I used to think it was better for my mother to take care of the children, but now I have to correct my own ideas. In fact, I am not obsessed with who takes care of the children, but what kind of people take care of the children.
I met a student's grandmother yesterday. I haven't seen her for a long time, and I talked a lot with her. This grandmother was a middle school English teacher before she retired, and she brought up her little granddaughter from an early age. This is also a family with a story. The child's mother divorced because of an affair.
She didn't want children, so she threw them to her father, who was busy at work and threw them to her grandmother. So grandma is both a father and a mother, pulling the child up to now. We should not only take care of children's lives, but also take care of their studies.
However, grandma's efforts were not in vain. The little girl is currently in Grade 2, with good grades and cheerful personality. Grandma told me that it should be no problem to sprint key high schools.
There is also an old grandmother in our village, and the education of children is also in place. The little girl not only looks relaxed, but also smiles at people, which is extremely sweet.
Once she came to our house to play, I gave her a box of milk. Her expression told me that she really wanted to drink, but she said, thank you, aunt, I don't drink. I drank it at home.
Her grandmother secretly told me that it was her rule not to accept gifts from others, even a piece of candy. If you get into the habit of eating when you go to someone else's house, you will be miserable in the future.
The little girl's mother has no time to take care of her because she gave birth to a second child, so she lives at her grandmother's house, and her mother comes once a week. So all her behavior habits are influenced by her grandmother.
These are all examples around me. The child was brought up by grandma. Not only is it not crooked, but also has good behavior habits, which is worth learning as a novice mother.
Therefore, I think that taking care of children should not only look at identity, but also at the suitability of this person. I personally summed up some characteristics of people who are suitable for taking care of children, which are purely shared and have no intention of attacking anyone.
I saw a news on the internet that a poor family gave birth to several children and then looked forward to the harvest. They think that even if one of them is promising, the whole family will succeed.
The majority of netizens expressed silence, and so did I. I think the purpose of having children should be very simple. We love children, we hope that the new life will bring vitality and vigor to a family, and we have a spiritual pillar ourselves.
Only those who love children unconditionally can take good care of them. Such people will not complain in front of their children, nor will they ask them to repay when they grow up. I only hope that children can grow up healthily and happily.
Some mothers should know that when a child is about 2 years old, there is a terrible two-year-old, which is a terrible two-year-old when the child enters a rebellious period. Anyway, I just love to go against my parents, all kinds of hooligans, go out to play and attack others.
If you meet children of similar age in the playground, it is likely that the two will fight. At this time, some parents will start to protect their calves. Some parents can play and go to hot search.
So I think people with children must have a stable mood. The child is still young, and the various functions of controlling emotions have not yet matured. We adults should have patience and love and accompany him to solve problems, instead of adding fuel to the fire when the child is angry.
In addition, children are good at absorption, and we adults will remember our behavior. If adults are broad-minded, children will follow suit.
There is a little girl behind my house who cries 10 times a day. What is more exaggerated is that I feel distressed when I live in front of her, almost from morning till night.
Once, my neighbor asked my mother why my child didn't cry. My mother said that children's needs are met, so naturally they won't cry.
I am in poor health. Recently, my mother helped me with my children. In order to take care of my baby, she downloaded a parenting mobile phone application and took time to study every day.
She said that times are different, we can't take care of children in the old way, and now we pay attention to scientific parenting.
For example, one day my mother laughed at me and said, there is a kind of cold that makes my mother think you are cold! I didn't expect my mother to be quite fashionable. She actually knew this popular sentence on the internet and adapted it.
What is usually said on the Internet is: There is a kind of coldness that makes your grandmother feel that you are cold.
Because I wanted to put on an extra dress for my child that day, my mother was particularly opposed. She said, "If you want your children to be safe, you have to be hungry and cold. Only 10 months, what about winter? "
So don't underestimate grandma or grandma who loves to learn. I really have to admire their seriousness.
Emotional factors are definitely the most important. Under the same emotional factors, if people with children have academic qualifications and ability, I think it is also great. There is not much difference between young people, but there is a big gap between grandparents.
Just like my student's grandmother, she is an English teacher herself. She has taught all her life. It is said that the child's grandfather used to be the principal of a primary school, so there is nothing wrong with taking care of the baby.
They have seen too many children in their lives, both good and bad, and have more educational experience than us novice mothers. So if the mother has to go to work and can't take care of the children by herself, it's not bad to give them to such grandparents.
This is mainly because I recently read some news about the abuse of children by biological parents, and then share it with real cases around me.
In my opinion, it really doesn't matter whether mom or grandma brings it. The most important thing is some characteristics of people who take care of children.
Love is the foundation, and everything else is a plus. Without love, everything behind is bullshit.
In fact, there are not many real left-behind children around me. Most of them are brought by grandma and mom, grandma takes them during the day and mom takes them at night.
Women are the main force to take care of children, and men are substitutes. But now people's ideological consciousness has really improved. Many dads around me love to take care of their children, go home from work to play with their babies and bathe them.
For example, my husband, when he comes home from work every day, tries to take care of the children, play with them, feed them, then bathe them and wash their clothes after bathing.
He is willing to pay for his children, and these are all he has to do. He said that he felt very happy to do so.