At that time, we usually worked hard for a long time because we had to get a certificate. Finally, I really got the certificate, and the satisfaction is beyond words.
Xiao Kui, a netizen, is very worried about the child's certificate recently. One day, Xiao Kui's daughter came back from school and brought back a certificate of commendation in high spirits. Xiao Kui was very happy to see her children doing well in school and being praised by the teacher.
Xiao Kui happily exposed the child's certificate in the circle of friends, but was reminded by friends that there was a typo in the certificate. She was unhappy after enlarging the words. Take a closer look at the children's awards. The comments on the awards turned out to be "good boy" awards. These three words were wrongly written and written as "good son" awards. Such low-level mistakes are also impressive.
Xiaokui has some doubts. What is the significance of the teacher awarding this award? After asking the children carefully, she said that all the students in the class have prizes, and I wonder if the children will work hard next time.
Indeed, with the changes of the times, the teaching concept is constantly improving. Many teachers pay attention to the teaching method of rewarding children, which leads to frequent abuse of awards, the establishment of various strange awards, the system of everyone winning awards, etc., all of which are undermining the effectiveness of awards.
1) The true sense of honor will disappear.
The existence of the certificate is mainly to give every child who has won the award a real sense of honor, and the certificate is a symbol of honor.
Think about our student days. There was only room for a few excellent performers on the three-foot platform. When the award-winning children take the stage to receive their awards, they always show a very proud smile, which is the result of their unremitting efforts.
However, the students' pursuit of awards is always so sincere and urgent. Even a child who has never won an award will not think that his performance is not good enough. They can only say that others have performed too well and their own efforts are not enough.
However, with the frequent abuse of awards, children have no sense of honor when they win many "popular awards", let alone give them the motivation to continue their efforts, and the significance of awards disappears.
2) Encourage children who lack objective self-evaluation.
Another great significance of the certificate lies in affirming children's efforts and cultivating their self-confidence.
Because such anxiety can encourage children to learn from past failures and redouble their efforts.
Children surrounded by excessive "I can, I am the best" lack frustration education. Just like being wrapped in cotton candy, there is a fragile blx.
The flood of awards will also give those children with poor grades an illusion that their efforts are good enough and their mistakes do not need to be corrected.
At the same time, these children lack the baptism of "shame", which prevents them from realizing their own shortcomings and ultimately hinders their progress.
3) deprive children of the right to be jealous.
The scarcity of prizes will really arouse the envy of other children who have not won prizes. And if we make good use of the great motivation brought by this sense of jealousy, we will let those children who have not obtained certificates secretly exert their strength, thus tapping their potential.
And this kind of jealousy will only make children miss possible success after being deprived of the flood of awards.
As parents, we should look at the awards awarded by teachers to our children objectively, and we should not show off too much or hide anything. As an incentive, children's rewards can be appropriately retained, which is also a precious memory for children.
After winning the prize, it can help children analyze the reasons for winning the prize, point out their shortcomings in recent life performance, and continue to maintain the good aspects and strive to improve the shortcomings.
Extremes must be reversed, and the golden mean is the most appropriate. While encouraging children, parents must pay attention to the purpose of finding children's problems.