Xiao Wang has been exhausted by his children's behavior recently. It turned out that Xiong Xiong just went to preschool and began to contact some basic learning knowledge.
Kindergarten teachers also ask parents to go home to help their children do their homework and check their homework. It was this series of operations that made Wang Yue, Jr., more and more angry with the children.
Xiong Xiong got stuck reciting a poem, so Xiao Wang couldn't help reminding the children loudly and sternly. When Xiong Xiong did the addition and subtraction of single digits, his little head couldn't turn for a while. Xiao Wang was very anxious. He tapped the child's head with his hand and shouted, "Can't you even do simple questions? How did I give birth to such a stupid child? "
After a period of time, Xiao Wang not only yelled at Xiong Xiong in his studies, but also lost control of his temper in some life issues.
Xiong Xiong is slow in doing things, while Xiao Wang is in a hurry. Sometimes, before the bear's feet are washed, Xiao Wang urges the children to wash their socks quickly. Xiong Xiong was disturbed by his father's urging, so he did things slowly.
Many parents can't help yelling at their children when they do something that doesn't meet their expectations.
These parents may feel regret after yelling, but the next time they want to lose their temper, they can't control themselves.
As we all know, bad temper has a very bad influence on people. Today, let's talk about parents' reprimand education.
1. Expect too much from children.
Parents yell at their children, which shows that their behavior does not meet their parents' standards. When parents are in a hurry, they will lose their temper and shout.
Some parents have high expectations for their children in all aspects, and encourage them to cultivate their children into adults. Therefore, once a child does something that is not what his parents want, his parents' mood will change.
2. Parents' emotional control ability is weak
Yelling is actually a kind of emotional out of control. As an adult, parents often yell at their children, which actually represents their weak emotional control ability.
Some parents will argue that they have a big temper, but this cannot be a reason for parents to yell at their children at will. Because of the big temper, it shows that parents have not managed their emotions well.
As an adult, parents should actively use their own reason to control their temper and set a good example for their children.
3. Habit becomes nature
Some parents don't even realize that they are yelling at their children because she has used yelling as a way of education for a long time.
This habit is the most terrible, because parents don't realize that there are some defects in this way of education.
1. Emotional management ability decreased.
Children are a mirror of parents, and parents are their teachers. Therefore, what kind of parents will cultivate what kind of children.
A parent who often makes a hullabaloo about expressing himself is bound to let his children learn to express themselves out of control. In this way, children will think that yelling is a normal emotion.
When they encounter something that makes them unhappy, they will naturally choose to vent by shouting. This is very unfavorable for cultivating children's emotional management ability.
Become timid
People can't be perfect, one can't make mistakes, and children are no exception. So parents should not be too harsh on their children's mistakes, but give them room to make mistakes.
Some parents immediately accuse and abuse their children as soon as they find out that they are wrong.
In this way, children will become more insecure, timid and afraid to take responsibility because of these behaviors of their parents. The next time a child makes a mistake, he will choose to lie to cover it up for fear of parents' blame.
3. It is easy to have rebellious psychology.
When a person is under great pressure, he may choose to be silent or erupt. Children who have been scolded by their parents for a long time may have a rebellious period earlier than ordinary children.
If parents choose to discipline their children in a rough and simple way, children will have doubts about this kind of education after receiving more knowledge, which will lead to some rebellious psychology.
1. Learn to accept children
Children are independent individuals and should not bear the unfulfilled wishes of their parents. Therefore, parents should not impose their unfulfilled expectations on their children and have too high expectations for them.
High expectations are a heavy burden for young children. Parents and friends should learn to really accept their children from the heart.
2. Communicate with children more.
Communication is an emotional bridge. Children and parents have different ways of thinking and different expression habits.
Therefore, parents should communicate with their children more and understand their thinking patterns and language habits, so as to better understand their children from their perspective and reduce disputes between them.
3. Give children the opportunity to choose
Children should not be parents' marionettes, they also have their own ideas and choices. Therefore, parents should not be eager to refuse and deny their children's demands, but should patiently listen to their children's ideas and let them make their own choices.
For example, when children don't finish their homework, but want to watch cartoons. Parents can guide them like this: "If you watch cartoons first, then tomorrow the teacher will punish the students who have not finished their homework.
If you do your homework first, then mom will download the cartoons you want to watch to your computer. Either way, you can make your own decision. "
After listening to it, the child will make a decision according to his own thinking. In this way, parents give their children the right to choose, not only will they not be angry, but they can also let their children learn to bear the consequences of their own decisions, killing two birds with one stone.
Parents' education methods can be varied, but yelling is extremely undesirable.
If parents and friends really care about their children's mental health, they should correct this practice in time and give their children a sunny and happy childhood. Dear parents and friends, if you like this article, please leave a like, a comment and a forward!