The so-called teaching children before teaching others is to show outsiders: look at me, I am not used to children making mistakes, I will teach them directly. This kind of behavior is actually putting on airs for oneself, which is meaningless to children's education. First of all, this kind of behavior does not respect children and does not take care of their feelings, which will hit their self-esteem and self-confidence. Adults will feel embarrassed when they are accused in public, not to mention children in a sensitive period. Such behavior will only make children embarrassed, and they may not dare to express themselves in public in the future. I believe this is the result that many parents don't want to see. So we should remind ourselves not to show off our prestige and hurt our children. Finally, because the child is not confident, the problem of not reflecting is on himself.
Secondly, such behavior will also arouse children's rebellious psychology. After children's self-esteem is hurt, some may lick the wound silently, but some children may use relatively low-end behavior to release their dissatisfaction. Thus, the so-called children? Rebellion? Behavior is innate, because children also need an outlet to release their negative emotions. Some parents always complain that their children are disobedient and don't know that they are all caused by themselves.
Of course, such behavior will also destroy the parent-child relationship. Children will think that their parents are not the same as themselves, and they will always blame themselves when they encounter things, but they will not help themselves solve problems. In this way, children will lose trust in their parents.
From this point of view, educating children in public is really the second best policy.