The growth of children is a long process, which requires the joint efforts and edification of social education, school education and family education. It will also be of great help to children and have a decisive impact on their lives. But what is a successful education for children? I find it difficult to define. Get high marks in every exam. Is it successful to be a schoolmaster? I don't think so. It is fundamental to cultivate children's correct outlook on life, money and love, and to teach them the concept of right and wrong, the standard of good and evil, and the way to be human.
It is our responsibility and obligation to educate our children well, and his success is also our success. A good educational concept will accompany him all his life and is the most precious wealth left to him. If he develops in the future and makes contributions to the society, it is also an affirmation of our contribution and a glory to our ancestors.
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I think the greatest success of parents is to educate a good child.
What is a good boy? Have both ability and political integrity. Such children are beneficial to parents and the whole society.
Many parents are busy making money, and feel that if they have money, their children will surpass many people, and it is easy to succeed. This kind of parents think that money is success.
In fact, more money and less money does not mean that a person is successful. Many parents are too busy making money to educate their children. Children are unworthy and looked down upon by others. Even if parents have more money, it is regrettable.
When children are young, they live on their parents. When children are old, parents have to rely on them. Children are not filial, and parents will not be happy no matter how successful they are.
Some parents have nothing to do with their careers, but their children are excellent and are the pillars of the country. Such parents are admirable.
And some parents only pay attention to cultivating their children's talents and don't know how to teach their children how to deal with people. As a result, their children become talented but immoral people, so it is difficult for such parents to be happy in their later years.
Children are the longest-term investment. Parents should spend more time with their children and make them have both ability and political integrity. Let children become their own pride and become useful talents of the country.
Of course not absolutely, but in your family, children must feel comfortable when they are excellent, and there must be light in front of people. Children's education is multifaceted, and the school's living environment is very important, but the most important thing is parents' words and deeds. As the saying goes, parents are the best teachers for children, and your words and deeds will definitely have an impact on children. Children's life and behavior have a lot to do with their parents. You have devoted your life to education.
I was very moved to see this question, and my saliva was posted:
What is success? On the surface, having money, food and clothing is success. But I believe that success means helping more people in need on the premise of ensuring a worry-free life.
I didn't succeed. On the contrary, I failed. I once chose a person to work hard in other places for higher income, and made a lot of money (especially stocks, going on and even financial freedom).
I work outside, and my daughter-in-law takes care of her son who just went to primary school at home.
I will go home as soon as I have time, but most of the time, I will go home once every two weeks at most, and it can only take less than two days at a time.
Later, I slowly discovered that the boy lost a lot of family happiness without his father's company. Mom can give more care in life and study, but she can give too little in other aspects. Every time I go home, my children ask me if I can stay, so I resolutely decide to quit my job and go home.
Now I tell my son history before going to bed every night, take my children out to play on weekends, travel regularly, and tease my daughter-in-law with my children when nothing happens. ...
I found that the children are getting happier and happier.
Tell me my opinion. I'm not an expert in parenting, and I haven't studied those theories. I don't know how children's education is successful. I only know that as a father, I want to give my children a childhood, that's all.
Personally, I agree with this principle, indeed!
A good friend told me her division of family roles:
Mr. Wang is the economic pillar of the family, the elderly are the pillar of the family, the children are the hope of the future and the backbone of the family.
So far, this division of labor is the warmest and happiest declaration I have ever heard! It is also the best education for children.
For a family with children, any success is not as good as educating children. As for success or not? Different people have different standards.
I recently encountered a case in which a once praised couple had an only child. Since childhood, because the husband and wife were busy with their work, they left their children to their grandparents in their hometown to look after them, and the children were taken back to their parents before going to school. It is difficult for children to get close to their parents because of the lack of long-term companionship. Parents always feel indebted to their children, so they spoil them. At school, they went to the school in their parents' city. Then they found a relationship and joined the army. After demobilization, their father used his connections to arrange a good job for his children. However, the young man has developed a mentality of idleness and aversion to work. After my father retired, he was quickly found an excuse by the unit and was laid off.
The couple were too busy pursuing their so-called career to care about their children. Now after retirement, they need to bow their heads and ask for help for their grown-up son. The career of that year was yesterday, and my son's life is hard to change! This example is normal!
Children meet their parents when they are young; Parents take care of their children when they are old. This is the life of ordinary people.
I am a post-90s dad. Although I am a new father, his mother and I attach great importance to the education of children. A child's education problems began from his infancy, and many habits influenced him imperceptibly from his birth. For example, the child's personality is developed from this time, and the child's personality at this time is often most influenced by parents.
