First of all, there must be growth-oriented thinking in thinking, thinking that children will definitely improve their grades and abilities through continuous study and hard work, and they must pay attention to their efforts and processes, not their success and results. Constantly emphasize the importance of efforts and processes, and constantly give positive feedback to children's efforts and processes.
Secondly, the specific methods of positive feedback:
1. When the child does well, we can have two levels of positive feedback: ① praise him in family and public places, praise him with praise words and actions; Not only praise him, but also tell others why he is praised for what he has done. What are the benefits of this method to other behaviors and people? We should give some material rewards to let more people know his behavior.
Finally, the specific method of criticism is the sandwich rule: ① state the fact that he made a mistake and don't comment (distinguish facts from comments). Facts refer to what happened. For example, if he didn't finish his homework on Monday, he can't say "you always do this, you can't do your homework well", which means telling him that you didn't finish your math homework today Monday. Because you said he was always like this, he hit back, just this once. Where did you get it? (2) What kind of results will be brought by stating the facts. For example, if you don't finish your homework, the teacher can't accept your learning results. Other students have done well, and your poor performance will affect your next study progress. Analyze the reasons with him and find out what to do next and how to solve the problem so that it won't happen again.
There is also a suggestion: you can use the register to record the positive and negative behaviors of children (if the children are under 8 years old, it is best to hang them at home and announce their daily behaviors), summarize them into a book, check them regularly and repeat them regularly.