Although this work is successful, the education for children is enormous.
Because every time he sees a child disobedient, he gets angry easily and makes a hullabaloo about at the child. Children usually cry at this time.
After Zhang Qiang's wife saw it, she often felt sorry for her children and quarreled with Zhang Qiang on the spot.
As a result, the child saw that his parents were uneasy to quarrel, and his personality was weak and introverted, which made Zhang Qiang a headache.
In family education, we often encounter such a problem: when the father makes the child cry, how should the mother deal with it? There are two main methods. Different methods may seriously affect a child's life.
The first attitude is that mother takes part in the battle.
Many mothers get emotional when they see their fathers scolding their children for crying. A child is a mother's heart. Did the father teach it like this? Ah! So they are likely to fight directly with their father and accuse him of not educating his children like this and making them cry.
Just like the Zhang Qiang couple in the article.
However, this method is not desirable. Because the behavior of being angry with dad directly like a mother is equivalent to showing children how to solve problems.
In the future, when children encounter problems, they may also use unreasonable methods to solve them.
At the same time, doing so will make children feel uneasy.
Because if the relationship between parents is not harmonious, children will feel insecure.
Finally, the mother can't solve the problem, can't teach the child well, and can't do it well in the future.
The second attitude: mother mediation.
In fact, my mother's correct attitude should be to be a mediator.
First of all, the mother should be calm and don't let the father make the child hard and excited.
Both father and child are in high spirits now. The mother should either calm her father's emotions first, or have the conditions to let him leave first, and then bring the child to her side to calm his emotions, understand what happened, and then patiently educate him.
In fact, when children grow up, the left brain is responsible for rationality and the right brain is responsible for feelings. Children's emotional right brain is generally underdeveloped, and it is easier to lose control of emotions than adults.
Therefore, as long as the mother can become a mediator and calm the children down, the follow-up education can play its due role, so that the children's mistakes can be corrected and better progress can be made.
Simply put, there are three steps for a mother to do a good job of mediation. One is deep breathing and so on. First, calm yourself down.
The second is to temporarily isolate the father and children and let the father calm down.
Then when the child's mood is stable, you can talk to him and educate him.
Third, when educating children, we can let them know their problems in a humorous way.
In short, when the father scolds the child for crying, the mother can become a mediator, which will make the family relationship more harmonious and the child grow up healthily.
Dear Ma Bao, how do you usually handle this situation? Welcome to comment.
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