In addition to success, the definition of success may be different for everyone, and children's education may be the focus of social attention now. Investment in children may also be the most potential and worthwhile investment in the world. So I think a successful education is also a successful life in a sense.
Hunan Satellite TV has a program called Deformation Meter. In this program, people pay more attention to urban families. The parents of these urban families are often very successful, or executives of listed companies or successful entrepreneurs. From the perspective of career alone, these families are often successful. Look at their children. They are usually cynical dudes and big ladies. Most of them dropped out of school in their early years, addicted to the internet, addicted to bars and rebelled against their parents. So their parents are in pain and have to let them participate in this program, hoping that their children can change. Therefore, from this perspective, the education of failed children is also a failed life.
Therefore, the education of successful children is also a successful life. Doing a good job in children's education is a process that requires parents to make continuous efforts from birth to adulthood. You are also welcome to discuss parenting and education together.
Every parent wants the next generation to surpass themselves, and each generation is better than the next. I always tell my children that the waves behind the Yangtze River push the waves ahead. I hope you can film me on the beach. If the generation is not as good as the generation, it can only be said that there may be a problem with education.
No matter how successful the parents' career is, if the children's education is not good, the following problems will certainly follow, and children will easily rebel when they grow up. Don't think about being tired now, earn more, and leave it to your children later. Let's think about it. Maybe after a few decades, the hard-earned money in our lifetime is not as much as that earned by our children in a year. Similarly, if children don't get a good education, the so-called rich family wealth we earn may not be enough for our children to spend a year.
It is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish. Now we should teach our children the skills of making money and surviving. Of course, first of all, we should teach children how to be a man.
Spend more time with your children. Don't wait a few years before you and your child become familiar strangers. The definition of success is very broad. What is success? Everyone may know differently. As long as it exceeds your expectations, it should be success.
We can't push our children's education to the school. Schools can't educate children to be human beings or to be happy for a long time. All these require family education to lay a good foundation.
What kind of people we want our children to be, what kind of people we must become first. In Britain, there are two families, the Edward family, with a prosperous population and many elite talents. Another Zuk family is also very rich, but unfortunately they are gamblers and drunkards. The fundamental reason lies in the difference of family education.
We need to take raising children as a career, and only by working hard can we gain something.
No success can compare with the success of educating children? I don't think so.
It is the hope of every parent and the responsibility to the children and society to successfully educate their children, cultivate them into talents who are self-reliant, virtuous, energetic, successful in their studies and achieve a brilliant life for their children. For a family or an adult, this responsibility is very important and should be actively pursued. However, it cannot be said that the success of educating children is a person's most important success.
Because parents and children are different individuals, the child's success can only represent himself, his talent and his efforts, but not his parents' success. Perhaps, you were lucky enough to participate in it, perhaps you played a key role in his education, but it is unreasonable to regard his success as your own.
There are many parents who are unsuccessful all their lives, have never been to a prestigious school, have not entered a good company, have no good career, and have not made much money. They realize that they are inferior in this life, and they hope to realize their life value by educating their children and cultivating them into the people they want.
It is precisely because of this wrong concept that parents will carry out oppressive education for their children: some children are injured by their parents because of mistakes in their homework; Some children were forced to attend various training classes without a moment's rest, and finally died after saying "I want to sleep" ... too many. It is unfair to children to honor their success through children, and it is also an excuse for laziness.
We oppose the behavior of individuals who neglect the education of their children for the success of their studies and careers, and we do not agree with the practice of forcing children to achieve themselves. The best way is to educate your children well, and at the same time, keep working hard and constantly improve yourself. To know what kind of person you want your child to be, you must first become that kind of person, make progress with your child and create brilliance together.
Isn't any success comparable to the success of educating children? what do you think?
From the perspective of an ordinary person, the role of the individual does not involve the interests of the country and the future of social development.
Therefore, as an ordinary citizen, I still agree that "no success can compare with the success of educating children".
This is because, since childhood, children are their own future, the continuation of life, and the hope and support for the prosperity and development of families and families.
From a big perspective, children are the future of the motherland and the continuation and rise of Chinese cultural civilization. I hope that children from generation to generation will continue to make unremitting efforts and pay.
The following may wish to make a positive and negative analysis:
1. A child's successful education, excellent study and sound moral character are bound to have a good career prospect. Direct benefits to parents:
1. Children can adapt to all aspects of society and multiple competitive pressures, so they can better adapt to the spiritual and life pressures derived from social survival pressures. Then such a good boy can easily choose a career in society.
If you have a good job, you will win a place in the society, make a difference, and make a difference.
