Parents do too much in the process of educating their children, which is likely to make children dependent on their parents. It is also very likely that children will not be independent in life. Many parents are lamenting that children are difficult to teach. When parents carefully observe and think, they will find that most of the problems are with us adults, not children. Excellence has become a kind of self-compulsion. From the perspective of psychoanalysis, the way we interact with our parents in our early years will be internalized into our future personality. We believe that our true selves are flawed, and we are obsessed with our own mistakes.

Visitors returning to Mr. Zeng Qifeng will affect her enjoyment of her happiness. My grades are good, but my emotional intelligence is not high. I am very careful, but I have no sense of the overall situation. Everyone alive has more than one aspect of Excellence. When we ask ourselves to be excellent, we will also use utilitarianism to evaluate others and habitually filter out the bad qualities. Criticize your lover's incompetence, condemn your child's mistakes, and privately ridicule your friend's shortcomings. I can't see their other bright spots, their love and dedication.

Under this utilitarian aesthetic, it is difficult for us to be satisfied with the people around us. As long as you are familiar with people, you will expose bad places. This kind of exposure, which was originally a manifestation of their trust in us, has become the root of our mistakes and neglect. Finally, despair, self-abandonment, fear of incompetence. When we can't always be excellent, what will we do? Depression and decadence are born. Because no matter what you do, you can't get stable love and warmth.

The others are excellent and should be praised. Emotional control will happen. Besides, I don't know what to do to keep love. This situation is more common in elderly parents. They need to manipulate public opinion, demand filial piety from their children, and scold them if they are dissatisfied. They are afraid that they will be old, incompetent, abandoned and treated. Just like they used to treat children who failed the exam. These tossing are essentially a deep fear of being abandoned.