In our country, there are two ideas to educate children to be grateful, one from tradition and the other from contemporary times. A traditional teaching in our country, the concept of "raising children to prevent old age" has always been recognized by many parents. They believe that it is undoubted and natural for children to thank and repay their parents in the future. The other is reflected in the new concept of parents today. "Raising children to prevent old age" does not mean "preventing old age". Many parents believe that families with good economic conditions do not need their children to support them when they are old, as long as their children live well. President Chen, who has been teaching for more than ten years, said that China has always been a country that emphasizes "filial piety", and the "filial piety" here contains "gratitude". In fact, no matter what kind of ideas, children should be taught to be grateful, not by coercion or skill. Let the children know that "in the family, not only parents pay for you, but also you should learn to pay for your parents". Gratitude is a person's basic quality, and it is also an important content of children's EQ education.

Many children lack gratitude and do not understand their parents. The main reasons are:

1. Now most children are only children and are loved by thousands of people. Coupled with the gradual improvement of people's living standards, parents pay more attention to the cultivation of their children and have a material basis to meet their requirements. Therefore, they are responsive to their children and take care of them in every possible way, almost everything. It is the unprincipled doting of parents that makes children take everything their parents give for granted. Children get too much love, too easily, and naturally don't know how to cherish it, thus ignoring the gratitude to their parents.

2. Children's gratitude and gratitude are not innate and need to be cultivated in the acquired education. In the environment of "exam-oriented education", the evaluation of students' advantages and disadvantages is more about academic performance, so moral education is negligible. Learning well represents almost everything, and the cultivation of children's morality and personality is ignored. This kind of one-sided values and training methods is also one of the reasons for the lack of gratitude.

There is a cultural trend of advocating utility, practicality and individuality in today's society. In the communication between people, "practicality" and "utility" usually become the yardstick, which has a certain impact on the traditional gratitude culture, similar to "a drop of grace, when a spring pours back", which leads to gratitude being naturally forgotten in the social environment, and finally gratitude education is obviously lacking and lagging behind.

In case children don't know how to be grateful to their parents, they think that parents are obedient to their children, and they don't eat, let their children eat, don't wear, and let their children wear. It's hard. Instead, they make children feel that parents should do this. Case 2 Xiaoyan's indifference to the family is mainly because the elders did not educate the children to respect, love and honor their parents when raising their children, and did not let the children form the consciousness of respecting and honoring their elders from an early age. In addition, parents are children's first teachers, which is very important for their growth. Parents are the reference of children, and everything parents say and do is in the eyes of children. If Xiaoyan's parents are not nice to her grandparents, Xiaoyan will imitate them. Therefore, how parents treat their elders, he will treat their elders. So caring for today's old people means caring for tomorrow's self. If you are kind to your parents, children will naturally form a sense of respect and filial piety towards their elders.