There are many intergenerational family education problems around us. For example, the old people spoil their children, the two generations have different educational concepts, poor communication and many other unfavorable factors. However, if it is really impossible to avoid living with the elderly, then we must find favorable factors, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and give full play to the positive and effective role of intergenerational education. Advantages of intergenerational education: 65,438+0, and the elderly have more time. The main task of the elderly is to help look after their grandchildren. Most of their time is spent taking care of their children, and they have more time to take care of their children and accompany them than their working parents. Grandma Yingying had something to do last year and didn't live with us for about half a year. When something happened, she entrusted her neighbor to take care of her. On several occasions, because of the inconsistency of time, when my father and I both need to go to the company, Ying Ying will be taken to the company. At this time, an old man with time is especially needed to look after her. Living with the elderly has great advantages in taking care of children. 2. Old people are more patient. As the saying goes, the old people are especially close to their grandchildren. Many old people are impatient when they are young, but when they are old, they become particularly patient with their grandchildren. I think children have a special experience when they are young. Sometimes, watching Yingying cry badly makes them impatient and unable to control their emotions. However, grandma is very calm in helping her children, and feels that she is often not as patient as grandma. 3, the care of the elderly is more intimate. Because old people have time and patience, they care more about their children. I remember when grandma was not living in our house, we didn't go home until after 6 o'clock every night, and the neighbors picked up the children after school at around 4 o'clock. When we got home, Yingying ate snacks to satisfy her hunger. She didn't get the meticulous care of her grandmother, and her meal time was irregular. Soon, the child lost weight. When grandma is at home, she will make some delicious food for her children immediately after taking it home, eat it regularly, and don't have to eat some snacks that are bad for her health. She is not only considerate, but more importantly, the child's health. From this perspective, we can't guarantee that we can give our children such thoughtful care every day. Our attitude towards the elderly: 1. To be grateful and filial to the elderly, we must first clearly know that the elderly have no obligation to help us look after the children. Therefore, when the elderly help us to take care of the children and do any housework, we should all be grateful and often thank the elderly for their great help. Moreover, we should do our best to honor the elderly in the way that they like. For example, buy clothes that the elderly like, massage or beat their backs, and go out to eat with the elderly, especially thanking the elderly for their efforts. We must express our gratitude and respect to the elderly and let them know that we have always thanked them for their considerate care and love for their children. Secondly, we parents should know clearly that it is our responsibility to educate our children, not the responsibility of the elderly. I always believe that parents play a fundamental and key role in family education. Therefore, if there is anything wrong with children, don't blame the old people, but look for deficiencies from yourself. Even if the elderly have a bad influence on children, parents can correct their children's behavior deviation through their own attitudes and behaviors. Parents should have the ability to re-evaluate people and things and never shirk their educational responsibilities. If the elderly have problems, you can teach your children to accept them, but don't imitate them. This is a good education for children themselves. 3. Be good at communicating with the elderly. Finally, we need to tell ourselves that the inconsistency of educational concepts is a problem in any family, and even the parents of children are not necessarily the same, so parents need not worry about it. Parents and the elderly are two generations. Coupled with the influence of education level, there must be many inconsistent concepts and views. Remember an important principle when communicating: that is, everyone is good for the children. As long as it is good for children, the old people agree. Then you can prove the result of your idea to the elderly once or twice. When there are differences in the future, the elderly will communicate more easily and trust us more and accept our ideas. I remember that when Yingying had a fever, grandma's first reaction was to go to the hospital to give the child an injection. But I don't think it's a big deal that the child has a fever. A fever is a good thing. First, let the children have a good rest at home, and then I asked my grandmother to cook 4 beans of water for the children. Grandma is very contemptuous: will this work? And urged me to give my child medicine and injections. I told my grandmother that I understood that she was anxious for her children, but I also did it for their own good, and diet therapy was more conducive to their health. Let's see if drinking four beans and drinking Yingying can improve it, and then do the next step. Under my persuasion, grandma cooked four beans of water for her children at home. Results 1 day, the fever was gone, and it was not burned again. From then on, whenever I have a cold and cough, my grandmother will ask my advice first, give my child what to eat and drink, and will not always urge me to go to the hospital for an injection. Give full play to one's strengths effectively: 1, Positive psychological suggestion Among friends around, there are often many people complaining about how bad the old people are and how bad the intergenerational education is. In fact, if you talk too much about unfavorable factors and think too much, you will pay more attention to unfavorable aspects. The more you pay attention, the more problems you find, and the bigger the problem. This is what we often call the "black spot effect". We might as well give ourselves a positive psychological hint: intergenerational education has many very favorable factors and influences, so let us find more favorable evidence to prove our ideas. Remind us to pay attention to the advantages of intergenerational education with positive psychological hints, and you will focus more on the good aspects, gradually enlarge the highlights and find more and more benefits. 2, actively listen to the elderly, the elderly are often more nagging, because they have the need to talk. When you come home from work, you should take the initiative to provide interesting topics and listen to the old people. For example, we can ask the elderly how their children behaved in kindergarten today. When the old man picks up the children, he will ask the teacher what's new. This will meet the needs of the elderly to talk, and secondly, let us know more about the performance of children in school. When the elderly are listened to, our relationship with the elderly will be closer. Old people will think that we understand them and are willing to communicate with us. When there are differences, we will find that the elderly are more willing to listen to our suggestions. 3. Teach children to learn from the elderly. When we live with the elderly, we can educate our children to learn the good character of the elderly. Old people usually come from hard times, and now they are more simple and economical. When we educate children, we can let them learn from the hardships and simplicity of the elderly, their diligence, their patience and their humility, thus providing a very good life example for their character building. At the same time, as parents, we should also learn from the elderly, form a good family style, and continue to pass on the fine traditions. If we didn't live with the elderly, we wouldn't have such a unique family environment. We must make good use of this advantage and give our children a chance to learn more characters. 4, teach children to learn to communicate, children live with the elderly since childhood, they live in a big family. There are many family members, and everyone has different personalities. Let children learn to respect the differences of other family members, be good at listening to different suggestions, and seek common ground while reserving differences. And through the interaction between parents and the elderly, children will learn to respect and honor the elderly. We always put the elderly first, and Yingying will share her things with us. At the same time, getting along with the elderly also provides a very favorable learning environment for children to communicate with others in social life. Family members share and care for each other, and let children learn to be considerate of others, and don't be self-centered in communication. Yingying will take the initiative to say hello every time she meets an acquaintance on the road, which is also inseparable from the influence of living in a big family and active communication.