Now, times are different, people's ideas have changed, they have a more comprehensive understanding of children's educational concepts, and they also realize the inadvisability of the behavior of "filial son under the stick". Now the education of children is more rational, more scientific and more in line with children's physical and mental health.
The harm of authoritative family to children s education;
First, children with authoritative family education have no opinions and opinions of their own, and are timid. This kind of family-educated children are often said to be obedient good children. No matter what they do, they listen to their parents' opinions and do whatever their parents tell them to do. They don't have their own opinions. Even if they know that their parents' actions are wrong, they dare not violate them or tell their parents what they think. Such children are not happy, they have lost themselves.
Second: children with authoritative family education have no independent personality. Because of parents' strong and excessive interference in their children's lives, they hurt their psychology, make them become withdrawn and rebellious, and lose confidence in life. In the process of children's growth, it is a critical moment to establish an independent personality. Parents' strong intervention makes children worry about not realizing their dreams. Gradually, children are unwilling to communicate with their parents and friends, and will become withdrawn, world-weary and prone to depression.
Third: In authoritative family education, parents sometimes fight with their children, which is very harmful to children both psychologically and physically, and makes children and parents more and more alienated, the gap is getting deeper and deeper, and there is no affection.
Fourth, authoritative family education makes children psychologically depressed. If they are depressed to a certain extent, the children will break out, make a scene with their parents, and sometimes even fight, causing injuries.
The correct way to educate children:
First: communicate with children on an equal footing. Don't be a strong parent, make more friends with children, care more about children, and let children feel the love of their parents.
Second: Parents should be patient and reduce nagging. After all, the child is still young and not fully mature. Parents should not be impatient when things happen. They should have enough patience to communicate with their children, don't challenge their bottom line, explain their interests to them, let them choose for themselves and give them a chance to grow up.
Third: beating children is the most incompetent performance of parents and must be put an end to it. This harm is very great.
Fourth: Allow children to make mistakes. There is no child who does not make mistakes. Parents have the responsibility to remind their children to correct their mistakes in time and forgive them unconditionally.
Fifth: after the conflict between parents and children, we should reflect on ourselves more, find out our mistakes, apologize to our children for some wrong ideas and practices, and let them feel that they are equal to their parents. Parents are children's shadows. Parents apologize to their children and their children are respected. When children make mistakes, they will also apologize to their parents and respect them.
For example, my husband's colleague's child, who goes to high school at the age of 16 this year, is very rebellious. Colleagues talked about this son with a long face and didn't know how to educate the child. Every time the child comes home on holiday, he makes a scene and sometimes fights. The mother of the child is afraid that the child will go home on holiday and doesn't know how to get along with the child.
I think the problem in my colleague's family is that parents lack patience and interfere with all the children's behaviors, which makes them rebellious and causes conflicts.
Educating children is a profound knowledge. Different times have different ways to educate children. Parents should keep pace with the times and change their ideas. Some outdated educational methods can't continue. Authoritative family education is no longer suitable for the current family education model, and parents must change it.
The above is my personal opinion, I hope it will help you!