Question 2: "How do parents love their children?" Zhou saw an article written by Zhou, "How do parents love their children?" I like this article very much, so I will share it with you. This article is worth reading dozens of times, and at the same time, I will keep thinking. Zhou is too modest and vain, saying that he is not a "godson expert". A philosopher who keeps thinking about the philosophy of life and a famous writer who keeps writing about his feelings about life all say that he is not a "godson expert". Then who dares to say that he is a "godson expert"? Mr. Zhou's peace and modesty reveal the brilliance of human nature. And this article "How Parents Love Children" can be used as a model for family education. I will never be an "education expert" in my life. I told myself again and again that I was just an ordinary "educator". I can only influence more ordinary families by doing these things, and that's all. How parents love their children: Few parents don't love their children in the week, but what really loves their children is debatable. At present, the common practice is to be meticulous in material matters, tense in homework and insensitive in spirit. In my opinion. This not only does not love children, but also harms them. People who really love children will try their best to make them have a happy childhood and lay the foundation for their lifelong happiness. How to do it specifically, let me talk about my experience for reference. There are three points. First, I am willing to spend time playing games, chatting and spending time with my children, so that children can often enjoy living family ties. Second, do your best to protect the healthy growth of children's nature and intelligence. Third, pay attention to cultivating children's life wisdom and independent spirit, not to prepare a ready-made future for children, but to enable children to strive for happiness by themselves and bear the hardships necessary in future life. I am definitely not an expert in teaching children, but a father who loves children. Since love, we must do two things well, one is to make our children happy now, and the other is to make them happy in the future. Today, to achieve these two points, the key is to resist the disadvantages of the current education system and provide a small environment for children to grow up healthily as much as possible. The most important principle in getting along with children is to respect them. Fundamentally speaking, this is to regard the child as a soul, that is, an individual with his own independent personality. Moreover, children should be like this when they are very young. We can't draw a line and say how old a person's character is. In fact, this process began with the awakening of the mind, and it began to appear at the age of one or two. Loving children is an instinct, and respecting children is an education. Without education, love loses its style and only stays at the animal level. No child will go bad because he is loved too much. On the contrary, the more love you get, the better you will be. Of course, what I mean by "love" seems to need to be defined. For example, we should have a long-term vision and correct methods. But no matter how it is defined, the basic connotation is beyond doubt, that is, a kind of care, love, encouragement, appreciation, understanding and respect that pours all feelings. As long as this is the case, you can't love too much and you won't spoil your child. How hard life is when you have no children, you can bear it. Having a baby is different. Parents always want to strive for better living conditions for their children. No matter how lofty a person is, he can't avoid customs at this point. I think this is also the most understandable. People in China always teach their children to be "good" children and use this word when praising them. "Cute" has two meanings, one is docile, that is, docile and obedient, and the other is clever and alert. It is more comprehensive to unify these two meanings. However, these two meanings can be understood in a bad way. For example, being obedient means following the rules, and being smart means observing words and deeds. The combination of the two is annoying. After careful analysis, the really cute and encouraging "good" of children actually contains three factors. One is understanding, that is, understanding, caring and observing the feelings of others. This is compassion and kindness. The second is to be reasonable, that is, to be reasonable and understand reason. This is understanding and wisdom. Third, on the basis of understanding, we can restrain our unreasonable desires, which is self-control and temperance. Therefore, "goodness" should be a comprehensive reflection of three positive qualities: kindness, intelligence and temperance. If these qualities are extracted, only children are required to obey blindly, and the children trained are not good children who are reasonable, but stupid children who are obedient and even bad children who obey everything. Parent-child love is a classroom of love, not only for children, but also for parents. Hegel said: "A mother loves her husband through her love for her children ... >>"
Question 3: Is it really simple for parents to love their children? Love your child with your heart, cultivate your child's self-care ability and self-discipline ability, let your child learn to communicate, know how to share, and grow up silently with her.
Question 4: How can parents love their children? Children are the hope of the whole family. Everyone will love their children, but love is not a simple problem. Many people may ask, "Who doesn't love children?" In fact, loving children is very particular.
Is love unconditional?
The education of love exists between parents and children in the family and between teachers and students in the school. The education of love transcends the form of imparting knowledge and controlling people's behavior in general education, and is a comprehensive personality education for people who influence and inspire people.
As far as the object of love and the character of the child are concerned, there is no condition for loving the child; From the perspective of educational methods, it is conditional to regard love as a method or means of education. The child did what he could, thus gaining the love of his parents. Only in this way can they have educational significance and let children experience the true meaning and value of love. For example, it is unreasonable to ask a child with medium qualifications to be among the best in school, which has no positive significance except alienating parent-child relationship. It's reasonable to ask 10-year-old children to finish their homework in time after school every day, otherwise they won't agree to his request to go to the movies on weekends.
Learn to understand children.
