Emotional acceptance
No matter what mistakes children make, parents' first task is to accept their children's emotions and then solve the problems together. When children's emotions are accepted, they will become calm and more willing to communicate with their parents who understand them.
Children's needs
Children's needs for adults are actually very simple, that is, they are inspired, recognized, affirmed and responded positively. Emotional acceptance is not a trivial matter, it is the key to establish a deep emotional connection with children.
Equal and warm relationship
The real gain of education is to establish an equal and warm relationship with children. Even in rebellious adolescence, children are still willing to open their hearts to us and share their little secrets. As parents, we should show the power of example, educate our children with short stories and love them as they are, not as we wish.
Arouse thinking and promote communication
The purpose of our reasoning should be to stimulate thinking and promote communication. When children's behavior does not meet our expectations, simple accusations and long speeches are not the solution to the problem. If you want your child to accept a certain point of view, it is most effective to start with emotions. Stimulate their thinking and kind nature by asking and answering questions.
Moderate oral education
As "unreasonable" parents, we do not completely deny the importance of speech, but emphasize the appropriateness of oral education and the importance of behavioral education. The deepest injury in the world is often carried out in the name of love, and the most self-righteous way of education in the family is often wearing a rational coat.