65438+February 4, Xi 'an, Shaanxi. The mother pretended to evade 5 yuan's money, and her 5-year-old son insisted on returning it. The child's mother, Ms. Li, said that because he likes cards very much at ordinary times, I wanted to try him with this thing after dinner, so I said I wouldn't settle the bill and bought him a card with this 5 yuan. Finally, he chose to pay the boss. I was quite happy at that time. My mother pretended to run away, and my 5-year-old son insisted on paying.
In Xi, Shaanxi, a mother took her son to buy water. This splash cost five yuan. Mother took the water and turned away without paying. However, the next second, an incredible scene appeared. The mother pretended to run away, and her 5-year-old son insisted on paying.
According to the child's mother, she deliberately refused to give money and wanted to see the child's reaction. She took the water and turned away without paying. She told her son that we wouldn't pay the water fee, and the money saved would buy your favorite card ... My mother pretended to run away, and my 5-year-old son insisted on paying, but I didn't expect her to go back and pay. Ms. Li, the mother of the child, said that she was very happy to see the child so sensible.
Mom bought something and deliberately didn't give money. She wants to test the children's reaction ... this is a relatively successful reverse education, which can shape children's values, living habits and social quality. This kind of reverse education is much better than persuasion education.
I brushed a video before, saying that a mother took her child's private money hidden at home and went to the Internet cafe to play games, and took this opportunity to test her child's concept of wealth. Through such vivid "reverse education", children can quickly develop better personal habits, which will better help them grow up. Dear family, have you ever tried to educate your children in the opposite direction?
Ms. Li took her children to buy water. She deliberately refused to give money, hoping to use such "reverse education" to guide children to shape good values ... We noticed a detail: Ms. Li didn't give money, and then she asked the children, didn't we use this money to buy cards ... Finally, under the guidance of Ms. Li, the children successfully answered the answers that Ms. Li wanted. The mother pretended to run away, and her 5-year-old son insisted on paying.
In fact, I don't think Ms. Li's reverse education is successful. She finally got the answer by telling her children "no money". This has obvious hints and inducements, which may not be what the child really wants to express.
The best thing to do is that Ms. Li doesn't pay, then walks for a long time, intentionally or unintentionally saying "I didn't seem to pay just now", and then continues to go home to see the child's reaction at this time. At this time, the child's reaction is something in his subconscious and a true portrayal of his heart.
If you don't need the mother's prompt, the child finds out the fact that he didn't pay the money and points it out, which shows that the child's three views are correct. If the mother said in an understatement that the child pointed out the mother's problems and asked for money, it shows that the child's values are very positive and worth cultivating. If the mother said this lightly and the child turned a deaf ear, then the child's values are problematic and need to be shaped.