Viewpoint 1: Pay attention to cultivating children's sympathy in life. I often tell my daughter to care about others, love small animals, and ... but I find that children listen with one ear and take risks with the other. I changed the way of direct preaching, using examples from life or some negative teaching materials to educate children to care about others and animals from their side. Once, we met a blind man who played erhu and begged. I took the opportunity to ask the child: Look how pitiful he is! Everyone is helping him, shouldn't you help him, too? When I saw the jungle on TV-a zebra was thrown to the ground by a lion, I immediately said, what a poor little zebra. I often show sympathy for the weak and make children feel that it is right to sympathize with the weak and animals. Influenced by me intentionally or unintentionally, my daughter gradually learned to sympathize with the weak and protect animals. (Ding Lumei, the mother of an 8-year-old girl) Viewpoint 2 Let children understand that kindness is valuable. My son knows that we like kind-hearted children, but sometimes he can't help but expose the tiger power he learned from his classmates. My child's mother and I never appreciated his behavior, warned him or criticized him. The child's tiger spirit was slowly worn away by us. Under our influence, my son let a bird into the house and let it go voluntarily. I greatly praised him and promised him a reward. My son is very happy, and I also take this opportunity to tell him that if his parents are good to him, he should be good to his parents and friendly to others. Otherwise, how can others be nice to him! Children have experienced the happiness of being taken care of and are naturally willing to do as we say. (8-year-old boy's father Chu Kaishan) Viewpoint 3 Creating conditions for cultivating love I think that to cultivate children's love, in addition to words and deeds, it is necessary to create appropriate material conditions. There is a little white rabbit in my home. I asked my son to take care of his diet and daily life every day and let him solve his own difficulties. I'm going to let the children know how difficult it is for a small life to survive. I guide my children to connect rabbits with their own lives, and let him discover from rabbits that every life in the world, whether it is a kitten, a dog or a bird, is precious and deserves our cherish and care. In the process of raising the white rabbit, the children not only established feelings with the white rabbit, but also took the initiative to care for other small animals with other students. (12-year-old boy's mother Xu Ruiying) Viewpoint 4 The love that comes out of the story Nowadays, most children are only children and bear too much love. I think, how can children learn to care about others and small animals without being rejected by children? I know that stories are always children's favorite, and the contents in stories are often used as aphorisms by them. Taking advantage of children's psychology, I consciously read some stories with such educational significance to children, such as Tolstoy's fairy tale "Seven Diamonds", which made him unconsciously edified and educated. Children are willing to accept this method, and parents have not made efforts, and they have also received good educational results. (14-year-old boy father Chu Kaifu) Viewpoint 5 Parents should set an example. My father and I are very concerned about our children. We speak tenderly and tenderly to them, and often communicate with them emotionally, encouraging and praising them, so that they can directly feel the deep love from us. We also pay attention to using the language of love, for example, you have worked hard, take a rest first, don't worry, I will help you, thank you for everything. Under our guidance, my daughter learned to be polite to others, and compassion and helping others are human virtues. (Ding Xiaolan, the mother of an 8-year-old girl) Viewpoint 6 allows children to receive education in comparison, often accompany them to nature, enjoy the sunshine and rain, and appreciate flowers, insects and fish ... In the beautiful scenery and changing colors of nature, children see the beauty of nature and are surprised by its magic. I also let the children see the consequences of people not caring for nature, such as bare mountains, black and smelly rivers and so on. I told my children that because some people don't pay attention to protecting nature and don't care about animals and plants, the beautiful scenery in some places no longer exists, and some animals and plants have become extinct, such as Tibetan antelopes, which are on the verge of extinction because of unscrupulous hunting; Some clear streams, because people discharge sewage and garbage at will, have become stinking ditches ... Children have experienced the beauty of nature and also felt the harm caused by wanton destruction of nature. In the contrast of one positive and one negative, the child was deeply touched. (Putin, the father of an 8-year-old boy) Moderator: Children often do things from their own interests and often lack a correct judgment of right and wrong, good and evil. Therefore, parents should pay attention to small things, correct and point out the bad tendencies unconsciously revealed in their children's hearts, and cultivate their good behavior habits. Teaching a daughter's family of three, parents' words and deeds always have a subtle influence on children's hearts, such as respecting their elders and being kind to others. Nowadays, it has become a common social phenomenon to expect their children to succeed and become talents. In children's study and life, parents can devote all their energy and financial resources to maintain the upstream level of their children's academic performance and hire the best tutors. No matter how much money they spend on study and life, they will not hesitate to spend it. In short, the center of everything is two children, and everything is busy around them. Well, there's nothing wrong. Because today's society is a competitive society after all. If you are not careful, children will be abandoned by competition because they cannot keep up with the pace of competition. But, wait a minute, if this causes children's exclusion, it will not be worth the loss. To this end, our family's practice is to educate our daughter to respect her grandparents from an early age, and let her be subtly educated through our practical actions. For example, we all respect our parents and grandmothers in their nineties. In daily life, we not only care about the daily life of our elders, but also care about their health. When people get old, they will always suffer from some diseases to some extent. Once they are unwell, we always take our daughter to visit them in time. In this