In the communication with some parents of students, they often think that education is only a school matter. I told them that students' education comes from many aspects, and school education is only a part of it. It also needs the comprehensive education and influence of schools, families and society. I told them a lot, and I also synthesized a lot of the following contents.
The formation and development of primary school students' good moral quality is the result of comprehensive education and influence from schools, families and society. It is difficult to effectively promote the healthy development of students' ideological and moral quality only by relying on school education unilaterally. We must correctly understand the special position and role of family and community in the formation and development of primary school students' moral quality, dynamically analyze, study and grasp the relationship between family education, community education and primary school students' moral enlightenment education, and explore their internal operating rules.
The formation and development of people's moral quality can not be separated from certain social relations. It can be said that it is the reflection and product of certain social relations, and educators always cultivate a new generation of moral quality according to the requirements of certain social relations. Our education is to cultivate babies (natural persons) with only biological attributes into social people with social attributes, that is to say, the essence of education is to promote the socialization of people.
The so-called socialization means that in a specific social and cultural environment, individuals gradually form ideological and moral qualities that adapt to social life through interaction with society, learn to abide by the moral norms and codes of conduct of social life, and become social people that can be accommodated by society. Moral enlightenment education for primary school students is an important aspect in the process of human socialization.
A person, just born, is just a natural person with biological attributes, although he has potential social attributes. If he is divorced from society for a long time, his potential socialized genetic factors will gradually lose his husband. The discovery of Wolf Child is an example. In general, when people leave their mother's body, they are placed in a complex social environment. Various social factors will influence him through various ways and methods, making him a member who meets the social requirements. At the same time, individuals will respond to the surrounding environment in their own unique way at any time and any place, and then respond to the social environment, thus showing people's subjective initiative. As for the interaction between people and society, what kind of person an individual becomes, what kind of personality and what kind of behavior he has depends to a great extent on the first contact environment after leaving his mother, that is, the family environment. It can be said that family environment plays a very important role in children's socialization and elementary school students' moral enlightenment education.
As a living "cell" in social organism, family has many social functions such as reproduction, inheritance, consumption and education, especially moral enlightenment education, which plays a fundamental role in children's growth and is irreplaceable by school education and social education.
In the family, parents have far greater influence on women's ideological quality than others, and the younger the children are, the more obvious this feature is. This is objectively determined by special relationships such as blood relationship and material life attachment. It is embodied in three aspects: first, children are highly malleable, and parents are the first people who come into contact with their children after they are born, which will inevitably leave an indelible influence on their minds. This influence can even last a person's life. Therefore, attaching importance to women's education from an early age has the best effect. Second, the influence lasts for a long time, and children spend most of their time with their parents. This long-term osmosis plays a very important role in the formation and development of children's ideological quality. The third is the deep psychological effect of parent-child relationship. The relationship between children and parents is the closest, and the feelings are deep and true. Parents' words and deeds have a great demonstration effect on children who are good at imitating. From the perspective of people's socialization, family is the first micro-social relationship they come into contact with. Parents' social status, material life, ideological and moral quality, family members and relatives, and parents' expectations and attitudes towards their children will have a profound and lasting impact on the formation and development of their children's ideological and moral quality. Therefore, the preconceived influence of family education is often more fundamental than that of school education.
At the same time, we should also see that family education and school education are two different kinds of education. Family education is a kind of discrete education, without special plans and clear goals, which changes with the environment and has the subtle influence of "parent-child". Scattered in thousands of households, due to the differences of parents' cultural literacy, social status and moral concepts, individuals vary greatly. Moreover, school education is strictly cultivated under the guidance of the educational policy of the party and the state. Taking full-time teachers with both ability and political integrity as the backbone and training socialist builders and successors as the purpose, purposeful, planned and organized education is a formal group education. Because of the huge differences in nature and educational methods, it is often difficult to unify and coordinate them in practice, resulting in "internal friction" phenomena such as mutual conflict and mutual cancellation in education. With the continuous development and reform of society, people's ideological concepts, moral concepts and values are increasingly diversified. The contradiction and conflict between school education and family education in the direction of educating people will also intensify day by day. Therefore, the important position of family education is increasingly prominent in front of us.
Family education is a science and an art, and it is not a simple matter for parents to educate their children well. Every child has his own unique temperament, personality, hobbies and other psychological characteristics. Every child should adopt different educational methods according to his own different characteristics and teach students in accordance with their aptitude. Although parents watch their children grow up and live together all the year round, they know all aspects of their children like the back of their hands, but this is only a perceptual knowledge. Due to the lack of scientific knowledge such as psychology and physiology, many parents are often confused about some "abnormal" performances of their children and cannot adopt corresponding educational methods, which has caused many problems. Judging from some successful cases of family education, it is very important for parents to know their educational contribution and status, understand the educational characteristics of family education and master the correct methods of family moral enlightenment education.
First of all, parents are children's first teachers, and their own quality and cultivation have a very important influence on children. Because family education is more silent education, parents' ideological style, behavior habits, words and deeds have a "model" demonstration influence on children all the time. Parents' own quality is not high, so it is difficult for them to undertake the responsibility of educating their children. Therefore, improving parents' quality and self-cultivation is a fundamental problem, and it is also an important topic that some parents' schools focus on and try to solve.
Secondly, family education is a science. If parents want to educate their children well, they must follow the inherent laws of educating their children. Besides consciously improving one's ideological and moral quality, one should also master some scientific educational theoretical knowledge and family education methods, such as the basic knowledge of pedagogy, physiology and psychology, the principles and methods of family education, the psychological characteristics of teenagers (only children), mental health and hygiene, the cultivation of study and behavior habits, and the cultivation of intellectual and non-intellectual factors. Only when parents have quite scientific knowledge and methods of family education can they achieve ideal results in family moral enlightenment education.
Third, follow the objective law of moral quality cultivation. The formation of primary school students' moral quality is a process of understanding, passion and guidance, as well as a process of strict requirements and repeated training. Parents should not only explain the truth and put forward clear requirements, but also conduct appropriate and strict training for their children's moral enlightenment education. Stick to it. In education, love for children should be a kind of rational love, a kind of love that respects and demands children strictly. "Love is teaching, love is teaching." It is necessary to prevent the love, preference or doting on children and avoid the psychological instability of children caused by out-of-control education.
Fourth, we should create a good family psychological atmosphere. According to psychologists' investigation of various types of families, the psychological atmosphere of families has a great influence on the formation of children's personality. Incomplete family, parental discord, parental conflict, etc. It will cause serious anxiety and contradiction, paranoia, uncertainty or tension in children's hearts, and even lead to psychopathy and antisocial tendencies. In this case, the moral quality of children will inevitably be distorted. And those children who are full of love and harmonious families are often quiet, lively, cheerful and positive. Therefore, creating a United and harmonious family relationship and psychological atmosphere is very important for carrying out family moral enlightenment education and the healthy development of children's moral quality. Doing a good job in moral quality education will lay a vital foundation for learning.