One, only give tasks without benefits. "Sometimes the relationship between interests and actions is directly proportional."
When a person wants to take advantage of you, he will always arrange various tasks for you, but it will not bring any benefits, so stay away from him, or you will get hurt.
This is the case with my best friend's predecessor. He always asks his best friend to do something for him in the name of his former job. For example, if your ex is going on a date, give today's task to your best friend. He always has a reason to give his work to his best friend.
At first, my girlfriend felt that she could help each other, but after a long time, the other party didn't even say a word of thanks, let alone the benefits. My girlfriend was very unhappy.
Second, only give virtual, really less. "Be caring and attentive, it is better to make a lot of money. Practical actions are more practical than fancy promises. " People who want to use you always promise more than action.
Later, my girlfriend also rejected her predecessor several times, but her predecessor's good words were so beautiful that she didn't know how to refuse. The elder also said that he would help his girlfriend to finish her internship early, but he couldn't help at all. My best friend began to think that this elder just wanted a white wolf with empty gloves, and then deliberately kept his distance, but there was inevitably some overlap in his work. My best friend's ex is using her and wants her to help him the most.
Third, only talk about business, not personal matters. "People who don't talk about friendship often don't treat you as a friend." People who really have a good relationship rarely talk about interests and work, but more about personal feelings.
My best friend once thought that she had a good relationship with her ex, and they could develop into good friends, but now it seems that this is just her idea. Except for work, seniors never tell their personal feelings and things to their girlfriends, which seems to be deliberately alienating and hiding, which further proves that seniors don't want to be friends with their girlfriends at all. Later, my best friend's work was on the right track, and I began to care about my elders, just doing my own thing.