Everyone knows that the starting point of corporal punishment is for the good of children, for children to remember lessons, and for fear of things or behaviors that should not be done.
However, if the corporal punishment of parents does not reach an agreement with the children in advance, and there is no clear sense of punishment and rules, but means venting anger, humiliating and degrading the children, then this kind of beating is definitely wrong.
In other words, if parents avoid the above misunderstanding and just take "corporal punishment" as one of the methods of behavior correction objectively and neutrally, then it is not bad. But we must pay attention to the following points:
First, corporal punishment cannot cause substantial harm to children.
The purpose of corporal punishment is to educate, not to cause physical pain to children, not to abuse children.
Some parents are so angry that they can't wait to beat and scold their children until they admit their mistakes on the spot. This is not a scientific education, but more about creating pain for children.
Second, corporal punishment must be done with children without reason.
Many parents give their children a beating as soon as they come up after their children make mistakes. Children are unprepared and not desirable.
There are many ways to punish. When children realize what consequences they will face after making mistakes, they will have a certain degree of fear and generally dare not make mistakes easily.
Third, don't use verbal violence against children at any time.
Parents must realize that verbal violence is no less harmful to children than corporal punishment, and even far more harmful than corporal punishment in many cases.
Abuse, such as "stupid pig", "idiot", "useless" and "worthless". In fact, intense expression and tone, insulting language, tense, depressing and frightening atmosphere are more terrible for children than simple corporal punishment, which will cause great psychological trauma.
Some parents don't understand: why do others beat their children and I beat them? Why is it my children who have problems?
Share 10 scientific discipline methods.
1, watch and chat:
Use calm words and actions to teach children to learn correct and exemplary behaviors from their mistakes.
2. Set restrictions:
Explain clear and consistent rules in a language that they can understand at their age.
3. Inform the consequences:
Please tell your children calmly and firmly the possible consequences if they behave badly.
4. Listen to your child:
Before solving the problem, let your child finish the reason for doing so.
5. Pay attention to children:
All children want their parents' attention, and the most powerful tool to discipline children is your attention.
6, learn to praise:
Children need to know whether their actions are right or wrong. Point out and praise good behaviors and attempts as concretely as possible.
7. Learn to ignore:
As long as children don't do dangerous things, pay enough attention to good behavior and learn to ignore it may be an effective way to stop bad behavior.
8. Prepare for trouble:
Think about what to do before the problem of bad behavior may occur, plan future activities in advance, and think about what children should do.
9. Redefine bad behavior:
Sometimes children behave badly just because they are bored or don't know what to do.
10, try to be "quiet":
When implementing this method, tell children that if they don't stop their bad behavior, they will be asked to be "quiet".