1. View on talents.

Parents' talent view refers to parents' talent values and their value orientation towards their children's success. Parents' talent values determine their value orientation and expectations for their children's success.

What kind of talent view should parents set up?

(1) The talent view of striving to be the top scholar. There have been 360 lines since ancient times, and each line is the champion. In the future society, China needs to develop both knowledge-intensive industries and labor-intensive industries. This determines the diversified demand for human resources for economic construction and social development, that is, tens of millions of professionals and hundreds of millions of high-quality workers are needed.

(2) The talent view that everyone can become a talent. Although everyone is different and has different personality, but "I was born useful", everyone has the desire to make progress, everyone has rich potential, everyone has their own intelligence and advantages, and through good education and training, everyone can become a talent and succeed.

(3) the talent view of lifelong learning. With the development of information technology, alternating activities between school and workplace will become the basic survival mode of everyone in the future society. A more flexible, convenient and independent lifelong education will pave the way for everyone to succeed. The view that "learning will benefit you for life" is out of date. The growth of talents will ultimately be achieved through the great practice of society and continuous efforts of oneself.

2. Children's perspective

Parents' view of children mainly refers to parents' understanding of the rights, status and development law of underage children. How to recognize and treat underage children involves children's values and rights, children's characteristics, forms and reasons of growth and development. On these issues, parents must establish three basic concepts:

(1) Children are human. Children are "people" rather than "things". Parents should treat and cultivate "people" as "people", respect their personality, attach importance to their wishes and needs, and communicate with them equally.

(2) The child is a minor. Children are in the process of growing up, immature in all aspects, and their psychological state and way of thinking are different from those of adults. Parents should understand that children are allowed to make mistakes and have a gradual understanding of mistakes. Forcing adults' ideas on children, making decisions instead of children, and forcing children to do what adults want will often lead to the opposite result.

(3) Children will eventually become independent people. Children are independent people, with independent personality and dignity, and will join the society independently and start their own careers. This is a process that no one can replace. Childhood life is not only a preparation for future life, but also a life of independent value, and adults should respect their lives.

3. Parenting concept.

Parents' parent-child concept refers to their understanding of their role and function in family education. On this issue, parents should realize that.

(1) Parents are children's first teachers and lifelong teachers. The family is the most important educational institution in the world, which provides education that marks people's lives. Parents give their children not only life, family atmosphere, the relationship between family members, the family's evaluation of various social things, family life habits and so on. They are also shaping their hearts all the time.

(2) Parents and children grow together. In the increasingly open growth environment, minors receive education in many directions, and they have the potential to influence the adult world. The era of adults unilaterally controlling the growth of minors has ended, and modern society is moving towards a society where two generations grow together. Of course, when adults and minors study together, we should guide them to learn to judge the value of information and prevent the corrosion of cultural waste.

(3) Family education is first and foremost the self-education of parents. Teaching by example is more important than teaching by example. Parents should first establish new educational ideas and concepts, master scientific educational methods and means, and create a democratic, equal, harmonious and relaxed educational atmosphere; At the same time, we should set an example for children's lifelong learning and constantly improve their ideological and moral cultivation and cultural and scientific cultivation.

4. Parent-child view.

Parents' parent-child view refers to their basic views on the relationship between themselves and their children. The relationship between parents and children is not only the relationship between elders and younger generations based on blood relationship, but also the relationship between educators and educatees, and they should be close friends. A large number of survey results show that the greatest hope of contemporary children for their parents is that their parents can become their friends. Parents' responsibility to their children is to care, support and guide, but don't fall into the misunderstanding of doting. Parents should pay more respect, understanding, trust and encouragement to their children's education, instead of preaching, reasoning, setting rules, and not simply asking for help.