1, parents are separated and still love him/her. The party with custody should not speak ill of each other in front of the children, let alone accuse and hate each other, so that the children hate each other and let the children think that their other half is a sign of not loving their children, otherwise it will be a betrayal of themselves. It is the greatest harm to children to impose their emotions on them and force them to hate their father or mother. In the child's mind, he always wants his parents to love him, and he loves his parents. You should make your child feel fully safe, and his parents' love for him will never change, so that his psychology will not be distorted.
2. calmly and objectively explain to your children the reasons for your separation. Some children are particularly sensitive and always think that their poor performance leads to the separation of their parents. So you have to explain it to him. First of all, the separation of mom and dad is a matter between adults, just like two children get married because they like each other very much. Later, because of some things, they always quarreled and were unhappy together. In order to live a happier life, they decided to live separately. But this will never affect their love for the baby. Explain to the child in a language that the child can understand, and try to simplify the contradiction between you, so that the child will feel that your separation is not so serious.
3, the one with the child should be both a father and a mother, and have a good attitude when he has several jobs. Generally speaking, the party who gets the custody of the child should make more efforts, not only materially, but also the health education of the child's diet and daily life. When he is particularly tired, he will inevitably feel wronged. But please adjust your mentality before facing the children. At this time, you really need to play your hermaphrodite skills! Only in this way can we cultivate a baby with sound personality and mental health.
4. Let the child understand that life is not easy and let him learn to share it for you. Although you can't infect your child with negative energy, you should let him understand the hard work of his parents and learn to be considerate of them. Otherwise, the child you have worked so hard to teach is a baiwenhang. Just like one of my sisters, she worked hard for a year to divorce her husband and fight for her own career. After the divorce, my son felt that his mother was a superman and could do anything. Therefore, spending money is particularly extravagant, and more and more people don't understand and cherish it. Anyway, I always think my mother is very capable. I have a lot of money at home, and I will make it without my mother. I always tell people that my mother has been a housewife for a year, and I believe she can do anything. Although he believes that his mother is right, he doesn't know how hard her mother has worked for this result. If you don't cherish the achievements of your mother's struggle, it will make your mother feel chilling. After forming a habit, you will become an inconsiderate person when you enter the society in the future. You should teach your children to appreciate anyone's efforts.
Children are withdrawn and sensitive, so we should guide them in time and take them to some meaningful social activities. The one who takes care of the child should pay special attention to the psychological and behavioral changes of the child and make corresponding countermeasures in time. I can't let it go, but I'm still careless. Just like my sister, after divorce, she not only does a good job as a mother, but also often imitates the characteristics of men, such as not being able to play ball, seldom exercising, having to learn to play ball for her children, and taking them hiking from time to time. Sometimes I will show my "man" side in front of my children. As a result, my son is getting better and better.
Who says children in single-parent families are unhealthy? As long as parents attach importance to their children's education and set an example, they can still cultivate a child with sound personality and mental health. Are you right?