If the children do something, they don't have to worry about their parents' financial problems. In turn, they will feed their parents with the greatest "energy". Can better serve the motherland, better serve the society, and become the pillar of the country and society.
A good boy like this has contributed immeasurably to a country and a family.
Secondly, on the other hand, if children's education is unsuccessful, their studies are not excellent, and their moral character is not sound enough, it will be difficult to "find" a good job, and life will not have a future. Direct disadvantages to parents:
1. Because my academic performance is not high and my ideological and moral quality is not perfect, I blame my failure and misfortune in social competition on society and my parents.
Faced with complicated social competition and frustrated employment pressure, I complain all day and complain about others. I can't do big things, I don't want to do small things, I have nothing to do all day, I am full of complaints, and I am fascinated.
(1) is light, self-destructive and irritable.
Those who are serious, intellectuals fit together, or retaliate against society by hook or by crook.
2. Some people have no job for a long time, which brings economic pressure.
In the face of their own economic difficulties, in the face of their own requirements for life, can not be met, will inevitably lead to the following phenomena:
Those who are light, if they go on for a long time, lose their desire for work and the joy of life and become a member of the NEET family.
(2) Worst of all, broken cans and broken falls lead to the bad habit of being lazy (even eating, drinking, whoring and gambling).
3. Facing elderly parents:
Although the lighter is guilty, he is unable to support his parents.
(2) Worst of all, regardless of parents, they are slightly dissatisfied and even beat and scold their parents for a bite to eat and drink.
A child who is brought up unintentionally like this is irresponsible to the family and does not contribute to society.
Because of the relationship between words and space, I want to tell a true story in a minimalist way. Because this story is my personal experience after all, it is very suitable to answer this question directly.
In the late 1980s, Lao Li and his wife were both laid off and their lives were very difficult. Then their wives were involved in a car accident. Children are in the third and fourth grades of primary school. Lao Li works as a short-term worker in various places, but he often receives calls from the head teacher of the children's school.
Telephone content of the class teacher: Most of them blame Lao Li. Don't let children worry about their studies.
Lao Li told me that every time he calls like this, he doesn't eat, drink, sleep, shave or wash his face all day long. But when he wakes up, every time he sees himself in the mirror, he always scares himself. Often at this time, he was afraid of scaring the children, so he quickly went to the barber shop to cut his hair and shave his beard.
Lao Li was silent for a while, and suddenly he looked like a different person. He didn't go to work for more than half a month in a row and got up early in the morning. After the children had breakfast and sent them to school, he walked around the universities in Nanjing. He seems to want to find out what secrets college students hide when they go to college.
It seems that he really discovered some secrets. From then on, he first educated children ideologically, taught them to suffer hardships and taught them to live a simple life. If they can be inspirational, how can they read good books? And began to let children do some housework within their power.
In order to let the children learn to cook as soon as possible, Lao Li came back from work and pretended to be ill as soon as he got home. Just pretend to be sick for a week. The child who was kept in the dark did a good job. This half-year-old child finishes his homework as quickly as possible after school, and then buys food and cooks. After the meal is ready, the child sends it to his bed.
On one occasion, in order to test the child's patience and filial piety, Lao Li took a bite when the child brought him food, then deliberately dropped the dish bowl to the ground and shouted, "What did you cook?" It is salty. Have you cooked with your heart? Are you going to kill me? "
Lao Li looked at the tearful and poor wronged child, subconsciously jumped out of bed and hugged the child. The big man couldn't help crying.
Since then, both Lao Li and the children seem to have changed.
One evening a few days after the final exam, the doorman aunt downstairs of Lao Li's residential building told Lao Li to go downstairs and pick up the phone call from the child's class teacher. Lao Li's right hand holding the phone has been shaking and his heart is full of fear. With his eyes closed, Lao Li felt a chill, quietly waiting for the teacher to treat him, and there was an inevitable "complaint and roar".
Strange to say, at the other end of the phone, there came a kind and happy voice that the child's class teacher had never heard before: "Is it Meiqin's father?" Tell you a good news, your Meiqin exam came second in the class and fifth in the whole grade! The headmaster wants you to prepare for the parent-teacher conference the day after tomorrow, so that you can give a speech on the stage and talk about how you let those children who are not ranked second. "
Lao Li said that he stayed up all night that night and cried until dawn.
End of the story: Lao Li died of cerebral hemorrhage three years ago at the age of 53.
Many years ago, Meiqin graduated from China Renmin University. Now, Meiqin works in a government agency in Beijing, and a family of three lives happily in Beijing.