Educating children is like flying a kite. If it is too strict, the child will be timid, but if it goes with the flow, the child will have no sense of rules. In the process of growing up and learning, you must not expect him to consciously regard laissez-faire as waiting for flowers to bloom. This is the biggest lie and the most dangerous move in education.

A self-disciplined child will certainly achieve something in the future, but the cultivation of self-discipline needs the care and efforts of parents.

"three let go"

1. Let the children be independent.

Learning to let go is the greatest educational wisdom of parents. Doing things instead of children not only deprives children of the opportunity to experience their own abilities, but also

Let him lose the ability to face and solve problems. To put it bluntly, it is actually that parents do not regard their children as an independent individual. After the child is 2 years old, parents should gradually reduce their care for the child. Be a "60-point mother" instead of continuing to be a "perfect mother" who takes the place of children in everything. At this time, parents should learn to let go properly and leave room for their children to explore.

2. Let your children try to make mistakes.

As parents, we should understand that children's growth is to learn from mistakes or failures, and every mistake a child makes is an opportunity for growth. When children know how to face mistakes or failures correctly, they can learn to persist and succeed. There is no white road in the world. Only by letting children try and make mistakes can they cultivate a strong heart.

3. Let the children choose.

A qualified parent should guide children, not make decisions for them. In life, parents should learn to let go, and let their children move freely and do what they want when they obey the rules. Some things in life. Such as dressing, undressing, eating, sweeping the floor, etc. You should let the children choose to do it themselves. Knowing how to let children choose for themselves is actually a kind of wisdom. Don't always take "I am good to you" as an excuse to deprive children of their right to choose.

On the way to education, parents need "freedom", let go when it is time to let go, and grasp when it is time to grasp.

"two grasps"

1. Grasp the habit.

Mr. Ye Shengtao, a famous educator in China, said: "What is education? In a word, it is to develop good habits. " 0-6 years old is the key period for children to develop behavior habits. If they miss it, it's hard to correct it. This is why the older children are, the more difficult it is to manage. Therefore, parents must set rules for their children before they are qualified. Set a good example for children and help them develop good habits such as independence, self-confidence and self-discipline.

2. Pay close attention to ability training

The sooner these three abilities are cultivated, the more hopeful the future of children will be.

The first is self-discipline.

There is a quality that can make a person stand out from mediocrity. This quality is not talent, education, IQ, but self-discipline. Self-discipline is a child's advanced soft power. Self-disciplined and non-disciplined children lead completely different lives.

The second is thinking ability.

Einstein said: "It is more important for children to learn to think and judge independently than to acquire knowledge." Independent thinking is a child's lifelong ability. Children with independent thinking ability will not blindly follow suit when encountering things.

The third is self-control.

Nowadays, electronic products, online games and colorful things in society attract children. You helped your child quit the game, and there are countless attractive "things" waiting for him. Unless children learn to control themselves, parents can't be good-looking masters of their children all their lives. Children with strong self-control are more likely to succeed in the future.