The correct method of children's family education 1 First, set an example:
Example is an important way to influence and educate children with other people's good thoughts and behaviors. For example, classmates, neighbors, teachers, heroes and model figures, positive figures in literary and artistic works, and excellent qualities of revolutionary leaders are all objects for children to learn and imitate. No matter what parents say or do is right or wrong, it has a profound influence on children. Therefore, parents should always show themselves everywhere in their daily lives.
2. Environmental impact:
Parents should consciously create a good living environment for their children to be infected and edified. Family is the main place where children live. Parents should organize their own lives, handle the relationship between members, adhere to the correct moral behavior as the criterion, form a United and harmonious family atmosphere, establish an orderly life order, and cultivate children's beautiful sentiments.
Three. Criticism and punishment:
Criticism and punishment are the negation of children's bad thoughts and behaviors, but the latter is an educational means for serious bad thoughts and behaviors. When criticizing and punishing, we should first fully understand the situation, grasp the specific situation and severity of bad thoughts and behaviors, and proceed from the wrong reality. Criticism means pointing out the harm and ideological roots, denying their thoughts and behaviors, making them feel ashamed and miserable, and then generating the motivation to correct their mistakes. When criticizing, don't be sarcastic, sarcastic or abusive. Punishment is mainly deprivation of certain rights, not corporal punishment, not insulting personality and destroying body and mind.
Fourth, guide the arrangement of life order:
A good life order is an effective way to cultivate children's good habits. Guide children to arrange their daily lives, arrange their living environment, and teach them to study and use their time in an orderly way. Let the children make their own arrangements, and parents can give directions.
V persuasion education:
The specific methods of persuasion education: First, talk. Parents should put facts and reason according to their children's thoughts, so that children can understand certain truth. Speak with pertinence and flexibility, and have a pleasant attitude. Don't be condescending and cynical. The second is discussion, where parents and children discuss together. When discussing, we should respect children, listen to their opinions patiently, have incorrect opinions, reason patiently, and let children distinguish right from wrong. Parents should have the courage to admit that their views are incorrect.
Sixth, the actual exercise:
The content of practical exercise is quite extensive, such as adapting to the surrounding environment, exercising, taking care of yourself, housework, working independently, being polite, socializing and so on. To carry out actual exercise, we should first let the children know the purpose (why), put forward specific requirements (how to do it), and encourage them to overcome difficulties and stick to it. The content of exercises should be suitable for children's age characteristics and personality characteristics, and the tasks and requirements given should be based on children's actual ability and appropriate. Children should be allowed to make mistakes in practice and not be too demanding. Parents can't stop exercising because they are afraid of their children suffering.
Seven, praise and reward:
Praise and reward is to affirm and praise children's thoughts and behaviors. Through affirmation and praise, strengthen children's enterprising spirit and sense of honor, and strive for greater progress. Praise and reward should be realistic, timely and explain the reasons, and should be based on spiritual rewards, supplemented by material rewards.
Eight, guide extracurricular reading:
Guide children to read books, newspapers and magazines, and learn useful spiritual nutrition from them. Parents should master the content of children's reading, discuss with children, and guide children to increase their knowledge, broaden their horizons and get spiritual cultivation through reading.
Nine, the use of home TV:
When TV enters the family, children can gain a lot of knowledge from watching TV, increase their knowledge and make full use of it. But be careful: you can't have no choice and don't spend too long. After watching TV, you'd better talk to your children and discuss the TV content.
Ten, lead the children to go out and contact the society:
Take children to parks, scenic spots, shops, factories, and rural areas, or visit classmates, relatives, and friends for social interaction, so that they can broaden their horizons, get in touch with society, and get to know society.
The correct way to educate children at home II. Love children, respect children and be their bosom friends.
In life, we should respect children, treat them equally, establish a relationship of mutual trust and form close friends with them. Only in this way can we win their trust. Parents should love their children, maybe you will say that this truth is simple enough. What parents don't love their children? But some parents' love can't be accepted and recognized by children, so I often give my naughty son a kind hug, a shallow smile, a persuasive persuasion and a small gift, which will naturally make children feel the love given by their parents and enhance their trust in their parents. Therefore, our parents should use love to cultivate their children's good behavior habits.
2. The premise of good communication between parents and children is listening.
Parents should put down their lofty posture, learn to communicate with their children on an equal footing, and calm down and listen to everything their children have to say. Even if you are busy and tired at this time, you should listen attentively and ask your child from time to time: "Is there anything interesting in school?" Are you satisfied with your performance in class? Did your smiling face increase again today? Whenever I ask my son this question, he is always excited to report everything to me. When he expresses his views on things, I will respect his opinions, discuss with him and give him enough confidence and self-confidence. I think it is very important to cultivate children's character. Listening is an art as well as a kind of learning.
