When a child is disobedient, many parents will directly beat and scold him, and rarely ask or communicate with him, because it is generally considered unreasonable to reason with the child. In fact, this view is wrong. Children have their own thoughts and ideas. When a child is disobedient, it is best to find out the reason for his disobedience and listen to him patiently. As a parent, you can use your knowledge or ideas to convince him that this is wrong, and he will be much better in the future, at least I am.

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Teaching children doesn't have to be beaten and scolded, but usually needs to be influenced.

Do you know what kind of child he was when he was a child and how he was transformed by his mother in an unusual way? It was a sinking pond that killed him, and the despair of a mother urged the child to understand and change. Extraordinary children should use extraordinary educational methods. Education has never been a static model, and it is a good way to let children walk on the good road. Besides, who says foreigners don't hit children? They are all rigid thinking, which is unacceptable and wrong. They will take the child away from the scene, enter a relatively closed space, and beat the child's ass loudly with firm determination to show that the child's behavior is not allowed. What kind of children need what kind of education methods, fighting is just one of them. It's not like they have to crack down on illegal publications in concentration camps every day, but appropriate punishment is necessary. For introverted and timid children, fighting is definitely less used, but for lawless and fearless children, can it be useful to speak out of turn? Of course, beating people can also be replaced by other punishment modes, and it is impossible unless absolutely necessary, but when all means fail, you have to use this trick to contain him. Think about it, if the child has been so bold, who can control him when he grows up (except the prison and the police)? Our children are about the same age, so I can understand your pain. I always tell the truth to my child, but when the truth doesn't work, I tell the truth first and ask him if it's true. If the child deliberately doesn't listen to the truth, I will choose to play and explain to him first. If he doesn't listen to the lecture, he will only play. After the fight, I asked him, did you listen to my reasons? He said no, I'll ask again, did you listen when I hit you? If you answer wrong again, I say now you know how annoying it is to be wrong. You are unreasonable at first, but only by playing can you listen to reason. What would you choose? He said that he would also choose to take a taxi, and ask him again the next time he encounters something similar. Listen to reason or ask reason? He will definitely choose to be reasonable. Therefore, you can use beatings (or other punishments, such as canceling a benefit), but don't abuse them and explain the causal relationship between them to your children. If parents vent their emotions, it is generally wrong. Afterwards, you should apologize to your child in time and hug him to get his forgiveness. Try not to make such low-level mistakes again. Children can forgive you. In addition, one more thing, my children never treat their partners with violence. Even if someone beats him, he will reason with his partner and me unless he has to, so there is less and less chance to call him to educate him, which is almost unnecessary. Generally, a small amount can be used between the ages of three and twelve. Before the age of three, children are not sensible, so it is best not to play. After the age of twelve, children's self-esteem is quite strong. Don't use this method, think of other methods and means. Personally, I think it's a good idea to cancel the welfare. It is recommended to use it because welfare is related to the vital interests of children. Generally speaking, children can get a proper education. Don't try too hard at first, mainly to let him remember for a long time, but when the child is older and more sensible, he must not fight. If you reprimand, pay attention to your words and don't hurt your child's heart. Don't insult a 4-year-old who knows what it means, no matter what it means, it will make him remember the difference between older children and other children. You know, look at yourself first and be polite. This is absolutely true, but a good educational method depends on persistence. After all, before the child is mature, it will instinctively be shaped according to your mold. If the way you adopt is always changing and you can't stick to it, then the child naturally doesn't know what to do to satisfy you. Let him know clearly what you like and hate. Children instinctively want to be liked. Secondly, it is almost as impossible for a four-year-old boy not to make mistakes as it is for him to suddenly turn 40. In this case, tolerate his naughty little mistakes and don't get angry easily. But as the saying goes, the child will "control the skin" and he will not be afraid of you. For those big problems of principle, we must seriously deal with them. Remember, once we get angry, we must persist, no matter what means we take, we must persist until he gets rid of them. Giving up halfway can only make future education more difficult. In short, adhere to two principles, let children know where the boundary of the thunder pool is, and he will not easily cross it; Allow him to make some small mistakes and be naughty.