A few days ago, I looked through my blog directory carefully, and I felt that all the contents about family education in high school were basically involved in my blog post. From my real experience and understanding of accompanying my children to prepare for the college entrance examination, to my understanding of educational concepts, to case analysis and post-reading, I occasionally see some books I recognize in my blog posts, but I regret that I didn't talk about my learning experience.

Today, I chose the theme of "Four Books Parents in High School Should Read" to make up for this deficiency. At the same time, I hope that today's communication can bring some inspiration to parents, so as to effectively improve themselves and grow up with their children.

It is every parent's good wish to make their children grow up healthily and happily and achieve something in school, but it is not easy to be a competent parent in reality. To be a competent parent, you must study, think and practice, and actively deny yourself in practice. According to my study and practice for more than 20 years, I think parents should learn the following four books.

First, establishing a correct educational concept is the fundamental point of being a competent parent.

Nowadays, there are many things that are popular in society, but few things that teach people to seek Tao. Tao, truth, principles, laws and fundamental things; Technology, method, skill, scheme, concrete thing. My understanding of family education is that the concept of education is the so-called "Tao" and the way and method of education is "technique". I used this connotation to explain my screen name "Minzhe" in my first blog post.

For more than 20 years, I have read more than 100 books on family education at home and abroad. The general feeling is that China does not have a complete educational theory system, and so does the economic field. This should also be a major factor for our country to lag behind western developed countries. This is also the reason. In recent years, I haven't read many books in this field in China, and some books have problems as soon as they see the title.

I was deeply impressed by the books about the concept of family education, and not many of them became my reference books. Now I want to recommend four books to you.

1。 Give me your hand, my child (Heim G. Girotte), and how to say that children will listen, and how to listen to them before children can speak (two students of Guinot). These two books have played a vital role in establishing my new educational concept.

Heim g girot is a doctor of psychology, a clinical psychologist, a child psychologist and a pediatrician. Adjunct Professor of Psychology at the Graduate School of new york University, and postdoctoral consultant at Ajder University of the Philippines. He devoted his short life to the study of children's psychology and the education of his parents and teachers.

Give me your hand, son, this book can be summarized in six sentences: parents and children need to respect each other; Love needs skill; A good relationship is better than a good education; Respond to children's feelings rather than behaviors; Praise children's efforts and achievements; Learn to really listen.

The book "How to say that children will listen and how to listen to children will speak" is the author's inheritance and development of Heim G. Giroth's educational concept. There are not many technical terms in the book, just like a competent neighborhood mother telling you her parenting experience, which makes you feel particularly cordial, simple and very practical. This book also laid the foundation for my blog post-focusing on case analysis and capturing valuable information in dialogue.

2。 I wrote this book more than ten years ago, and I can't remember which friend I lent it to, but the deepest impression it left me is still fresh in my memory, that is, the classification of the problems existing in family education-excessive care (doting) and excessive interference with children.

3。 The Gate of Emotional Intelligence (by Lawrence Shapiro, USA), which I have read several times. The general feeling is that parents are always staring at their children's studies, and it is extremely stupid to pay too much attention to their children's academic achievements. Paying too much attention to children's academic performance will not only make them unhappy, but also make them "malnourished". After reading this book, you will have a clear understanding of children's emotional intelligence and know how to help children improve their emotional intelligence.

Focusing on cultivating a certain part of children's emotional intelligence in the family will have a snowball effect. Once you start, things will get better and better. I have a deep understanding of this.

Second, how high the parents' thoughts are, how far the children can go.

Some people say, "How high your mind is, how far you can go." I think this sentence is very classic. I extended it to "how high the parents' thoughts are, how far the children can go." "Educating children should focus on guiding them, not replacing them as crutches. In other words, it is to fish for children instead of fishing. Guidance is guidance, only walking in front of children can be called guidance. Then as their abilities improve, you can surpass their parents, that is, shine on you, and surpass Blue. To improve one's ideological level requires constant study and understanding. There are many books that can broaden our horizons and improve our ideological realm. Here, I only have four books, which can be regarded as attracting jade.

1。 Design of childhood life (Gao). After reading this book, I really felt how developed American education is and the educational differences between the East and the West. Then I consciously discussed with my children and guided them to make plans and designs for their future. Here, I want to talk to you about my thoughts on this book. I feel short of height, so here is a brief introduction of this book to share with you!

"With vivid brushstrokes and detailed information, this book tells the story of an ordinary girl who, under the guidance of her father, set up her life ideals and career goals from an early age, struggled to pursue her dreams on the expected life trajectory, and realized her ideal goals step by step, supplemented by other rich and convincing cases, conveying to readers an idea: in a standardized society, life can be designed and should start from childhood; With scientific and ideal life planning, people can realize self-awareness and inevitable success step by step and predictably, without relying on opportunities or bole. Through warmth, flashing wisdom, overlapping