3. Encourage children to dare to meet challenges
Today's era is an era of fierce competition, so it is necessary to cultivate children's sense of competition from an early age and dare to meet challenges. In study, I often encourage my son to say: You are amazing, you are smart, and you can answer such a difficult knowledge correctly. My mother admires you. He was very happy to hear this, which also aroused his enthusiasm for learning. When he was in trouble, I kept cheering him up. At this time, I will work hard with my child and infect him with practical actions, which has also been achieved.
Fourth, educate children to face setbacks correctly.
People will inevitably encounter setbacks in their lives. Suffering is a great wealth of life. Misfortune and frustration can make people sink, and can also cast a strong will and achieve a full life. Suffering is a good teacher in life. He can teach children to learn to treat all problems with gratitude and positive attitude, and bravely participate in social competition.
Verbs (abbreviation of verb) cultivate children's adaptability.
In practice, it has been the basic ability of survival since ancient times to be able to adjust and transform oneself according to the ever-changing objective situation, using one's own intelligence and other factors, so as to achieve the unity of subject and object, thus ensuring the normal conduct of practical activities. Today, in the era of rapid changes and fierce competition in human society, people need stronger adaptability. Whoever has strong adaptability will survive, develop better and walk down the other side of success.
6. Reading with children
Parents and children can read together, and children can get happiness and satisfaction from it, feel love and warmth, and sometimes even be more interested in the book itself.
Correct family education methods for children 3 1. Dare to apologize to children.
In family life, parents often say something wrong, do something wrong, and even wronged their children. How to deal with such problems is really one of the arts of family education.
Parents and children should have a democratic and equal relationship in the family. Parents should take the initiative to apologize if they have done something wrong or wronged their children. This will neither affect the prestige of parents nor damage their dignity; On the contrary, it will set an example for children to correct their mistakes, and will make children sincerely admire their parents' quality and cultivation, so as to trust their parents more and be close to them; The dignity of parents will not be reduced, but will be higher, which will also form a relaxed, harmonious and democratic atmosphere conducive to the growth of children in the family. Of course, when parents apologize and admit their mistakes, especially for their children, they must be sincere, not perfunctory, not looking for objective reasons, and sincerely seek forgiveness.
Parents should give their children a chance to choose.
In the family, parents should allow their children to do things according to their own interests. If you let your child learn ballet or practice aerobics, she will devote herself to doing what she likes, and it will not be too hard.
3. Children who learn to be tolerant
Tolerance means that after a child does something wrong, parents accept the child's fault with a broad mind. They don't reprimand or investigate harshly, which will make the child deeply blame himself, calmly think about his past in regret and guilt, and urge him to turn over a new leaf in the generosity of his parents.
Parents should accept their children, regardless of their personality.
Every child has his own personality, and children will develop and grow at their own pace, so parents should know how to let go and give their children some freedom. If you like to compare your child with other people's children, it's easy for him to get the wrong impression. If he is inferior to others, he is a loser. Coercion is wrong, and encouragement is beneficial.
5. Discover hidden difficulties in time.
You should take care of your children, but this doesn't mean staring at them all the time, but getting to know them, for example, finding that they are suddenly unwilling to participate in group activities and do their homework. You have to be patient and let him tell the truth-being bullied by a bad boy, he doesn't like his teacher and so on. It varies from person to person. Some children concentrate most in a quiet room, while others like a lively background. If your child doesn't like being locked in a room alone, let him do his homework at the dinner table.
6. Treat children as adults and try to tell them the ups and downs in their work.
If you come home from work every day, try to tell your children about your happiness or troubles at work, treat them as adults, and stimulate their desire and enthusiasm. Maybe he will think, "If I work hard, I will be as successful as my mother." If your job is boring and there is nothing to "bask in", you can also tell your children that if you don't get a certain degree, you can't find an interesting job. Some children don't want to live like their parents, which will motivate them to work hard.
7. Pay attention to the methods of guiding children to convince people.
You know, children also have their own opinions, not what adults want. If a child wants to give up piano education, don't yell at him and scold him at the top of his lungs. But tell him why he wants to continue practicing, and he may change his mind. Even if he still disagrees, it gives him a chance to speak freely.
8. Don't be stingy with your praise and appreciation for your children.
Parents should give their children more praise and appreciation, but they should also be measured. Praise should be targeted and words should be substantive. He shows you what he has just finished. Instead of simply saying good, you said, "I like the way you discussed this in your article, which is very thought-provoking." Or "You play scales very smoothly." Wait a minute. He feels different and will try harder to win your approval next time. The reward for children is not necessarily a grand prize. When they do well, they send some small gifts as encouragement. There is no need to frown in case they can't reach the expected goal. They should give priority to encouragement.