We have written two articles during the cloud learning time to dig deep into this serious topic! Here I post some fragments of articles.

/kloc-what will happen to children aged 0/year? 0-2:

When the child is one to two years old, careful parents will be surprised to find that:

Children will be curious about their bodies, explore their bodies from time to time, touch various parts, allow them to suck their fingers, and even play with reproductive organs.

At this time, in children's cognition, reproductive organs are no different from their thighs, nose, mouth and other organs.

How to teach:

First of all, no matter how 0-2-year-old children touch their reproductive organs, they are learning to understand all parts of their bodies without any filthy thoughts. If parents forcibly block it, it will leave a taboo and shameful stereotype for children.

Secondly, teach children the correct names of all organs, the sooner the better.

Parents can teach their children to know their organs, including sex organs, when they are dressing, taking a bath or looking in the mirror. Please don't shy away from telling TA what TA can see with real nouns. Wriggling will confuse the child.

The purpose of this is to prevent children from feeling ashamed or guilty about all parts of the body. At the same time, if the child is unfortunately violated, TA can more accurately describe to parents which parts have been touched.

What will happen to children aged 2.3-4?

In addition to what the teacher mentioned in the gender education "Depth | Boys like to play with dolls to provoke you", children of this age will gradually identify with their own gender. At this time, they also began to notice the physiological differences between boys and girls and observe the different ways in which boys and girls use toilets.

Right "Where am I from?" "This morning, why did mom and dad shut up in the room and refused to let me in?" I feel confused. They even ask questions like "Why does his genitals look different from mine";

They began to like to play role-playing games, playing the roles of parents or doctors and patients. Most of their games are just watching, and they may touch again, but this will bring more sexual stimulation to children.

Oh, yes, sometimes they have an imaginary boyfriend/girlfriend, but this is also a normal performance.

How to teach:

First of all, it is very necessary to answer all kinds of questions of preschool children honestly (please don't lie to children and say that it is a phone call, thank you).

Because at this stage, if children can't get a real message, they will make up stories to explain the whole story out of thin air.

Then, if the child asks him where he comes from, you can tell a true story in a metaphorical way.

For example:

Father provides a sperm and mother provides an egg. They met and got together and took root in a special place-a house called "uterus" in mom's belly, from which you came out.

Secondly, if you find your daughter or son playing doctor's game (exploring each other's body) with his good friend of the opposite sex next door, first of all, don't scold TA and make him think that he has done something bad.

What needs to be clear is that for children aged three or four, these explorations are more manifestations of curiosity than sex itself.

However, if children are found to have similar behaviors, parents must start to educate TA about what is good touch and what is dark touch.

In particular, it is necessary to educate children that the area covered by underwear is a restricted area, and no one can touch it at will.

Here, we suggest that all parents should keep their children in mind:

Pants principle:

Private parts are private parts! Private parts are private parts! ?

Always remember that your body belongs to you? Your body belongs only to yourself!

No is no! No, it's not! ?

Talk about secrets that upset you, say those depressing things?

Speak up, someone can help shout, and someone will help you.

What will happen to children aged 3.5-8?

Children of this age begin to develop close friendship with the same sex; And began to redefine their relationship with their parents, all want to rely on their parents, and all want to grow up quickly. Boys will show that they are closer to their mothers, while girls are closer to their fathers.

In addition, they will be more curious about their bodies, and will gradually realize what kind of behaviors will stimulate them sexually, such as boys touching their penises and girls rubbing their vulva.

Children even ask more direct and complicated questions, such as "What is sex?" .

In addition, they may have a strong fascination with peers or adults of the opposite sex.

How to teach:

In view of the behavior of children touching themselves (touching themselves), if the frequency becomes frequent, they will play with their sexual organs from time to time, or touch themselves for a long time and indulge in it, then parents should pay attention to this signal. Because it means that some other needs of children are not met, for example, TA needs some hugs, caresses or fights.

It should be noted that at this stage, it is best for parents of different sexes not to be naked in front of their children, or to let TA take a bath with other brothers and sisters. Only when parents know how to protect their privacy can children establish a sense of privacy protection.

After the age of 6, children will have the first sexual development period-sexual germination period. In order to avoid premature secretion of sex hormones in the body (commonly known as precocious puberty), it is necessary to do so.

In fact, there is still some controversy in the education circle about whether to tell children more details about sex.

Some experts believe that if a child asks what gender is, you can simply and calmly answer:

Sex means that a man puts his penis in a woman's vagina, which is limited to adults.

Parents should not hide when answering these questions, so that children will think that sex is an unspeakable big secret, which will lead to greater curiosity.

However, some child development psychologists believe that although children of this age can understand many concepts, they are not old enough to undertake more embarrassing and complicated sexual knowledge. Although they are interested in all parts of the body, it doesn't mean that they want to know more technical details about sexual intercourse. There is so much information that children are at a loss. For some children, the combination of vagina and penis is a rather scary story. ...

Therefore, how to grasp this degree depends on careful parents to consider according to their children's situation. ......

Having said that, what we hope most is that children know how to protect themselves from harm, no matter boys or girls.