What is tiger education?
According to Chua Meier's own definition of tiger education, she believes that "children are required to work hard along the path chosen by their parents by threats, curses, bribes and inducements". In other words, educating children can't be just guidance, and sometimes it is necessary to take some high-pressure measures against children, so that children can successfully follow the goals set by their parents under pressure and become an excellent person.
Now that eight years have passed, under this educational model, have Chua Mei-er's two daughters succeeded as they wished? It is understood that Chua Meier's eldest daughter has achieved excellent academic performance since childhood. Under the tiger education of her mother, she successfully passed Harvard University and transferred to Yale University for further study after graduation. Later, she chose to join the army according to her own wishes, and now she has obtained the rank of second lieutenant.
And the youngest daughter did not live up to her mother's expectations. Like her sister, she was successfully admitted to Harvard. It is worth mentioning that, unlike the eldest daughter, the education of the younger daughter makes Cai Meier a little nervous. Because the younger daughter is not as obedient as her sister, she often conflicts with her mother's educational methods. For her daughter's resistance, Chua Mei-er did not impose heavy punishment, but chose to reflect on her own educational methods. By constantly updating her education methods, she let her daughter accept it slowly and finally help her children grow up.
In fact, this kind of "tiger education" of Chua Meier is not uncommon in China, but it often fails to achieve the expected educational effect. So, what is the problem?
"Tiger-style education" cannot rely solely on "tigers"
When applying this educational model, many parents often only remember the "tiger" and do it regardless of the situation, which is actually very unfavorable to the growth and development of children. "Tiger-style education" needs not only tigers, but also other factors, so as to ensure that "tiger-style education" can play its role.
The focus of "tiger education" is to force children to change with high pressure. In order to make children better accept this educational model, parents should set a good example for their children. If parents can't do this on their own, then children will feel that their parents are asking too much of themselves, which will lead to resistance to the educational model.
Attach importance to parent-child relationship. We should know that "tiger education" is not only an educational model, but also a great test of parent-child relationship. If parents usually do not pay attention to the cultivation of parent-child relationship, then the implementation of this educational model is likely to lead children to question their parents' love for them, and even think that parents do these things only to achieve their own goals and think that parents are selfish.
Adjust education methods in time. When some parents adopt "tiger education", even if they find themselves feeling strong resistance from their children, they still implement it without hesitation. In the end, it will not only fail to achieve the expected educational effect, but also lead to children's dissatisfaction and disgust with their parents. Every child has a different personality. In order to ensure the educational effect, parents should adjust the educational model in time and educate their children in the most appropriate way.