children will be conscious".

This book is Mr. Wu's 19' s godson's notebook, in which he shared with us his experience on how to cultivate children's consciousness. He conveyed a belief to many parents who were caught in the anxiety of teaching their children: as soon as the children were conscious, the parents were liberated! After reading this book, you can get rid of the thankless busy state of your godson and teach more worry-free and better children.

One of the major problems in education now is that there are too many reasons and too few methods. In the book "If you can teach, children will be conscious", Wu Ganlin not only lists many experiences of Wu Mutian's transformation from disobedience to self-management, but also creates a miracle of growth. It also summarizes a series of effective methods for children to develop self-awareness and self-management ability.

Lu Qin, a well-known family education expert, and Sun Yunxiao, a well-known adolescent education expert, spoke highly of this book, believing that the self-management education practiced by the author has positive exploration significance in the field of family education.

"If you can teach, children will be conscious" by Wu Ganlin, published by Oriental Publishing House, the official version, the activity price is only in 24 yuan, click the link below to buy!

A good book is like a lighthouse, pointing out the direction for a long voyage. If you are in the anxiety and confusion period of your godson, you must read Mr. Wu Ganlin's book "If you can teach, your child will be conscious". He will clear the fog for you, let you see the essence of the problem, and thus actively respond!

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