First, low voice education-scientific basis
Psychologists have studied what should be expressed in what tone, and found that different tones will produce different effects when dealing with the same thing. Adults criticize children, and it is more acceptable for children to keep their voices down. This is because:
1. A deep voice can make people more rational and calm, and can also relax children's psychological defense against rebellion and rebellion, which is conducive to communication.
2. Criticizing children in a low voice can not only concentrate their hearing, but also preempt children to use high notes. In life, we often see adults scolding children loudly, and the voice of children's resistance is not low. The two sides became more and more excited, and finally the adults became angry and the children were not convinced.
3. A deep voice can drive away anger. Parents are the teachers who have taught for the longest time in their children's lives. Adults' words and deeds have the greatest influence on children. Being grumpy, not calm, and scolding children's parents loudly will definitely have a subtle influence on children's character.
Second, education in a low voice-measures
1. Criticize the child for lowering his voice.
A deep voice can make people more rational and calm, and it can also relax children's psychological defense against conflict and rebellion, which is conducive to communication. Criticizing children in a low voice can not only concentrate their hearing, but also pre-empt them from using high notes. In life, we often see adults scolding children loudly, and the voice of children's resistance is not low. The two sides became more and more excited, and finally the adults became angry and the children were not convinced.
2. Use the right tone and wording
For many parents, it is difficult to control themselves from criticizing their children. So please think twice before you speak, and use appropriate tone and wording, which will have a good effect. For example, "I love you, but I can't accept your behavior" will be difficult at first, but after a while, the children will naturally understand what you mean.
3. Explain to children what they should do.
For example, take your child to the supermarket, tell him not to tamper with the goods, and warn him of the consequences if he violates them. Stick to it from beginning to end, don't threaten loudly.
4. Don't use language that hurts children's self-esteem.
As far as the matter is concerned, don't vent your feelings for your child at will, and don't use language that hurts your child's self-esteem.