First, not confident.
From an early age, I heard my parents repeatedly say that the family is poor, others can't have what we have, and our things are cheap ... For a long time, children feel inferior in front of outsiders, as if they can't lift their heads, causing serious self-confidence and even inferiority.
Second, suppress yourself.
Obviously, I have my favorite clothes style, but for economic reasons, I dare not choose at will. You can only wear clothes left by your brothers and sisters, or clothes chosen by your parents, and slowly lose your aesthetic vision, just like the scene in "Little Shed": Huanhuan, who has good conditions at home, talks about wearing beautiful skirts, saying that the style is good, the fabric is comfortable, and Mi Tao, who has a general family, can only say "good-looking".
Many people may say that it's just a matter of clothes. In my opinion, it is not a small problem, which is related to the formation of personal aesthetics, temperament, personality and pattern, and even to the happiness of life.
Third, it is difficult to develop a scientific and reasonable consumption concept.
Saving money blindly is not necessarily a good thing. The most typical point is to save money in everything, such as reluctant to buy good quality things, but not knowing that cheap goods are facing higher replacement costs; For example, trading time for money, instead of buying time with money, missed some rare opportunities.
Fourth, there is no sense of security.
Because I knew that my family was poor from an early age, I felt insecure in my bones. Even when I work to earn money, I will read books and read things I like, but I will not buy them casually, because I know that only money, only my own money, can bring me a sense of security. When I was a child, the anxiety caused by poverty was always there.
Instilling children with the concept of family poverty from an early age has a great influence on children, which is related to the formation of their character and even their values. There is no need to elaborate on the economic pressure of modern families, but must the pressure and burden of parents be passed on to the next generation prematurely?
I grew up in a poor family. I have suffered and been tired. My parents are a hundred times more tired than me, but it doesn't mean they are right to instill poverty in my family. When my children grow up, I will make some changes about money, poverty and wealth:
First of all, don't be a complaining parent
Don't always complain in front of children and convey negative emotions, such as poor family, we can't afford it, it's too expensive, poor economic conditions at home and so on. In the long run, the psychological burden on children will be great.
Second, guide children to spend reasonably.
When children don't have the concept of money, adults should not meet all the consumption requirements put forward by children, and tell them that money should be used in the right place, and that every penny should be in the right place, instead of telling them directly that they can't spend it. When children have a certain understanding of money, they might as well tell their children the real economic situation at home, actively guide them and spend reasonably according to their family situation.
Third, be a role model for children.
It is said that parents are the best teachers for children. In daily life, adults will set a good example for their children and form the habit of using money reasonably without extravagance and waste.
Fourth, try to make money.
The economic base determines the superstructure. Now children's education needs money to support. If children have reasonable consumption needs, try to meet them. After all, there is only one childhood, so it is boring to buy them toys when they are older.
Finally, my family has a newly grown child. I sincerely hope that all friends will leave a message and discuss the issue of children's money education together. I will read any good suggestions carefully and learn from them.