Primary school is the best time to cultivate children's study habits and interests, while middle school belongs to the rebellious period of youth, so we should pay attention to the cultivation of children's two-way ability and communication ability. Middle school is the second peak of children's human development, not only in height and weight, but also in the obvious changes of secondary sexual characteristics, such as boys' long body hair, voice change and nocturnal emission, while girls' * * * begins to bulge, their skin becomes delicate, menstrual cramps and acne appear. With the change of physiology, its psychological characteristics have also changed slowly, and it has a strong tendency of independence and its self-awareness has developed rapidly. Emotions and emotions may become impatient and have poor control; Thinking development is close to the adult level; Eager to know about sexual knowledge, curious and admiring to the opposite sex, doing well in front of the opposite sex but at a loss. At this time, they also have many unspeakable troubles: they pay attention to their appearance and like to look in the mirror; Full of fantasy, daydreaming; Start * * *; How to deal with different * * *; What if you don't study well?
Help children succeed.
Successful experience can cultivate a child's self-esteem and self-confidence. If success exceeds failure, he will develop a diligent and enterprising character, dare to face difficult challenges and continue to pursue future success. On the contrary, there are more failures than successes. Even if he fails, he will inevitably develop a self-deprecating and self-abased character and dare not face the practical difficulties in life. Parents should appropriately lower their requirements and provide appropriate help so that their children can learn the attitude of pursuing success from failure.
Always full of expectations for children.
Parents should not give up their children under any circumstances. Children are different. Our children are different in birth, gender, appearance, height and weight. In fact, children are born with many differences, including congenital nerves, brain types and temperament differences. According to Piaget's cognitive development theory, children's cognitive development has stages and universality, and the growth rate of cognitive development stages is inconsistent. Teaching students in accordance with their aptitude can make every child successful, and parents should always be full of expectations for their children.
Question 5: Parents' love for their children is 10.
The love of parents is the greatest love between heaven and earth. Since we were born in this world, our parents have always loved us. Parental love is a natural love for children. Like rain from the sky, but it can't be resisted. The greatest, oldest, most primitive, greatest and most wonderful power that can sustain life is the love of our parents.
The ancients said, "The thread in the hands of a loving mother makes clothes for wayward children. Before leaving, I had a stitch for fear that my son would come back late and his clothes would be damaged. However, an inch of long grass is a bit sentimental, and it is rewarded with three spring rays. " Motherly love is like the bright sunshine in spring, which brings me warmth and light; Mother's love is like a steady and calm umbrella in the strong wind, sheltering me from the wind and rain; Motherly love always helps me when I am in trouble and gives me motivation. That kind of continuous love like silk has become my strong backing, which makes me feel empty all the time.
And fatherly love is profound and informal. Father's love always gives me correct guidance when I make mistakes; When I encounter problems, my father's love always gives me the right guidance ... If my mother's love is as deep as water, then my father's love is as heavy as a mountain.
Speaking of my parents, my heart is full of infinite gratitude. My parents have paid a lot for my growth. How can I repay this kindness?
My parents taught me how to do things and be a man since I was a child. They told me the story of the 25,000-mile Long March, Zhou Enlai and Lei Feng, and the bombing of the bunker in Dong Cunrui ... They told me to be cautious, be sincere to others, not lie, learn to be tolerant, learn to respect the old and love the young, know how to repay the kindness, and know how to get something for nothing. ...
What's all this for? I used to naively think that it was natural for parents to take care of their children. Looking back now, what a great spirit this is. Sometimes, I always wonder what kind of power drives them. I don't understand, but it may be a kind of responsibility, a kind of love for children, selflessness or love, but there is no doubt that they are really good to us and take care of us carefully. Take every day as an example!
Every morning, my mother cooks breakfast for me, every noon, she cooks lunch for me, and in the evening, she cooks dinner for me, but every time she eats, she is still working. When I was studying at night, my father came to tutor me again and taught me to do every problem carefully and not carelessly. My parents educate me every day for me.
Such a day constitutes a happy us. Every day like this is ordinary and extraordinary. Every day is a small thing, but it is a big thing. In the face of parents' kindness, I should turn gratitude into filial piety. Let us all take care of our parents!
Parental love
In this world, who hasn't bathed in their parents' love and who hasn't experienced their parents' care? Still think of me all the time and care about my parents.
Strict father is the best description of my father. He is very strict with my study and life. He made me a timetable and urged me to finish my homework carefully. Besides, my father often lets me read some extra-curricular books to let me know about the scientific knowledge outside the textbooks. Therefore, my playing time is greatly reduced. Sometimes, other parents ask me, "Is your father strict with you?" Naive, I nodded hard to show that "it's particularly powerful, not just ordinary!" "Now every time I come to the first and second place in my class after every exam, I gradually understand that my father did all this for my own good. For this, I really appreciate him!
