Chen Jing is the first person in the "100 interview with people who live their dreams" program, and also an entrepreneur with special personality and ideas. Our interview was conducted in Jcafe. Chen Jing, wearing a simple white T-shirt, walked in with her partner, Mr. Orange. We chose a large French window seat facing the street and sat down. This position has a good view. We can see the busy streets, but it is very quiet.
The topic begins with why Chen Jing chose to engage in sex education. Chen Jing has been engaged in sex education for four years. This year, he officially started his business. Together with two other teachers, he founded the "Source of Love" and went into publicity education in kindergartens, primary schools, junior high schools, senior high schools and universities.
She said, I just do sex education, and I knew my direction a long time ago.
Chen Jing was born in an ordinary rural family since childhood, where there was a serious son preference. Her parents have always liked her brother and younger brother, and her existence as a girl has not been affirmed by her parents since she was a child. She has encountered the problem of gender identity since she was a child, that is, choosing to be a boy or a girl. As a boy, you can be accepted by your parents, and as a girl, how to resist the pressure of family. She chose to be a girl, but she tried to produce centrifugal force and left the family track of son preference. At school, she strives for the first place in everything and does everything well, because she deeply knows that the first is the necessary condition to ensure that she can continuously obtain learning resources. Many people will have the problem of family background, and everyone has different ways to deal with it. Chen Jing chose these as the motivation to motivate himself, and gradually socialized these actions, that is, to help more children learn about sex and the origin of life as soon as possible.
About sex education
Aiben Park currently offers courses for children and parents, including a single class and a series of courses. As for sex education, it is a relatively new topic in China. Children need classes and parents need to make up lessons, because our generation lacks sex education. More than 70% of parents never received sex education when they were growing up.
These courses are beneficial to open books. As long as parents listen, they will know something about sex. New understanding and new knowledge. ? Many parents' feedback after coming to class actually comes to class with anxiety. Because I don't know how the course will go. ? After listening to the class, I found that talking about sex is a very calm thing and I don't feel embarrassed at all. Because they see a person at the scene of class, they can say the names of reproductive organs from their mouths so calmly, and this calm power will be passed on to their hearts. Not only do you not feel embarrassed, but you can also feel the weight of life. If a person can talk openly about sex, he will naturally express his sexual needs. It will be of great help to the sexual harmony between husband and wife and the handling of intimate relationship between husband and wife. ? Only when parents are calm can this power be passed on to their children.
However, this road is not easy. Chen Jing once had the experience that he was almost thrown off the stage when he was giving a class to a student. Is it the fifth grade of students in public primary school and sex education class? In the fifth grade, some girls have entered puberty, and boys are about to enter puberty. She talks about the physiological changes in adolescence, about girls coming to menstruation and boys coming to nocturnal emission. The following students absorbed well and listened, but what about those at the back of the classroom? The teachers collapsed, and the teacher in the moral education department stood up and told her to finish it quickly. She said that there must be a process. Society is changing, so is education. In recent years, the change of education has been much faster, but it needs more promotion to accelerate. "I have this sense of mission. I do sex education, not sex psychology, not sex physiology. After all, sex education is a part of education. We hope to realize life education through sex education. "
About education
"Many parents send their children to the best schools, so they buy school districts, pay high fees and go to cram schools. Why? Because parents hope that the knowledge their children have learned in school, the results of college entrance examination and the universities they have been admitted to will help their children have a promising future. What is the standard of ambition? It is the children who have a good job and earn enough money. However, you will find that more and more parents say that it seems that this is not what we want to pursue. I just want my children to be healthy and happy. "
With the change of society, parents' cognition of education is constantly upgrading and iterating. This cognitive system is not flat, but pyramid-shaped and three-dimensional. From the middle level, parents are more concerned with quality education. Children can develop in all aspects and have the ability to be happy. They want their children to be healthy and happy, not whether they will have a good job in the future.
Therefore, education is actually closely related to the economic development of the whole society.
About life
Chen Jing said, "The process of realizing your dream is to realize yourself. Every unavoidable question is who I am, where I come from and where I am going. When you do something, it becomes one with you. What you do occupies your whole life and determines who you are.
Now, when people mention me, they will say, Chen Jing, a sex educator. What a person becomes is not what you say you are, but what you do. If what you do is integrated with the value you want to present in the future, you are practicing your dream, that is, making us better people. All the advantages of us: kindness, courage, enthusiasm, persistence and wisdom, will be mobilized to help us do things well together.
Chen Jing's educational background keeps her in touch with philosophical systems and thoughts, which makes her have rare transparency. She wanted to know what to do in her life a long time ago, so she didn't struggle when making a decision, so she was decisive. "But, you don't think that if you don't struggle, it won't hurt, no! Choosing is also giving up, and giving up is really painful. I need money, too, but if someone gives me hundreds of millions to stop what I am doing now, I won't! I finally came to this world, and I don't know if I can be reborn in my next life, so I will do what I want to do. I want to eat, drink and do things when I am old, and I have been doing it all my life. This is the life I want. Because I feel that people have more money in this life, but they have not done what they want to do, and their hearts are still empty. "
In order to continue to engage in sex education, Chen Jing gave up the opportunity to pursue a doctorate, which has always been her academic pursuit. That night, she squatted on the ground and cried for a long time in the school playground. After crying, she wiped away her tears, but she still didn't regret it, because she chose what she wanted to do and won't regret it in the future. At that time, she was going to study for a doctorate, and the professor put forward three requirements for her:
1,? During my PhD, I shall not engage in any activities related to sex education.
Second,? The doctoral thesis should not choose materials related to sex education. ?
Third, you can't engage in any work related to sex education for five years after graduation.
These three demands have blocked all roads in Chen Jing. The professor attaches great importance to her and wants her to do education together, but not sex education. When the professor asked Chen Jing why he didn't apply, Chen Jing said, "Teacher, why can you have a crush on me?" ? ? Is it because I insist on sex education? Right? You saw the strength in me and the way I do things. You think this person is very good. ? But you know, if I don't do sex education, maybe I won't be able to show all my strengths and my best self. ? Sticking to what you want to do will make you a more perfect person. There will be a lot less evil thoughts in your heart, and courage will make you? Letting go of many fears will help you do something positively. ? "
See the future
Giving up a lot to do what she believes in, Chen Jing said she thought she saw the future.
A person can do many things, but to accomplish one thing, one must adapt to the whole? The trend of the times and social development. Because everyone is in a certain era and has lived in those decades. We must follow the trend and direction of the times to do things. "For example, during World War II, you chose to fight against Japan, but you had no choice. It was the times that created the war, and you went to participate. ? I just choose education selectively, or choose a career related to gender. There are two kinds of philosophy, one is that man can conquer nature and man is greater than nature. ? But this is not the case in my world view. In my world view, people are only a small part of the whole universe. They do things with the times and drift with the tide. "
During our one-and-a-half-hour interview, Chen Jing was always full of energy. In her small figure, I saw great energy. At the end of the interview, I asked her to say a few words to our readers. She said, try to do what you like. Life is too short. Only by doing what you like can you not regret it.