way, in the process of taking care of the elders, our daughter unconsciously understands that without the efforts and efforts of her parents, there would be no us today, and there would be no daughter today. We should also try our best to respect our elders. Now, my daughter 12 years old. When we go to our parents' house on holidays or weekends, our daughter will take out her favorite food and ask her like an adult: How are you? . And that intimacy has completely exceeded the closeness to us. In this respect, our experience is that a competitive society also needs love. Imagine, if a person has a little love for his elders, how can he contribute a little love to the whole society? Family is like this. Where are the others? We should also be kind to others. Because children's lives are limited, we put our actions on our neighbors. Usually, if someone in the neighborhood is sick, we will tell them what we know, explain it patiently in detail, solve the problem of medical treatment for them, and sometimes accompany them directly to the hospital. Besides, you can't use up your own things, whether it's good food or good use, you can give them directly to your neighbors in front of your daughter. There is only one purpose to do this: to let her daughter know that although social competition is ruthless, people should pay more attention to the word love, and being kind to others is a fine tradition and virtue of the Chinese nation. If a person has this quality, he can be in an invincible position in a highly competitive society. In a hurry, you teach your daughter carelessly. When there is something inappropriate, it is just a shame. Let children participate in social activities more. The development of children and adolescents is a process of social adaptation. Children must leave home, go to school and go to society. Communicate with more and more people in school and society, learn through communication, grow up through communication, and gradually assume more and more social responsibilities independently. Cultural learning, a seemingly simple process of intellectual activity, is actually completed in the process of dynamic social interaction. Since 1990s, the number of only children in China has increased rapidly, the family structure has changed, and children have become the center of the family. In today's society, the general mentality of parents is: on the one hand, they hope that their children will excel in the future, be admitted to famous universities and seek ideal careers, so how to do a good job in their children's study has become the center of family education; On the other hand, I love children, and I am afraid that the only child will be wronged, and I am worried that the child will be hurt. Therefore, it is not safe for children to participate in social activities. These parents believe that children's task is to study hard, and participating in social activities is something that affects learning and harms health. As we all know, children with knowledge but no ability can't adapt to the rapidly developing and ever-changing future society. Therefore, in order to make our children become useful talents, as parents, we must change our ideas. Encourage children to actively participate in social activities while urging them to learn scientific and cultural knowledge well. Cultivate children's independent ability, flexible adaptability and good cooperation ability from activities, so that children can prepare for the society and become a comprehensive talent. First of all, encourage children to read newspapers, watch news and listen to news frequently, and raise their awareness of caring for society and participating in social activities. News is an important way for us to perceive society, understand society and know society, and it is no exception for children. In daily life, we should always encourage children to read more newspapers, listen to more news, and guide them through necessary explanations and introductions, so that children can have a more comprehensive and correct understanding of the current social dynamics. Practice has proved that this method can not only help children understand society, but also expand their knowledge, killing two birds with one stone. Secondly, encourage children to actively participate in various activities organized by the school to cultivate their flexibility, adaptability and cooperation ability. Only when children are integrated into the group will they have a sense of collective honor, know what unity and cooperation are, truly understand the meaning of competition and understand the value of life. My daughter is in the third grade this year. Under the leadership of Mr. Qiao, the head teacher, I actively participated in various activities organized by the class and the school, organized students' pre-holiday teams and blackboard newspaper activities, and participated in class management. She has been able to serve her classmates under the guidance of the teacher and according to the requirements of the teacher. My daughter not only accumulated experience from the activities and increased her talents, but also learned how to arrange her study time reasonably. More importantly, my children know that a person's behavior should conform to the norms of society, and they know that society is a big classroom to help children establish collectivism. Third, encourage children to enter social classes. It is necessary to create conditions for children to get in touch with the society more, and take them to visit some venues and institutions that can not only increase their knowledge but also know the society, visit and watch football matches and participate in public welfare activities. And encourage children to observe the society with their own eyes and feel more about the content contained in life; Perceive the truth, goodness and beauty in social life with your own mind, help them distinguish right from wrong, and consciously let them have more life experiences, which is conducive to the healthy growth of children. Practice shows that overprotecting and closing children will make them lose the opportunity to play with others, and also make them lose the opportunity to know the value of others. Let children actively participate in social activities, not only will not affect children's learning, but also let children learn knowledge that can't be learned in textbooks, accumulate social experience that can't be accumulated in family life, cultivate all kinds of abilities necessary for going to society, learn to live in harmony with others and respect humility from an early age, and lay a solid foundation for children to go to society in the future. So I think it is an indispensable lesson for children to participate in social activities from an early age. I hope the above can help you!