Every parent expects their children to be excellent in the future, but what is an excellent child? Or, what is the standard of Excellence?

Unfortunately, in real life, many parents put the cart before the horse. Children pursue their grades during school and their wages after taking part in work.

On the other hand, it is also a correct and reasonable expectation for parents to expect their children to be excellent in the future, but parents should not push too hard and try their best to earn money to enroll their children in various interest classes. It is better to teach these three points to children.

First of all, the power of persistence

Many people think that success is chance and luck, but only those who really stand on the stage know the hardships behind it.

When I was a child, I always heard my mother say: three minutes on stage, ten years off stage. At that time, I always thought that this statement was a bit exaggerated. Later, when I grew up and got used to the success or failure of this world, I realized that truth always comes from life.

Last month, our company euphemistically dismissed a colleague because there was no performance. Colleagues stayed in the company, and the day he left, he was very unwilling. Originally, the company paid them regularly, but he pestered the financial department to pay them.

I didn't know he was staying when I was pestering the finance department to pay my salary, and even thought he was a little unreasonable. Later, after work at night, I saw him standing at the intersection waiting for the bus, with large and small luggage beside him. I suddenly understood why he was in such a hurry to get his salary.

To tell the truth, I was really sad at that moment, and I was very sad inside, but I couldn't do anything after I was sad.

Everyone decides the way of life through their own efforts. No one's success comes casually. We only see the success of others, but ignore the efforts and persistence behind them.

If the dismissed colleagues could understand this truth, they might not have come this far. Sometimes we always want to work harder to give our children a better life, so that they don't have to work so hard in the future, but forget to teach them. All the achievements you want need to be earned through hard work and persistence.

Second, the right to choose.

In reality, many parents are "arranged" and "strong" parents who have been making choices for their children all their lives.

"I did it for your own good!"

"I have arranged the future road for you, just follow this road!"

A classmate, after graduating from college, his parents have been urging him to go back to his hometown. His father is the headmaster, his mother is a teacher, and his uncle is also a teacher. In the eyes of his parents, being a teacher is very stable and respected. You should go home to be a teacher after graduation.

Later, my classmates said: If you gave birth to me just to let me set the path, you might as well strangle me at the beginning.

This classmate's statement is a bit extreme, but it is very useful. His parents didn't force him to return to his hometown. Of course, he has not let his parents down now. He is already the founder of a startup company.

Sometimes we seem to be doing the best for our children, but we deprive them of the right to choose.

Once, my sister took my niece to buy a water cup and agreed to let her choose. As a result, my niece chose several cups, and my sister found a reason not to. Finally, I chose my sister's favorite cup.

If parents don't teach their children to choose when they are young, they will become parrots without their own ideas and persistence.

I don't think any parents want their children to become Nuo Nuo in the future, so teach them the right to choose from now on. You can give them advice, but never make a choice for them.

Third, face failure calmly.

In a child's life, there will always be countless failures. We always teach children how to succeed, but forget to teach them how to face failure.

Only when children can face failure correctly can they succeed better.

Historically, Chu and Liu Bang were both fierce, but there are not a few people who can sigh for Chu: it is unknown to make a comeback. Such a poem is a pity for the overlord of Chu.

No one can win forever. What we can do is to teach our children how to face setbacks and failures.

Now many parents believe in frustration education and deliberately create failures and setbacks for their children. This practice is not advocated by Mianma, because there are many failures and setbacks in life. If parents deliberately create failures and setbacks, they may make their children feel inferior and vulnerable, thinking that "I can't do it".

As long as you pay attention, life is full of educational cases. You can share your experience with your children and how to digest this failure without this promotion.

This time, the children's activities for class work failed. You can help children analyze and help them digest negative emotions.

Ye Shengtao said: What is education? On the one hand, in a word, it is to form good habits.

What we mean by cultivating children's character is the cultivation of good habits, and a person's character is hidden in his habits.

When children are young, they are busy making money and giving them a better life. When children grow up, they will stare at their grades and enroll in various remedial classes and interest classes, hoping that their children can get good grades and find a good job. This is the state of most parents.

But parents often ignore the cultivation of children's habits and character. Poor grades mean that children will be excellent in the future.

Xie Zhenyu was excellent, a gifted scholar at Peking University, and ranked among the top in the world in IELTS test 1%, but Xie Zhenyu's ending was very sad.

Wang Jiudao is also an excellent child in his mother's eyes. He went to Japan to study, but stabbed his mother nine times at the airport.

Children's education cannot be achieved overnight. It doesn't matter how many interest classes and remedial classes parents sign up for. Children will have a future. No good habits are as useless as good character.

May every parent integrate education into life!