My mother is a typical "loving mother". She is very concerned about my food, clothing, housing and transportation, and always takes care of me in every way. In order to make me eat well, she racked her brains to cook delicious food to satisfy my appetite. Every weekend, she can't rest, so she starts washing my dirty clothes and puts clean clothes on my bedside the next morning. Especially when I was sick, my mother poured water and handed medicine, and came to see if my quilt cover was not covered in the middle of the night. ...
Now, although my parents and I are in two countries, when I read in their letters, "Is everything all right to study?" The familiar and gentle tone of "remember to wear more clothes" came from the phone, and I immediately felt their concern and love for me. Indeed, parents' love is like air, invisible and intangible, but I feel it all the time.
Parental love
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Question 6: What should parents do to truly love their children? Be a parent who really loves children. Mr. Chen Heqin, a famous educator, suggested that all children can do it by themselves. He should be allowed to do it by himself. However, in reality, there are often scenes like this: children go to school and parents help carry their schoolbags; The child's shoes were loose, so the parents helped to fasten them. . . . . . Parents who do this do not love their children, but harm them, because they unconsciously deprive them of the opportunity to grow up independently. To make matters worse, this kind of "arranged substitution" may also make children have their own incompetent and stupid ideas, which will lead to children's lack of self-confidence and indirectly cause serious harm to their growth. 1, don't be too protective of children. Parents who protect their children too much often hinder their normal physical and mental development, making them timid, dependent and neurotic, afraid to try anything and not easy to get close to others. Therefore, children should try and practice everything they can. 2. Provide an independent space for children. Parents should provide their children with an independent space and let them have their own desks, chairs and cabinets. It helps children develop the habit of independently controlling personal belongings from an early age. For example, school supplies such as crayons and rulers are put in drawers, toys are put in toy boxes and books are put in small bookcases. If you mess them up, tidy them up yourself. When dealing with these things, children will unconsciously develop an independent personality. 3. Let the children do some housework within their power. 4. Guide children to find their own answers. Children ask questions, which is the performance of children's intelligence, activity and independent thinking. This time is also the best time to inspire children's wisdom. Parents should make good use of it. Parents should not come clean when children ask questions. You just need to introduce the children. As for the conclusion, let him find it himself. Driven by curiosity and inspired by you, I believe the child will find a satisfactory answer. 5, patience, don't think that some parents think that their children are slow to respond, and do it for them if they can't do it well. When children want to express their views, parents say all the things that children have not understood for a long time. The result of this impatient listening will interfere with the child's creative thinking and make him become silent and dependent. You know, children's independence depends not only on the maturity of physical and mental development, but also on the acquired learning. Therefore, parents must be patient and never rush to deprive their children of the opportunity to learn.
Question 7: How do parents love their children? Some time ago, I read an article called "How to Love Children", which talked about the various ways in which parents love their children during their growth. Most children nowadays are only children. Children are bullies, emperors and princesses at home. Parents regard their children as the apple of their eye. Children are the little sun of the family, and the love for children is endless. Children need the love of their parents. However, there are certain ways and means to love children, instead of blindly doting and doing everything, not giving children the opportunity to experience all kinds of hardships and exercise, or even letting them do what they can.
In the mind of these spoiled children, they think that all good things should belong to him and everything should be done for him by their parents. Parents also believe that only in this way can children grow up happily. However, I didn't realize that doting on children like this is harmful to children, and children can't face setbacks and adapt to complex society in the future. Parents' love is the noblest and most selfless, but if it is not appropriate, this "sweet love" will only bear bitter fruit in the end.
On the contrary, if the child is very young, parents will cultivate his own ability to solve things, let the child do what he can, and carry out more frustration education, so that the child can get the exercise he deserves in life from an early age.
I hope all the babies in the world can grow up with healthy love from childhood.
Question 8: Why do parents love their children so much? Whether human or other mammals, parents almost always protect their children. I think this is an instinct. Personally, I think this is the result of long-term evolution. Imagine that it is difficult for a newborn baby to live healthily without the protection of his parents. Then, such species will either find another way out or become extinct.
Many people are flaunting how great their parents' love is. I don't object, but I don't think this kind of love is subjective. It is instinctive for parents to pay or even sacrifice for their children, because many times parents are happy in the process of loving their children. Otherwise, I believe that natural selection has eliminated us before moral constraints.
Speaking of moral restraint, I would like to add one more sentence: honor your parents. I don't think filial piety to parents is human instinct, and it is not good for evolution. Listen carefully, I'm not saying it's not good to honor your parents. The purpose of natural selection is to eliminate the weak who are not adapted to the environment. Whether humans or other mammals are old, they will become weak. If we don't destroy them at this time, it will drag down the population. Morality comes from longing for life, and no one wants to die early. Therefore, with moral constraints, it is natural to be filial to parents. If there is no moral person, let him choose between parents and children. On the contrary, I believe they will all choose their own children.